As the largest port in South Africa, Durban has long been a city of comers and goers. The official population is just over 3 million people, and the influx of visitors always makes the city feel bigger. That’s a bonus when you’re looking for Durban hookups and want to meet someone new.
From Ocean View to Blue Lagoon – and everywhere in between – there are great places to meet people. The bar scene is energetic and the nightlife has something for everyone. Unfortunately, not every bar is a winner. You have to suss out the right spots. That’s just as true if you’re searching online with Durban hookup sites and apps. Download a cruddy app and you’ll feel like you’re out in Wartburg.
Whether you’re studying at the University of KwaZulu-Natal or you’ve been working for decades, getting laid shouldn’t be a struggle. We’re here to make sure that’s true. With the help of local experts, we’ve compiled this list of the best Durban hookup apps, sites and bars. These are the popular bars and digital tools that get results.
Keep reading for all our top suggestions. Then comment below to let us know which ones worked for you.
There’s always someone out there looking for a casual sexual encounter. Check out these Durban hookup apps, sites and bars to make quick and uncomplicated connections.
Located on Mahatma Gandhi Road at the water’s edge, The Chairman is not just a bar - it is an experience. This jazz bar puts as much attention into their exquisite cocktails as they do into the atmosphere and décor. It really feels like they’ve left nothing to chance. The details are as perfect as your night out is going to be.
Whether you’re bringing a date or simply hoping for a casual connection, The Chairman will be your wingman. The live music adds a sultry ambiance to the lounge without overpowering the room. You can still talk and get to know someone without yelling at each other. Order your cocktails, snag a leather couch or a couple of plush chairs and luxuriate in the sexy intimacy.
For quite a few years now, we’ve been putting together an annual list of the best hookup apps and sites. Every year, there are some new apps that pop up on our radar. A few stick around, but most disappear before ever getting much publicity. But one website not only sticks around; it continuously ranks above almost all of the competition: Adult FriendFinder.
Since it launched in the 90s, AFF has proven to have remarkable longevity and relevance. It’s been the most well-established hookup site in Durban and cities across the world for over a decade. Its browser experience on a phone is just as good as on a computer, and better than most apps. It also has an intricate search function that allows searches by location, kink or even cup size, among other categories.
Of course, all the well-made designs in the world would mean nothing without a strong user base. With over 90 million users around the globe, AFF definitely bests the competition. More importantly, though, those users represent a diverse range of looks and ages. Whereas newer apps only focus on the 20-something crowd, AFF has loads of users in their 30s (and older). It’s a place where, even if you don’t have model looks, you can get laid.
There are a lot of options out there to try but nothing we've found more reliably helps guys find single women to hookup with.
Have you grown frustrated by apps that only focus on how attractive you are or make hookups complicated? Looking for a site for regular people that’s exclusively focused on casual sex? Try Adult FriendFinder and put away all those other Durban hookup sites and apps. You’ll immediately know why so many users only use this site.
Sometimes, the best way to change your sexual fortunes is to change the scenery. You can do just that at the Cuba Lounge at Moses Mabhida Stadium. With its Caribbean décor, creative island-inspired cocktails and excellent service, this lounge is an ideal night out. It’s also a breath of fresh air amid the many dull and cookie-cutter Durban hookup bars.
The moment you walk into the Cuba Lounge, you’ll know that you’ve entered somewhere special. The owners have clearly taken care to create a space that’s fun, colourful and altogether sensual. Come alone or bring a date; you’ll be rewarded with a night of Cuban-flavoured bliss. It’s the perfect way to get away without going away.
The appeal of an older woman is in her confidence, experience and sexual know-how. Also, as we’ve gotten older ourselves, we’ve noticed that women are just as sexy with a few years on them. It’s why so many men are ditching the 20-year-old girls for women 35 and up. And the easiest way to meet these women of a certain age is with Cougar Life.
Cougar Life is dedicated to helping men meet women in their mid-30s and up. While it’s focused on helping younger men meet older women, it’s just as good for men of all ages. There’s no age limit on wanting amazing sex. It’s a much easier method for meeting experienced lovers than sitting at a bar working up the nerve to approach.
It’s exactly because it’s so easy that so many women lover Cougar Life. Women over 35 don’t have extra time to waste waiting in bars. Sure, they can make the first move, but there’s never any certainty the man will respond how they like. So many people are still weirdly judgmental about a sexually aggressive, older woman. That’s why these women get on Cougar Life - where everyone is after exactly the same thing.
As a result, Cougar Life has over seven million users spread out in cities all over the world. That makes it not only the largest app of its kind, but the highest-quality one too. Our annual review of cougar apps and sites consistently finds it to be popular all over, not just in Durban. Try it now and you’ll be able to find someone looking to hook up tonight. You’ll also be alerted when someone looks at your profile. You see what we mean by easy?
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We love them, but we admit it: cocktail lounges and pubs can be crowded, loud and, worst of all, expensive. When the bar scene gets old, it’s nice to have an alternative for meeting someone. That’s where coffee houses and cafés come into the picture. These casual and cosy little shops are ideal for dates, chance encounters and intimate afternoons.
There are a number of good coffee houses in Durban, but we really enjoy The Coffee Tree at Daventry Gardens. In addition to its fine coffee and espresso, the café food and snacks are tasty and varied. The next time you’re looking for a place to meet a potential hookup, think coffee instead of cocktails.
The next time you’re looking for Durban hookups, take advantage of the nearly 365 days of sun we enjoy here. Head over to Panorama Bar and Pool Deck at the Southern Sun Elangeni & Maharani hotel. With poolside seating and an extensive cocktail menu, Panorama is the sunniest way to spend a day or night out and can be a prime location to find others interested in a little casual sex.
Of course, the real draw of Panorama (and source of its name) are the views. When you live in a city as picturesque as Durban, why would you lock yourself in a windowless bar? Especially when some of the city’s most beautiful single ladies are sunning themselves by the pool. Get yourself a champagne cocktail at Panorama and make a move.
There’s plenty of sex to go around in this city. If you haven’t found your perfect location for Durban hookups yet, keep on reading.
For a young and hip crowd, we highly recommend Unity Bar & Brasserie at Silvervause Centre. This forward-thinking bar is committed to sustainability and earth-friendly policies. That means food made from locally grown, high-quality ingredients. Don’t be fooled though: these earthy folks still know how to make a fantastic cocktail.
With its focus on local craft beers and sustainable food sources, it’s obvious why Unity appeals to a young crowd. Whether you’re young or just young at heart, it’s a fine bar for meeting energized new friends. The great thing about a young crowd is they’re up for anything. Bring your A-game and find yourself an organically sexy partner for the night.
If you’re studying at DUT, you’ve heard plenty about Tinder. It’s the hookup app of choice for all college coeds and has been for nearly a decade. After it launched in 2012, Tinder immediately became a sensation with the sexiest Millennials across the world. Since then, the user base has remained young and attractive.
Many of the original adopters of Tinder have turned on the app in recent years. That’s because it’s very easy to age out of it. This once-reliable source for easy, sexy Durban hookups starts to dry up once you hit your 30s. The unofficial age range for Tinder is 18-28, which is why it remains an obsession on college campuses.
With its focus on profile pictures over lengthy bios, Tinder is all about shallow first impressions. If you’re a man and not in the upper 15% of looks, you’ll be facing some lonely swiping. Likewise, for women, the most matches happen for those in the top 50%. If you can’t take a pretty picture, you might get some matches, but it won’t be the deluge some get. In fact, the hottest women on Tinder rarely reply to messages. They’re so overwhelmed with matches, they satisfy themselves with the ego boost and move on.
Tinder’s success has led the creators into trying to break into the dating and relationship market. We’re sure they will have some success there, but it seems unnecessary. As long as you’re very attractive, you don’t need to waste your time with any other Durban hookup apps.
Most bars draw you in with hip decorations or great drink specials (or loud TVs blasting the game). The Hops Sports Bar atop the Riverside Hotel wants to draw you out. Outside, that is. Though they have plenty of TVs, the real reason to stop by is their outdoor beer garden. Is there anything better than day drinking until you’re night drinking?
The beer garden is such a great alternative to all the usual Durban hookup bars. For one, it’s a wide-open, fun gathering place where a lot of different people come together. Secondly, you still have the benefit of drinking, but you don’t have to do it inside a pub. With its variety of local entertainment, like bands and comedians, Hops is a great way to spend the day.
Durban has a lot to enjoy, but most people would argue the city’s best asset is the waterfront. It’s hard to argue with that when you’re checking out the views from The Lighthouse Bar. Located in the Oyster Box Hotel in Umhlanga, this bar offers 180 degrees of our immaculate coastline. The Indian Ocean has never looked more impressive.
Admittedly, The Lighthouse Bar is a bit of a tourist trap, especially since it's part of a hotel. But you know what? There’s nothing wrong with tourists. Certainly not when you’re looking for a fast, uncomplicated hookup. Hang out at the bar and enjoy an Umhlanga Schling while waiting to see what talent arrives. The views will make the wait well worth it.
To master the art of hooking up is to understand that wherever you are, someone wants sex. The fancy bars and elaborate cocktails are handy and make the night out fun. They aren’t the most important factor, though. No, when you’re on the hunt for Durban hookups, the location is secondary. You can make a connection at a grocery store if you’re good enough.
Which is exactly why we’re always paying attention when we’re at SPAR. The St. George’s location is constantly ebbing and flowing with attractive strangers. While it’s a very different environment than a bar, it’s the same game. Make eye contact, initiate a conversation and turn on the charm. If she’s into it, then you’ve suddenly got a lot more fun ahead of you than errands.
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