A major part of the reason I enjoy trying out and reviewing some of the most mentioned dating sites, like the review of Tender Meets below, is exposing the garbage. Identifying the ones that are just designed to take your money and run. With any luck, these sites get enough exposure for what they are and get starved of traffic and credit cards.
Friends, let me tell you right now, Tender Meets is so much more than just the creepiest thing I’ve Googled. It’s also part of what I expect is the largest network of sketchy ‘dating’ sites in the world.
The more of these reviews I write, the more sites I come across from their network. The more I uncover about how it all works and what sites are involved.
This TenderMeets review will depart from my usual review format because there’s no real dating site to review. I’ll save you the time: don’t even visit this site. Not even the home page.
Let’s put this in perspective with a quick comparison to AFF. AFF has been the best way we’ve found for most guys to meet women for more casual fun so it makes for a good point of reference.
Our team rates each site objectively based on many hours of independent research, the features each site offers, and how it compares with other sites. The ratings are the opinion of our editors and their extensive experience.
|Quality of Women|
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How many people are using this site to actually meet people compared to other sites.
How easy is this site to use and how quickly can an average person begin meeting people compared to other sites.
|Privacy & Safety|
Does this site take proper precautions to safeguard its members, their identity, and their data.
Our opinion of how easily an average person will be able to achieve their dating goals with this site compared to other sites.
Will the time and money spent using this site pay off for an average person based on the opinions and experience of our editors.
Yeah, pure trash. A usable site template but that doesn’t make it any less cancerous.
In case it isn’t already clear, my recommendation is to avoid this website entirely. If you’re looking for a hookup site that works, go read our article on writing an effective dating profile. Once you’ve got that done, set one up on AFF. You’ll find what you’re looking for on an actual site, safe in the knowledge that your credit card info hasn’t been sold.
Scroll down a little further and you’ll see a list of the known sites in this network. Don’t visit any of them, ever.
They’re all part of the same network. They’re all designed to fool you into paying for a “dating” site. The only “women” you’re going to speak to are either bots or men in another country hiding behind stolen photos.
Usually I’d set up a profile on the site and run through an entire process to determine how effective the site is. Having done so many of these, the moment I saw the home page I knew there was no point.
Want to see what I mean? Here’s what you’re met with when you first log in. Notice how many notifications I have after just seconds of having a totally blank profile?
That’s right, I’m so desirable, just creating an empty profile has women falling over themselves to message me! That’s how it works, right?
In fairness, check out the default avatar I’m rocking here. How could they possibly resist those looks? Yes, I’m accepting modeling gigs right now.
Seriously though, if you ever see a bunch of notifications immediately after creating a profile on a site, run. Delete that profile immediately and never look back. Real women do not message blank profiles, that’s all there is to it.
So the site itself doesn’t look terrible, right? The layout is nice and clean, things load quickly and it looks pretty trustworthy. I’d even go so far as to say it’s one of the better user experiences you’ll find on a dating site.
The problem, of course, is that despite what the profiles might suggest, there are no women here.
Take another look at the home page screenshot above. Now let’s see what some of their other sites look like:
Surprised? We’ve barely even scratched the surface yet. I’ll get deeper into this whole setup soon.
As I’ve always said throughout these reviews, the most dangerous type of sketchy site is one that hides it well. They look convincing until you’ve handed over your credit card info. By then, of course, it’s too late.
Thankfully, while this network looks convincing at first glance, that facade quickly crumbles when you start using it.
TenderMeets has a Tinder-esque feature where you can like photos of different women, and then these women will be notified. Sometimes they respond, but it’s more likely that you’ll receive a like back and a message asking you to pay for a membership before you can see her message. This is what the interface looks like:
Despite having no profile photo, I even got my fair share of likes from ladies like Laki:
Near as I can tell, the saving grace here is the people behind it. From the messages I’ve seen from reviewing all the sites above, one thing is clear. The guys behind this have never met an actual woman and take their cues from Pornhub titles.
They have no idea how women actually talk and it shows when they try to pretend they are one:
The only people who think women message like that are people that have never had an actual conversation with one. Awkward.
You’ll also get a bunch of messages and replies urging you to take the next step in their process. Since I haven’t uploaded a profile photo, these are the types of messages I’m getting right now:
Thank goodness, Katerena. The absolute last thing I want is for anyone to know how interesting I am!
If I didn’t know any better, I’d think these guys really want me to add a profile photo. . .
Still, I think this one is my favorite. Like he just gave up on conversation and went “ugh, just give me your card details already”:
Further down in this review, you’ll see a long list of other sites you should NOT try. But if you’re looking to get laid in the near future, no other site will help you out better than AFF. For starters, AFF is a legit site that doesn’t exist solely to get your money. It actually helps people meet up for casual relationships.
In fact, a few days on AFF is enough to show you that there are so many women in your area who actually want to meet up. A few hours on TenderMeets, on the other hand, will only get you spam, time-wasters and bots.
So with our stellar recommendation, are there any positive things about TenderMeets?
Where do we even begin here? I suppose we’ll start by outlining just how lucrative this network is. Maybe you’ll be as frustrated by all of this as I am.
According to this appendix from Snopes,
“Together Networks already operates dating websites including Be Naughty, Cheeky Lovers and Flirt, which were sold last year to Polyakov’s Grendall investment firm in a deal worth £45.1m.”
Yeah, that’s around USD 52,000,000.00 for just three sites in this network. 52 million dollars. Please do not visit these sites and contribute to that figure.
According to Snopes, the TopOffers network includes 218 websites. 72% of which share the same PO box in the British Virgin Islands and fall under a collection of shell companies.
The terms and conditions of a site typically outline how your data will be kept safe. About how they use your photos on the site and what you’re agreeing to.
For these sites though, it seems to be their sneaky place for laying out what they’ll do with your info. As though hiding it in here is their loophole so they can go “I told you so” later.
The site’s terms and conditions say so very clearly:
“When you sign up to any one of our Services we will send you an email shortly afterwards advising that we have created a duplicate profile on Partner Sites to enhance your chance of finding a suitable match.”
Why a site like this has terms and conditions is beyond me but okay. What they’re doing isn’t legal so paying a lawyer for terms and conditions seems a little daft. Like signing a contract with a drug dealer. . . I digress.
It does say you’ll get the opportunity to opt out but I’m yet to see this opportunity. Not on the website or in my inbox. Strange, it’s almost like the people behind this site are dishonest. Shocking!
Having your dating profile duplicated isn’t ideal but things could be worse, right? Their whole network is fake so what are the chances of anyone seeing it anyway?
Using your photo for advertising and commercial purposes though, that’s a little different. Check this one out:
“…when you upload a photo to any of our Services you are allowing us to use that photo for advertising and other commercial purposes, royalty free.”
Yep, right there in the terms and conditions. Upload a photo and they reserve the right to use it wherever they like, royalty free.
You’ll also get the opportunity to add your contacts to the site as a referral. If you do this, you’re also exposing them to the spam and who knows what else.
“If you choose to upload your Contact’s name and email address and/or mobile number you are allowing us to send an email or social network mobile invitation on your behalf, inviting your Contact to join the Services.”
Usually, I would use this section to talk about the women I met on the site. To comment on the profile setup and how legit they looked.
In the case of Tender Meets, we’re just going to take a look at what a member profile looks like. I’m also going to reiterate once again that there are no real women on this site.
No matter what you do, you will not get a date from this website. The only people you’re likely to talk to are basement-dwellers in another country pretending to be women.
Now, let’s take a look at the type of profiles you’ll come across:
This is exactly what the profiles all look like. One or Two photos, often one hidden (because you need to pay to see the hidden photos), and an otherwise blank profile.
The women are always attractive yet plausibly real. As in, they’re good looking but they haven’t stolen professional model shoots so they actually look like a dating profile.
Fairly empty profiles aren’t uncommon from women in online dating sites. For 100% of profiles to look like this though. . . that’s lazy. I guess they couldn’t be bothered populating profiles for the sake of this ruse.
Ads are a telling sign that you’re probably on a sketchy dating site. If the site is legit, users will happily sign up and pay an ongoing subscription. No need to go squeezing ad revenue.
Interestingly, this network does use ads yet they aren’t for ad revenue. Instead, they always link to another site in their network and look something like this:
This makes me wonder if part of their CPA model is about referral traffic. In other words, for every visitor TenderMeets.com sends to the other site (Tender Flirts in this instance), they receive $x.
Again, speculation. It’s the only reason I can see for them to link to their other sites. There’s no SEO benefit since you need to be logged in to view the ads and see that link.
To wrap up this TenderMeets review, let’s take a look at the dating world’s most frequently asked questions.
TenderMeets poses as a legitimate dating site but that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Part of a very large network of fake dating sites, it exists only to take your info.
You sign up with your email address and a password. Once your account has been created, click the Login link on the home page and enter these details.
Instead of rewarding this disgusting business model, focus your efforts on legit options instead.
To save you some time we reviewed the best dating apps and websites for hookups recently. Have a look through the list and see what works for you.
The default account is a free membership though it doesn’t let you interact with any members as messaging is a premium feature.
Going by the many accounts available online, it’s seems like the only way to stop paying them is to cancel your credit card.
Official instructions to cancel your subscription are below but if you’ve signed up for a paid account, contact your bank asap.
To delete your profile just follow these steps. Note that you’ll have to cancel your paid subscription before you can do this.
Not even close. It’s part of a large network of fake dating site and exists only to take your info.
To send messages on this site you’ll need a premium subscription (not recommended). Once you’ve done that you can click Chat from any user’s profile.
To search for particular profiles on this site you can use the search bar at the top of the home page. It allows you to select the gender, age range and location of women you want to see.