Finding casual hookups near where you live can be pretty challenging without a head start. Even if you don't live in a huge city there can be a lot of options to try. Unless you want to spend a lot of time and money doing all the work yourself you need to pay attention to our proven suggestions below that can make finding a hookup tonight a LOT easier.
Things have been even more difficult lately with so many people still social distancing or just out of practice when it comes to socializing in public. You really need to be smart and creative in how you approach finding hookups right now.
These are suggestions that have worked for us and that we have seen others use to find casual hookups over and over again. Even if you're a guy who isn't great with women these are the places where you can drastically increase the odds that you'll find success. Picking two or three of the options below to check out is going to give you the best results.
If you're looking to find casual hookups near where you live this is where you should start:
Where You Can Find Hookups Tonight Near You
These are our favorite spots. Don't forget to leave a comment below if there are any we missed that work great for you!
The first thing most people think of when it comes to finding casual hookups is bars. We wanted to cover it first just to get the obvious choice out of the way. Typically, bars are great options for two reasons:
- Everyone knows that people go to bars to find local hookups
- There's plenty of alcohol around to loosen people up
If you're a pretty outgoing person and don't have any trouble just walking up to people and starting conversations bars are going to be a great option. You'll have plenty of opportunities and should have a great time. If you're a bit more introverted or just don't feel comfortable in bars there are some other great options below you should try instead.
AFF - We haven't found an app that delivers better results and you can try it free here
Guys that aren't great with women, don't have a lot of experience, or just don't have a lot of time to spend meeting women need to try out AFF's trial. From what we've seen, there isn't an option out there that makes meeting a lot of locals looking specifically for hookups any faster or easier. We would know, we have tried out all the legit hookup sites and apps out there in our annual review.
We've talked about why we like AFF so much plenty of times in the past but it boils down to a couple of things:
- They have the most users out there looking for hookups locally (over 60 million active users)
- They have delivered the best results when it comes to finding a casual hookup
- Guys who aren't super handsome can still get great results (unlike the other options out there)
When you have an app or site like AFF that delivers both a huge quantity of singles looking for hookups and a great platform for connecting them you're going to get some solid results if you spend a little time perfecting your approach. Don't expect to just put up a blank profile and have women streaming toward you though, nothing is that good!
If you're still in the stage where you need a little help finding hookups near you or you just don't have the time to go out a lot check out AFF's free trial. You don't have anything to lose and could be doing yourself a HUGE favor! It's our favorite.
Get some local advice on where to find hookups
We know that where you spend your time is absolutely crucial to finding the success you're looking for. We think it's so important that we have put together over 100 guides that contain specific recommendations for places you can go to improve your chances of finding a successful hookup or if you're just looking to find girls for one night stands.
These are city guides created by people who know what they're talking about. Check out a few of the spots for your city, or a city you're traveling too, and see just how much your success improves!
Where to find casual hookups in the United States
Outside of the major cities try these guides by state
Where to find casual hookups in Canada
Where to find casual hookups in the United Kingdom and Ireland
Where to find casual hookups in Australia
Where South African hookups are happening
REAL dance clubs (not just places with a DJ)
There are a lot of places that call themselves dance clubs but are really just a bar with a DJ. Nobody is really dancing, it's more like drunk people swaying to the music. These "clubs" aren't bad spots to find a casual hookup but they aren't the best either.
The best dance clubs tend to specialize in a certain style of music. We're talking about Latin dance clubs where they mainly play salsa or tango music styles or even electronic dance clubs. This level of specialization allows you to know what you're getting into and tends to attract people who are much more into the music and the actual dancing (not just drinking and throwing their hands in the air).
Dancing between two people who are having fun and enjoying the music, and each other, is as close to sex as it gets in public. You can feel the connection between two dance partners and it's often a very short trip from the dancefloor to the bedroom.
Finding hookups near where you live is often as easy as finding the closest dance club, the hardest part is finding places you can go to hookup without getting caught if you can't bring a girl home! If you're not a great dancer don't be afraid to take a lesson or two and stop taking yourself so seriously. You can have a lot of fun with the right attitude right from the beginning.
Tinder is an easy place to find a hookup tonight if you're super hot already
The opposite of AFF, which tends to work best for most guys, is Tinder. Tinder is great for guys who fall into the top 10-15% in looks and have a lot of confidence. If that sounds like you then Tinder is going to be a lot of fun. Finding a one night stand online isn't always easy but if you're really good looking Tinder can help.
Most of you have probably tried Tinder in the past and most of you probably didn't have a great experience. From what we've seen, it tends to be the most handsome guys getting all the attention from 85%+ of the women using it. That leaves something like the bottom 15% of women for the remaining 80% of guys. NOT a great experience. Tinder also skews more toward people in their late teens and 20's.
We almost didn't include it on our list but we wanted to be fair to everyone. There ARE guys who can do great on Tinder but they tend to not be the ones who need Tinder when they're looking to find a hookup that night.
Hotel bars are great for finding short-term flings
If you're in the mood for a hookup tonight but don't want more than just a one-time thing consider hitting up one of your local hotel bars. Do a bit of research first (check out our city guides above) because you are looking for a particular kind of hotel bar. This isn't just some dive bar next to a Motel 6 that you want.
What you're looking for is a bar that attracts a lot of business travelers, not traveling families. These tend to be a little more upscale with a big bar and wide selection of alcohol. Martini bars, whiskey bars, and other cocktail bars tend to be better options than sports bars. This is where a lot of the visitors who are in town for business, but might be up for a little fun with the right person, tend to hang out.
Hotels bars are great because it isn't just near where you are but it's technically right next door to where who you're hitting on lives too (at least for that night). Moving a fun conversation toward a casual hookup is a lot easier when the bedroom is just down the hall.
Parties (both casual and business)
Any place where a lot of people are having fun in the evening and the booze is flowing tends to be a good places to find a casual hookup. This is especially true when people are letting loose and in the mood to talk and meet new people. That's why parties can be such great opportunities.
It doesn't matter if your at a friend's house or a business party take advantage of the opportunity and meet as many people as you can. The odds are you are going to find someone who is also in the mood for a hookup, lives near you, and maybe even relaxed enough to act on it. When you're at a party you always have an easy excuse to introduce yourself and start a conversation by asking them how they know whoever is hosting the party.
If it's a business party you do need to be a little more discreet and cautious. There are plenty of people who like to mix work and pleasure but finding a quick hookup that night is a little more dangerous. You want to make very certain that you're both into each other before making a move. Just don't wait too long!
Work (definitely dangerous but that's half the fun)
It's hard to find a hookup closer to you than with someone you work with (maybe even AT work). Hookups between coworkers happen ALL THE TIME. It natural to become attracted to someone you see regularly and has qualities you find appealing. The trick is making sure that your casual hookup stays casual and doesn't interfere with your job!
To do this, you need to be very clear with each other what your relationship is and what your expectations are. The last thing you want is someone to think it's more serious than it is. You also want to take great pains to keep things just between the two of you. The fewer people that know about what you're doing the easier both of your lives will be.
Also, be very professional at all times when you're at work together. Don't give any indication to your coworkers about what's going on between you and don't give each other preferential treatment. Most people could care less who is hooking up as long as it doesn't impact their job.