44 Dating Experts Share Their #1 Tips For Dating Older Women


Learn about dating older women like thisIf you are a man interested in dating older women you need to take a different approach than you have in the past. There are some important differences, both large and small, that you need to know and we have enlisted a panel of 44 dating and relationship experts to help make you more successful!

If you read through the incredible advice below you are bound to pick up at least a few things that will improve your chances. Take a look and then get out there and put it to use!

Top Tips For Dating Older Women

What the experts say as their top advice when meeting and dating older women:

1. Get your priorities straight

Scot Mckay profileScot McKay - DeserveWhatYouWant.com


Make sure neither one of you is in the relationship specifically because of the other’s age. Otherwise, the priorities may be off, unless both of you are only about a quick fling.Scot McKay
Scot is one of the most recognized and effective dating coaches to both men and women on the global stage. Now a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, over 400 media outlets have consulted him, including ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, BBC, MTV, Lifetime, Men’s Health and The Wall Street Journal.

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2. Her values are not the same as a younger woman

Cheyenne Bostock profileCheyenne Bostock - AskCheyb.com


The secret to a successful relationship with an older woman is the same with a younger woman. Be gentle, be kind, be fun and be loving.

When dating an older woman, know that her values are not the same as a younger woman. While sex is important, it won’t be her priority. The solution in this scenario is to invest more time in romance and intimacy, which will get her in the mood for sex more often.Cheyenne Bostock

Cheyenne Bostock is a Life & Relationship Expert and Motivational Speaker best known for his straight-shooting relationship advice and transformational coaching strategies that have helped him go from homeless to success and has impacted the lives of many individuals who are on the path from homeless to success.

He is the author of two self-help books and writer for The Huffington Post and Inc Magazine, a regular contributing expert on The Bill Cunningham Show.

3. Don't waste their time

Lucia profileLucia - HowToCatchACougar.net


Older women are interested in younger men, not younger boys.  They want a man who is mature and confident.  They know if a man is being dishonest or playing games. They don’t want to waste their time, so they won’t hesitate to move on sooner rather than later.Lucia
Lucia is a dating/relationship expert specializing in Cougar relationships, author of “Lucia’s Lessons of Love”, former host of “The Art of Love” on L.A. Talk Radio and a keynote speaker.

She has appeared on over 100 national and international TV and radio shows including Dr. Phil, The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, 60 Minutes Australia, The CBS Early Show, ABC 7 News, Good Day L.A and the KTLA News who called her “The Queen of The Cougar Jungle”.

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4. Don't try to outmatch older men when dating older women

Kezia Noble ProfileKezia Noble - Kezia-Noble.com


Never play the same game as the more mature man. Often younger guys try to outmatch the older guy, by pretending to be more experienced, worldly, wisely and even successful than he is. This is not what an older woman wants from a younger guy. She wants a man who is excited about life rather than jaded, positive rather than cynical, impulsive rather than cautious.

You need to show her how desirable you think she is as this is what older women hear less often the older they get. There’s no point in trying to intellectually stimulate her or have deep and meaningful conversations with her, because she can get that from men her own age. She is looking for someone who can give her the thrill and experience that men used to provide her before everything became so predicable and dull.Kezia Noble

Dating and attraction expert for men. Kezia has helped over 80,000 men get real results with women.

5. Genuinely make her feel like she's still got it

Dan Bacon profileDan Bacon - TheModernMan.com


As a woman ages into her 30s, 40s and 50s, her physical appearance will no longer look the same as she did when she was in her 20s. This may begin to eat away at the confidence that she has in her sex appeal.

If a man is genuinely attracted to an older woman, he must ensure that he doesn’t hold back from showing his sexual attraction for her. Be confident and sincere when you say to her, “Wow, you look sexy today” rather than hiding your attraction and saying, “Oh, you look nice today.”Dan Bacon

Dan Bacon is a dating and relationship expert who helps men succeed with women. He teaches men how to naturally attract women to get a girlfriend, as well as how to deepen a woman’s attraction, respect and love when in a relationship.

6. Enjoy being younger around them

Marni profileMarni Kinrys - WingGirlMethod.com


The thing that older women like about younger men is their youth, excitement for life and energy level 😉 So my advice to men wanting to date older women is to enjoy being younger around them because that is what will attract them. Show your youth and remind her of what it was like to be young, carefree and with someone that doesn’t konk out at 9pm with giving her an orgasm 😉Marni Kinrys
Marni teaches men how to understand women so they can attract, date & GET any woman they want. Coach, TV & Radio Personality & Best Selling Author of Get Inside Her

7. Give her the space she needs

James Preece profileJames Preece - JamesPreece.com


If you want to have a successful relationship with an older woman then you must remember to give her the space she needs. She’ll be independent with her own routines, interests and friends. So she won’t need to be with you all the time in the same way a younger woman might.

Be respectful of her wishes and you’ll appreciate the time you spend much more.James Preece

James Preece is the UK’s leading Dating Coach. He has clients all over the world and is the author of 8 best selling dating books, including the Amazon Number One best seller Online Dating Guide “I will Make You Click!”

8. While you may be tempted to only text, don’t...

Claudia Cox profileClaudia Cox - TextWeapon.com


Dating an older woman can be a fantastic experience, but don’t forget that texting is an area where you need to know what you’re doing. While you may be tempted to only text, don’t.

Make sure that you pick up the phone from time to time and actually call her. Even if you feel you have no reason to call, do so just to tell her you were craving the sound of her voice. She’ll appreciate it!

Also, when you do message her, watch your use of text speak and acronyms. She might be from another generation – maybe she didn’t grow up using cell phones – and she could easily become lost or turned off.

Remember what a good deal you’re getting trading your use of ‘lol’ for her experience and passion! Don’t make it hard work for her to communicate with you. Seduce her with your words – take the necessary time to write text messages that play with humor, images, and fantasies. Claudia Cox

Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through flirty texting. To read more by Claudia, visit TextWeapon.com.

9. Let her know what you have extends beyond her age

Susan Winter profileSusan Winter - SusanWinter.net


As a younger man, you’ll need to understand some of her hesitancy about this relationship. She’s been programmed with centuries of negative beliefs that “it can’t go anywhere” and “it can’t last.”

Your primary job will be to reinforce the love you share and let her know that what you have extends beyond age. She may fear you’ll leave her for a younger woman, fight you on making it more than a fling, and assume it’s only sexual. Stay positive, consistent, and strong in your conviction. Susan Winter

As seen on OPRAH, bestselling author/relationship expert Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) specializes in evolutionary forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. She writes, speaks and coaches on accessing our inherent perfection in life and love.

10. Pick up the phone like a man

Radio Wright profileRadio Wright - eDatingDoc.com


Pick up the phone and call. Pick up the phone and call. These are not millennial kids that you can just text constantly. Pick up the phone like a man and make a phone call.Radio Wright
The eDatingDoc specializes in showing men, in these 3 situations, how to best use online dating & how to create an ONLINE DATING PROFILE that attracts beautiful & compatible women for authentic, fun & fulfilling relationships. 1) Just not meeting women that meet your standards and you refuse to settle. 2) Recent breakup or divorce. 3) You’re rusty or shy and want more experiences with amazing women.

  11. Go for the scalpel instead of the bludgeon

Girls chaseChase Amante - GirlsChase.com


Past age 27 or so, most girls shift away from a love of ‘jerk game’ and into a love of subtlety. When she’s younger, you can get away with blatant sexual humor and being an outright jerk, and have it work fine – in fact, it’s often preferable. Subtlety goes to waste on most younger girls, and they can mistake it for timidity.

Once she hits her late twenties and beyond, she reaches a level of social intelligence where jerk-like behavior looks clumsy and subtlety reeks of social experience. She likes this, because it tells her you’ve been around the block, you’re experienced yourself, and she can expect a fun seduction and an even more fun time in the sack.

Jerks tend to have much blunter escalations and don’t offer nearly as much in the bedroom, usually. She wants the guy with honed social skills – so go for the scalpel instead of the bludgeon.Chase Amante

Chase Amante is the founder of Girls Chase, the web’s premiere natural game website.

12. Pay attention

Robert Manni profileRobert Manni - RobertManni.com


Pay attention! That’s the best tip I can share for dating a woman of any age, but it’s even more important for a younger man who dates older women. Sex can only take a relationship so far, so it’s critical to develop two-way communication and empathy for the many gifts an older partner can bring to a relationship.

That means treating her with utmost respect and never taking her or the sex for granted. Women of all ages are complicated, and they notice everything. Double that when dating an older woman.

So if a guy wants to succeed with a woman with real life experience he needs to pay attention to her and maintain focus on the details of the relationship.Robert Manni

Robert is the author of THE GUYS’ GUY’S GUIDE TO LOVE, a novel called the “men’s successor to Sex and the City”. He is a featured Blog Talk Radio host of Guy’s Guy Radio™ and is also a regular contributor to Huffington Post and Cupid’s Pulse.

13. Use your 3 C's

Carmelia RayCarmelia Ray - CarmeliaRay.com


Dating older women can be tricky for most men because they approach them with caution and a lot of reservation. Men are afraid to make mistakes, look bad or insult an older woman as if all older women were bitter, judgmental and fickle.

My best tip for dating older women is to engage his 3 C’s. Use Charm, Confidence and Chuckle. Chuckle meaning his sense of humor. Incorporating humor will break the ice in almost all situations and increases attraction. Carmelia Ray

Carmelia Ray is a certified dating coach, matchmaker and online dating expert. She is the Matchmaker on hit TV series Mom VS Matchmaker on MyxTV. As a leading authority in the dating industry she has personally interviewed over 60,000 singles.

14. Validate her because of who she is

Hayley Quinn ProfileHayley Quinn - HayleyQuinn.com


It’s a cliche to say that age is just a number, but when you’re dating older women your focus shouldn’t be on the obvious age gap. Whilst socially it may currently seem a lot more usual to see an older man with a younger woman this trend is likely to shift as women become the main household earners.

So if you meet an attractive older woman don’t focus on the date on her passport. A woman of any age wants to feel that she’s been chosen by the man she’s with because of who she is. Validate her and compliment her on her confidence, her energy, her vibrancy and she will be a lot more engaged than if you tell her ‘she looks good for her age’.Hayley Quinn

Dating Coach Hayley Quinn wants to evolve love away from ‘he vs. she’ to a model for love that’s fairer, cooler and sexier.

15. Playing games is a great way to piss off an older woman

Kari profileKari - AttractGetWomen.com


Don’t play games. Most older women (the type you probably want to date anyways) can see through the bullshit, and they won’t put up with it. They know what they want, and they don’t want to waste time playing games anymore.

In short, playing games is a great way to piss an older woman off and cause her to lose interest in you.Kari

Kari is the creator of Attract And Get Women. The blog’s goal is to help men understand women better, have more success with women, and be happier with or without a woman.

16. Take charge and become a leader

Justin Stenstrom profileJustin Stenstrom - EliteManMagazine.com


My best tip for dating older women is to take charge and become a leader. There’s always that slight intimidation factor in the back of your mind as a younger man trying to woo an older, attractive woman. And older, attractive women can sense guys who are confident in themselves from a mile away. If you let this intimidation take over, your chances of wooing her are over. But if you can get over it, you’ll almost always be fine.

The best way to get over it is to be confident and bold in everything you do. Lead her through the restaurant or bar when you’re out. Be direct and straightforward when you talk to her. Be confident in what you say, and say what’s on your mind. And be decisive when figuring out plans with her. Again, take charge and be a strong man. Mature women love this and want men like this.Justin Stenstrom

Justin Stenstrom is a nationally-acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur, and speaker. He is the founder of EliteManMagazine.com and the host of the Elite Man Podcast. Once anxious, insecure, depressed, and unhappy, Justin’s overcome many of life’s greatest obstacles and loves nothing more than helping others do the same!

17. Be confident

Scott Valdez profileScott Valdez - VirtualDatingAssistants.com


Be confident. Older women have “been there, done that” when it comes to the dating game. They don’t have as much patience for drama and mind games.

If you want to ask her out, ask her out. Be upfront about the type of relationship you want to have, i.e. friends with benefits or a long-term romance. Studies have shown that as women get older, good communication is valued more than sexual attraction in a relationship.Scott Valdez

One of the world’s leading online dating experts, Scott Valdez founded VirtualDatingAssistants.com in 2009 and has helped thousands of men find their perfect partner online. His team of highly-trained professionals write your profile, touch up your photos, handle all of your messaging, and get you dates with the women you want to meet.

18. Encourage and acknowledge her

Damona Hoffman profileDamona Hoffman - DamonaHoffman.com


Remember that while an older woman has had many unique life experiences that she can share with you, she also may be a little attached to the way she does things.

Encourage her to do new things with you while also acknowledging how much you appreciate the ways she’s opening up your world.Damona Hoffman

Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach and host/dating expert for FYI TV (A+E Networks.) Damona also hosts the weekly radio show “Dates & Mates” (iHeart Radio/UBN Radio.)

19. Don't underestimate their energy

Sandy Weiner profileSandy Weiner - LastFirstDate.com


My best tip for dating older women is that they are awesome! Older women know who they are. They know what they want. They’ve often got more energy than their younger peers.

If they are moms, their kids are grown and this is their time to shine. They are starting new businesses, traveling, and doing fabulous things with their lives. Sandy Weiner

Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date, is devoted to helping women over 40 achieve healthy, off-the-charts love. An internationally known TEDx speaker, dating coach, and online course creator, Sandy has contributed hundreds of articles to large publications including Mind Body Green, The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Good Men Project.

20. Know what you want and communicate it clearly

Dennis Work profileDennis Work - Guyvorce.com


You know you’ve lived a rich and rewarding life and you can’t wait to tell her just how rich and rewarding. Plus, you know exactly what you want and don’t want in a woman. But guess what? So does she. She’s lived a full life too, and she also knows what she wants.

So cut the crap. Be authentic. That means be who you really are, good qualities and warts. She’s got to love the real you, not some idealized version, because: Guess which person she’s going to be living with? A big bonus: when you’re authentic, there’s a good chance she’ll be, too. You’ll both find out if you’re each keepers or if it’s time to look elsewhere. That’s how it should be because that’s what real men and real women do.Dennis Work

Dennis Work is the CEO of Guyvorce.com, an independent blog site offering free divorce advice for guys.

21. Confidence, communication, and creativity are key when dating older women

Jill Crosby profileJill Crosby - GreenSingles.com


The 3 C’s of Sexuality for Younger Men dating Older Women:

1. Confidence: An older woman, whether more experienced sexually or not, appreciates a confident; yet humble (not arrogant) man. Confidence is very sexy. She is choosing to date you, so know that you have something to offer. Walk with your head up, shoulders back and smile.

2. Communication: Ask her questions, discover what turns her on; listen and ask for details or clarification. She may feel a little unsure about the age difference, so reassure her with genuine compliments. Tell her how beautiful she is and share what you love about her. Instead of texting a “dick-pic”, tell her what you plan on doing to her later. A woman’s imagination is the most effective way to get her aroused and anticipating you’re next time together.

3. Creativity: Try new things that she’s always wanted to do; find out what her sexual fantasies are and then take the time to create them with her. Enjoy her entire body before intercourse–have fun discovering what turns her on. Does she like it tender and soft or rougher, or a mixture of both? Watch her reaction and listen to her breath and ask if she likes this…or this… Be present and pay attention. Don’t get all drunk and sloppy.Jill Crosby

Jill Crosby is the owner/founder of the Conscious Dating Network, featuring GreenSingles.com and SpiritualSingles.com. As a speaker and writer, she is known for her candor, vulnerability, down to earth honesty and humor as she helps singles thrive in the world of online dating and ultimately meet their life partners.

22. Older women will have a much lower tolerance for games

Chris Manak profileChris Manak - ManicWorkshops.com


Be mature yourself. It sounds obvious, but older women have their lives sorted out generally much more than younger women. They have gone through life’s ups and downs, they have dated men before you, they’re usually established financially.

So older women will have a much lower tolerance for games and men who do not have their own lives sorted out.Chris Manak

Chris Manak is one of Australia’s leading dating and lifestyle coaches for men. Running his company Manic Workshops since 2008, he features regularly in national and international media.

23. When dating older women be interested outside of the bedroom too

Lucy Clarke profileLucy Clarke - WeLoveDates.com


Ask her questions and listen to the answer. There’s nothing hotter to a women than a man who’s interested in what she has to say.

Just make sure you are able to hold an intelligent conversation with your love interest, and she’ll be coming back for more.Lucy Clarke

A writer with over 6 years of experience working with a wide array of online dating sites, Lucy specializes in bringing singles of all ages little-known insider knowledge that gives those looking for love a much better chance.


Karen Poter profileKarenLee Poter - KarenLeePoter.com


CONFIDENCE – that’s right it’s in capital letters for a reason. No older woman wants to babysit a child – most likely she’s already a parent and doesn’t want more kids. When you approach an older woman, make sure you’ve got your confidence meter turned up to high.

This applies to how you feel physically and emotionally. Don’t dress like a boy! You’ll never go wrong being over dressed rather than wearing slouchy jeans and a ripped t-shirt. Keep the baseball hats to a minimum. Older women want to be with someone who grooms and is physically fit. If you’re embarrassed to take off your shirt, she’s going to sense this and it won’t work in your favor.

Get your shit together mentally. Know what direction you’d like to take your career. Start taking responsibility for your living space – no residing with mommy. Get some help if you have problems with anxiety, anger or addiction. She’s probably done some work in terms of self-help and will want a man who can keep up with her. I think all women like to be with someone confident, not cocky – assertive not aggressive. Build up your confidence and take the lead.KarenLee Poter

KarenLee Poter currently hosts an Internet talk show, The KarenLee Poter Show, and podcast about dating, sex and love. KarenLee is an expert in large age gap relationships and wrote the book, “A Cougar’s Guide To Getting Your Ass Back Out There.”

25. You need to think "old school" when communicating

Rachel Russo profileRachel Russo - RachelRusso.com


Think “old school” in terms of your communication. In other words, instead of texting her, pick up the phone, and call her!

Older women will appreciate a man who doesn’t initiate important discussions in one hundred sixty characters or less. Put down your devices, pay attention to her, and have some good old-fashioned conversation–in person. Rachel Russo

Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a Matchmaker & Dating/Relationship Coach.

26. Be boldly honest with them

Dan Munro profileDan Munro - TheInspirationalLifestyle.com


They’ve already had their hearts broken a million times during their early years and they don’t have time for that gamey shit any more. They will appreciate and be strongly attracted to a courageous, direct, no-nonsense Man; particularly when it comes to sexual interest.

Older women don’t play games sexually, they know they want to fuck and are no longer ashamed of it. Let them know when you have these desires, openly and boldly, and be prepared for them to want to move forward quickly in this area. They may even scare you a bit!Dan Munro

Dan Munro is a Confidence Coach, founder of the Brojo self-development community, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Legendary Life. As a former approval-seeking Nice Guy, Dan helps other recovering Nice Guys and people pleasers to become more authentic, massively self-confident and socially successful

27. This isn't a game

Lisa Shield profileLisa Shield - LisaShield.com


Many younger men want to date older women because they think we’re more sexually experienced or because some of us hadn’t had sex in awhile and we would welcome the opportunity to hook up with someone younger and hotter.

While those things might be true, keep in mind that this isn’t a game. Women of all ages can get emotionally attached to the men they are sleeping with. Not only that, some older women have been hurt and disappointed by the men in their lives and they have real baggage from past relationship.

If you are kind and respectful and you invest the time to really get to know these women, this can be an awesome experience for both of you. There are lots of women out there who are open and excited by the idea of dating younger men. Just treat them well. Don’t downplay the fact that they are older, but don’t make it an issue either.Lisa Shield

After going out on 100 first dates in 2 years, Lisa Shield found the love of her life online. Her success led her to become one of the first dating coaches in the world and she continues to be one of the most sought after. Lisa has helped thousands of singles find love through her unique Naked Dating® process.

28. Don’t get caught checking out the cute younger hostess

Denise Levy profileDenise Levy - MissMatchMakerLive.com


Don’t make a big deal of the age difference. There is no need to focus your attention on it. She is well aware of it and if she wasn’t comfortable with it she would not have agreed to go out with you in the first place.

Women who date younger men have much more competition and they are well aware of that as well. Whatever you do, don’t get caught checking out the cute younger hostess on your date with an older woman.

Older women can be much more decisive and unforgiving at times. Give her the attention she deserves, pursue her like she is the only women in the world and you will be rewarded in more ways than you can ever imagine.Denise Levy

Denise Levy, BSW, is a professional matchmaker with experience in the dating industry since 1996. She own and operates personally a Boutique MatchMaking & Coaching Agency in Destin, FL and work with singles and other matchmakers throughout the country.

29. Don't play games

Shimrit profileShimrit Elisar - OnlineDatingBook.co.uk


I would say the best tip is to not play games. Older women generally know what they want and they tend to be more independent, so usually have very low tolerance for the sort of things younger women put up with or participate in.

If you’re interested, say you’re interested (and what you’re interested in) and generally be respectful and honest throughout.Shimrit Elisar

Journalist, online dating industry professional and author of “Everyone’s Guide to Online Dating”, the UK’s first online dating guide. Shimrit has been using the Internet socially since before the invention of the web and has worked on some of the UK’s largest dating sites.

 30. Be honest and authentic

Rachel Moheban-Wachtel profileRachel Moheban-Wachtel - RelationshipSuite.com


Older women know what they are looking in a partner as they are more experienced and confident. It’s important when dating an older woman to be chivalrous and always behave like a gentleman.

You need to be honest and authentic because older, more experienced women can easily recognize a lack of sincerity. Rachel Moheban-Wachtel

Rachel Moheban-Wachtel is a psychotherapist in New York City for over 18 years and specializes in couples and relationship issues. She provides both in-person and virtual counseling and has created an audio self study program to help couples work through the five common issues that plague relationships.

31. Older women know what they want

Jessie Kay imageJessie Kay - TheRealMatchmaker.com


Sometimes being younger isn’t always better… younger women who are still exploring the dating world don’t know what they want – they are still learning.

An older women has a much stronger vision of what she wants and what she is going to do with it once she gets it. They’re less inclined to “play mind games” and more willing to go after what they desire. Jessie Kay

Jessie The Real Matchmaker here. After 21 years in the business I can still honestly say “I’m always in love with love”. As a matchmaker it’s important for me to give you a little bit of what you WANT and a whole lot of what you NEED…that’s my secret weapon to finding you, REAL LOVE.

32. Keep it light and fun at first

Doc Love profileDoc Love - DocLove.com


Keep it light, keep it funny, no heavy subjects, no negatives and no put downs. Keep the conversation uplifting and positive. Be a great listener and do not badmouth the ex’s.Doc Love
Since 1965 Doc Love has been man’s best friend in giving advice on relationships and dating women. He has his written a popular column on the #1 Men’s website in the world, AskMen.com (featuring dating and relationship advice for guys) and has been featured in countless major media appearances, including FOX News, Time Magazine, The 9-5-0/Houston, KIIS/Los Angeles and many more.

33. Focus on what you have in common instead of the differences

Joshua Pompey - NEMVIP.com


Many older women will be happy to date you, pending, you don’t make them feel like an older woman. This is the key. If you are younger by a significant amount, this will be the elephant in the room at first. But the more you treat her as if she is a complete equal, avoid commenting on it, and make her feel young, the more age will become a non-factor.

Making cougar jokes, consistently referencing time periods that clearly separate the two or bringing up the matter will only serve to create a divide and sense of discomfort on her behalf. Doc Love

Joshua Pompey has been helping online daters since 2009 at a success rate of over 99%. To learn more about how he can help your online dating life, men, visit NEMVIP.com.

 34. Know what you want an communicate it cleary

Melissa Josue profileMelissa Josue - HappyHealthyRelationship.com


My best tip for dating older women is to know what you want AND communicate it clearly through both your words and actions. Are you dating just for fun and recreation or are you dating to find “the one”?

Both have very different intentions and outcomes. If you don’t make it clear what your intentions are from the beginning or send mixed messages, you set yourself up for a lot of unnecessary drama down the road!Melissa Josue

Melissa Josue at Happyhealthyrelationship.com is a relationship advice blogger and dating success coach for women. She specializes in helping women navigate the complexities of dating a single dad or dating divorced or divorcing man so that they can get their needs met, avoid being the rebound woman, and have a happy, healthy relationship!

 35. Older women have less patience for fake guys

Damien Diecke profileDamien Diecke - SchoolOfAttraction.com.au


You have to forget that they are older than you, stop trying to ‘act’ more mature, or pretend to be anything than who you already are. Women in general are turned off by fakeness, and older women have even less patience for it than their younger counterparts.

Guys can easily fee intimidated by a woman who is more mature, but she wants to date YOU, and pretending to be anything else will sour the relationship. Damien Diecke

Fed up with the typical lying and manipulating present in the Pick Up Artist industry, Damien Diecke set out to put his Life Coaching and hypnosis Qualifications to work offering men an alternative way to improve their self-confidence and become more confident versions of themselves. 8 years later his company, School of Attraction, has become the most successful dating coaching company in the country.

36. Understand where they are coming from

Shanny profileShannon Tebb - ShannyInTheCity.com


You need to be able to understand where they are coming from. They prefer that real connection so avoid texting them and give them a phone call instead. Chivalry is not dead. So make it a priority to treat her like a lady and be a gentlemen.

Older women also have had more experiences and know what they want. If they seem aggressive or guarded, it is your job to remove these barriers and show them otherwise. Communication is very important. They want feedback and want to know how you are feeling. If your not interested don’t play games and be honest with them.

Older women don’t have time to waste and that first impression is crucial. If you can’t connect with them on an emotional, intellectual level and are dressed like a slob you lost your chance.Shannon Tebb

Shanny in the City is Toronto’s Boutique Matchmaker who specializes in getting singles 100% Date Ready. She has been featured in the Toronto Star, Huffington Post, VICE, Oh So Cosmo, KISS 92.5, CBC radio, The Globe and Mail, Divorce Angels and was the Spokesperson for Zoosk.

37. Don't play games with modern technology when dating older women

Sarah Ryan profileSarah Ryan - SarahLouiseRyan.com


Ladies with a little more life experience are very aware that chivalry is not dead or at least they are hoping it’s not.

They are not looking to play dating games in the modern age of technology, they want to date, they want to be romanced and they want to cut to the chase to find their match.

They tend not to take themselves as seriously on the dating scene as say, for example, a 20 something looking for love. It’s quite refreshing really. Sarah Ryan

Dating expert, award nominated entrepreneur, matchmaker, dating and lifestyle blogger. Lover of travel, luxury goods and services. Total foodie. Passionate about connecting people in love and in business.

38. Keep it sincere

Eddy Baller profileEddy Baller - UltimateManBuilder.com


Let’s start from the beginning, the approach. Approaching an older woman is pretty much the same as approaching a younger woman except she might mention the age gap.

You might hear “I’m too old for you” and if you do, don’t react. Just a quick retort and change the subject. “This isn’t about age” or whatever you want to say, just don’t make a big deal out of it.

Older women aren’t approached as often as young women so your compliment will have more impact..Eddy Baller

Eddy is a dating coach who focuses on personal development and specializes in overcoming fear. He helps guys to crush personal obstacles and become the kind of men that women desire and men respect.

39. Know who you are

Her Smile ProfileCosmo Currey - HerSmile.com


Know who you are. Our youth is spent trying to find out who we are. Often it’s a battle against who we want to be and how we want to be seen. For example the image we personify on Facebook is rarely reflective of our true self.

It’s my opinion that older women are not looking for a man who has yet to form his identity. They want someone who says; ‘this is who I am’, these are my strengths and I embrace my faults. I understand my full picture for all that it encompasses. When you can do that then you will considerably increase your chances with an older women.Cosmo Currey

Cosmo is the owner and Managing Director of the multi-ward nominated site HerSmile.com. He spent the last three years studying the behaviors behind finding a partner. HerSmile was created as an alternative to the current way of online dating.

40. They want energy to match their own

Patrick King profilePatrick King - PatrickKingConsulting.com


Realize why they are seeking you out versus an older gentleman. What a younger man represents to them is adventure, adrenaline, whirlwind romance, and above all, excitement.

It’s not about status, prestige, or treating them like princesses. They want to be thrilled and wow-ed by/with someone that has the energy to match their own.

Keep this in mind when you are planning dates, conversing, flirting, and taking it to the next level. Patrick King

Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist and Conversation Coach based in San Francisco, California. He focuses on using his unique emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success.

41. Be good at sex

Dave Perrotta profileDave Perrotta - PostgradCasanova.com


Be good at sex. This, above nearly all else, will keep older women coming back to you. That’s because they know the value of great sex.

Most guys don’t know what they’re doing in the bedroom. And so, older women have been left unsatisfied time and again. So, if you can give them a good experience, they’ll stick around.Dave Perrotta

Dave Perrotta is the founder of PostGradCasanova.com . He’s been traveling the world for 2 years, and teaching men how to master conversation and succeed with women.

42. She doesn't want someone who acts your age

Sebastian Harris profileSebastian Harris - GlobalSeducer.com


Don’t act like a little boy. She is a mature woman who has her shit together. Maybe she even has children. The last thing she wants is to date a little boy who appears more immature than her kids or the kids of her friends.

Dress appropriately when you approach an older woman. Speak like a mature man and avoid “youth slang” just to appear cool. It won’t work. Yes, she wants to date an adventurous young man who has a more energy than most men in her age range, but she doesn’t want to date a child.Sebastian Harris

Sebastian Harris is a travel enthusiast and lover of women who spent the past five years meeting and attracting women all over the world. His global dating journey eventually allowed him to meet the woman of his dreams. Now he supports and inspires men to embark on their own journey.

43. Don't forget being younger can be a huge advantage

Matthew Valentines profileMatthew Valentines - PersonalDatingAssistants.com


Guys who are looking to date older women need to understand that their preference actually gives them a huge advantage. Most guys are trying to date younger. Often enough a LOT younger.

As Personal Dating Assistants, our odds of getting a response from an older women are at least 4 times better when compared to messaging a women who is younger.Matthew Valentines

Matthew Valentines is an online dating concierge, and executive director at PersonalDatingAssistants.com. An attraction technologist at heart, he travels the world in search of beautiful women, new ways to help men with their online dating, and the perfect single malt whiskey.

44. Speak up

Julie Ferman profileJulie Ferman - JulieFerman.com


If you are naturally attracted to and a “good fit” for a woman who’s older than you are, then speak up and say so. Women are so accustomed to (and worn down by) the cultural norm that’s been set, dictating that men can date younger, but not women, that women are often distrustful when approached by and courted by a younger man.

We wonder about his motives and we fear that if we “fall” for him, that it might be a fun novelty for him, but that in the end he’ll toss us away like yesterday’s leftovers and we’ll be left empty handed.Julie Ferman

Julie Ferman, personal matchmaker and dating coach since 1990, has been responsible for over 1100 marriages. Serving both men and women, registration is free, to be eligible for personal matchmaking referrals, and to receive invitations to events and to dating coaching forums, podcasts, etc.

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