Wondering how to eat a girl out? Did your lover ask you for cunnilingus, but you don’t even know where to start? Maybe you do have some idea, but you want to make sure you’re doing it right?
Whichever your situation, this is the guide for you. We’ll cover the anatomy of her pleasure spots plus the best positions to get her off with oral sex.
When Miranda from Sex and the City was upset because her date couldn’t find her clitoris, she complains, “What’s the mystery? It’s my clitoris, not the sphinx!”
Well, the heroine from “Sex and the City” was definitely right to be upset. The clitoris is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones of the female body. Often, it represents a woman’s main source of sexual pleasure.
This tiny organ is on the upper part of the vulva, where the vaginal lips meet. Its external part, called “glans,” is about the size of a pea in most women. Like the male glans, it’s protected by a fold of skin, called the “hood”.
According to Planned Parenthood, “for some people, the clitoris is easily visible and accessible, and for others, it’s really hidden under the hood--everyone’s vulva is unique.” For this reason, you may need to make several attempts to find it.
Recently, the researchers found out that the clitoris has an internal part as well. It extends for about 5 inches inside a woman’s vagina, on both sides. Some doctors think that there could be a correlation between the internal part of the clitoris and the G-spot.
It’s interesting to note that this organ has no purpose other than sexual pleasure. It’s not involved in reproduction like the vagina, but it has more than 8,000 nerve endings. That’s almost the double of the nerve endings you have in your penis!
Not all women respond to clitoral stimulation in the same way. While some find that directly touching their sweet spot is too intense, others enjoy having it rubbed or licked. Try massaging her clit with gentle circular movements using a lubricated finger, then increase the intensity based on her reactions.
That said, great cunnilingus doesn’t have to focus solely on the clitoris. There are many other erogenous zones down there, like the vaginal opening and the labia. To discover which ones your girlfriend prefers, simply experiment with gentle strokes on all of them!
Once you’ve figured out what she likes and dislikes, you’re on the right track to give her great oral sex.
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Here are some tips to bring your cunnilingus skills to the next level:
When you’ve been licking your partner’s sweet spots for a while, it’s normal to feel tired. Don’t be afraid to pause for a bit and using your fingers instead of your mouth.
Just make sure that her vulva is lubricated enough. Use a quality silicone-based lube that won’t dry up during your sexy exploits. You can find one easily at your local drugstore or online.
You can gently brush her clitoris with your hand or insert your fingers inside her vagina. Try bending your fingers inside her as if you wanted to say “come hither” for better G-spot stimulation.
To get your girlfriend ready for oral, you need to engage in a little foreplay. Don’t start immediately stimulating her clit as soon as she gets naked. Instead, gently kiss the nearby areas first, like her inner thighs and pubic mound.
This move may sound counter-intuitive, but it helps you to build sexual tension and arousal. Remember that women need more time to get turned on than men do. The more you tease her before the main event, the more pleasure she’ll get out of it.
Unfortunately, you can catch an STI even while eating a girl out. Some infections may be transmitted from the woman’s genitals to the partner’s mouth and throat. They can be difficult to diagnose since they often show no symptoms or just a sore throat.
Luckily, there are dental dams that make practicing safe sex easier. They’re small sheets made from the same material as condoms. You can find them in ultra-thin latex or soft polyurethane. They also come in different flavors and colors.
You simply have to put the dental dam over your partner’s vulva before any contact between her genitals and your mouth.
The most important ingredient for great cunnilingus is communication. Let her know that she can take the lead, telling you exactly how she wants you to pleasure her.
Don’t be judgemental, and avoid taking it personally if she says that you should do something differently. As we previously said, every vulva is unique, and not all women react to the same kind of stimulation in the same way.
You could ask her if she prefers a sensation or another, i.e., brushing or tapping on her clit. This will encourage her to speak up without making you sound insecure. You can also pay close attention to her reactions. Moaning, heavy breaths and gripping the sheets usually indicate that she’s enjoying herself.
Not only your tongue! For a woman, it can be pleasurable to grind and rub her clitoris against your face. Women tend to do this especially when they’re going to orgasm. Encourage her to do it, without feeling shy!
You can also use your nose to stimulate her sweet spots. For example, you can brush it against her clit while your mouth focuses on her vaginal opening or lips.
Lastly, she can hold your head to direct the action where she craves it the most. The more often she does it, the better you’ll learn what moves get her off!
Some women have been taught since a young age that their genitals are “dirty.” As a consequence, they can be embarrassed about a guy burying his nose between their legs.
If this is the case for your girlfriend, show her that you love what she has down there! Telling her that you adore going down on her can be a huge turn on. It will make her feel sexier and more enthusiastic.
She doesn’t have to be the only one moaning while you eat her out. Instead, let her know that you’re aroused by making sounds while you’re busy down there.
Who said that you should always give her oral in the same way? In reality, learning how to eat a girl out in different positions makes things even more arousing. Here are our favorite Kamasutra poses for cunnilingus:
This old favorite puts the pressure off the woman if she doesn’t like being the center of attention. Lie back as she climbs on top of you with her vulva facing you and your penis facing her. Then you can enjoy the wonders of oral sex together.
Have her get on all fours, with her back slightly arched to expose her vulva. This position is not only great for intercourse, but it can also make oral sex more fun.
As you lie on your back, have her literally sit on your face, obviously without putting her entire weight on your face. This position lets her be in charge of her own pleasure, which is a big turn on for many women.
Have your girlfriend sit on a chair and kneel in front of her, ready to stimulate her sweet spots. This way, she can relax while you have full access to her sensitive spots.
This classic sex position is very probably the first one that comes to mind when talking about cunnilingus. The woman lies on her back, while you place your head between her thighs.
Lie on the bed with your head dangling off the edge. Have her stand with your head between her legs as she eases down onto your face. If she feels like it, she can also give you a handjob.
While she’s standing, kneel behind her and have her bend over slightly to give you access to her vulva. This is the perfect position if you also want to try stimulating her anus with her mouth.
If there’s a big height difference between you and your lover, you may find it helpful to have her wear high heels.
As you can see, learning how to eat a girl out is not that difficult. With open communication and a good knowledge of the female anatomy, you’ll be able to give her a mind-blowing orgasm every time you go down on her!