TenderMeets Review for 2023: Is There Anyone Worth Meeting Here?

Screenshots from our review of TenderMeets

A major part of the reason I enjoy trying out and reviewing some of the most mentioned dating sites, like the review of Tender Meets below, is exposing the garbage. Identifying the ones that are just designed to take your money and run. With any luck, these sites get enough exposure for what they are and get starved of traffic and credit cards.

Friends, let me tell you right now, Tender Meets is a VERY interesting site and one you definitely want to learn more about. It’s part of what I expect is one of the largest networks of ‘dating’ sites in the world so you definitely need to know about it.

The more of these reviews I write, the more sites I come across from their network. The more I uncover about how it all works and what sites are involved the better I’m able to recommend what will work for you.

How we reviewed TenderMeets
So this is how I reviewed TenderMeets:

First, I created a profile. I left it completely blank to start to see if I get the attention of any scammers or bots who would bother messaging a blank profile.

Next, I’ll message and chat with tons of women on the site who might be open to chatting. I’ll send them messages to see if I can have a conversation with them.

I’ll use all of my proven experience meeting women online to set up dates and hookups if possible. I’ve had a lot of success elsewhere so I know what works!

Lastly, once I’ve explored all the free features, I’ll subscribe to the paid membership. Once done, I’ll then review all the subscription perks and see if they’re worth your money.

Before we get into the full review with all the details we found over the past few months I want to give you a quick comparison. If you’re in a hurry this will be a good way to tell if Tender Meets is really a site you want to spend time on.

To help give you some perspective, we’ve put Tender Meets head-to-head with  AFF (which you can try for free here). AFF has been the best way we’ve found for most guys to meet women for more casual fun so it makes for a good point of reference.

SiteOur ExperienceOur RatingFree Trial Link
This Year's Top Rated Site
Experience Highlights
Experience Highlights
  • Best results for regular guys
  • Over 60 million active members
  • Our top hookup site for the year
  • Not good for long-term relationships
Try AFF For Free
Experience HighlightsExperience Highlights
  • A lot of fake profiles
  • So many obvious fake messages
  • No real women we could find
  • Gigantic waste of time
Try Tender Meets

As you can see, it wasn’t even close. If you want the full details keep reading and all your questions will be answered!

What Our TenderMeets Review Revealed You Need To Know

When we review a site or app we always do it from the perspective of a normal guy. While our team of dating coaches is very good at attracting women online we’re not just looking for apps that work for us. We need something that a regular guy can pick up and get decent results with.

We have seen normal guys get the best results using AFF which is why we like to use it as a comparison point in these reviews. This is how the two stacked up against each other:

TenderMeets Logo Adult FriendFinder Logo

Our team rates each site objectively based on many hours of independent research, the features each site offers, and how it compares with other sites. The ratings are the opinion of our editors and their extensive experience.

2 9.5
Quality of Women

Our opinion of how attractive the typical woman is that uses this site and how easy they are to connect with compared to other sites.

2 9

How many people are using this site to actually meet people compared to other sites.

3 9

How easy is this site to use and how quickly can an average person begin meeting people compared to other sites.

9 10
Privacy & Safety

Does this site take proper precautions to safeguard its members, their identity, and their data.

1 10

Our opinion of how easily an average person will be able to achieve their dating goals with this site compared to other sites.

1 9

Will the time and money spent using this site pay off for an average person based on the opinions and experience of our editors.

1 10
Our Recommendation

Yeah, pure trash. A usable site template but that doesn’t make it any less cancerous.

In case it isn’t already clear in our Tender Meets review, my recommendation is to avoid this website entirely. If you’re looking for a hookup site that works, go read our article on writing an effective dating profile. Once you’ve got that done, set one up on AFF. You’ll find what you’re looking for on an actual site, safe in the knowledge that your credit card info hasn’t been sold.

Avoid every site in this network

Scroll down a little further and you’ll see a list of the known sites in this network. Don’t visit any of them, ever.

They’re all part of the same network. They’re all designed to fool you into paying for a “dating” site. The only “women” you’re going to speak to are either bots or men in another country hiding behind stolen photos.

Usually, I’d set up a profile on the site and run through an entire process to determine how effective the site is. Having done so many of these, the moment I saw the home page I knew there was no point.

Want to see what I mean? Here’s what you’re met with when you first log in. Notice how many notifications I have after just seconds of having a totally blank profile?

TenderMeets Users

That’s right, I’m so desirable, just creating an empty profile has women falling over themselves to message me! That’s how it works, right?

In fairness, check out the default avatar I’m rocking here. How could they possibly resist those looks? Yes, I’m accepting modeling gigs right now.

TenderMeets Avatar

Seriously though, if you ever see a bunch of notifications immediately after creating a profile on a site, run. Delete that profile immediately and never look back. Real women do not message blank profiles, that’s all there is to it.

Same old setup, different cringey site name

So the site itself doesn’t look terrible, right? The layout is nice and clean, things load quickly and it looks pretty trustworthy. I’d even go so far as to say it’s one of the better user experiences you’ll find on a dating site.

The problem, of course, is that despite what the profiles might suggest, there are no women here.

Take another look at the home page screenshot above. Now let’s see what some of their other sites look like:

TenderMeets Similar Sites

Surprised? We’ve barely even scratched the surface yet. I’ll get deeper into this whole setup soon.

Obvious tactics once you start digging

As I’ve always said throughout these reviews, the most dangerous type of sketchy site is one that hides it well. They look convincing until you’ve handed over your credit card info. By then, of course, it’s too late.

Thankfully, while this network looks convincing at first glance, that facade quickly crumbles when you start using it.

TenderMeets has a Tinder-esque feature where you can like photos of different women, and then these women will be notified. Sometimes they respond, but it’s more likely that you’ll receive a like back and a message asking you to pay for a membership before you can see her message. This is what the interface looks like:

TenderMeets Like Gallery

Despite having no profile photo, I even got my fair share of likes from ladies like Laki:

TenderMeets Photo Likes

Near as I can tell, the saving grace here is the people behind it. From the messages I’ve seen from reviewing all the sites above, one thing is clear. The guys behind this have never met an actual woman and take their cues from Pornhub titles.

They have no idea how women actually talk and it shows when they try to pretend they are one:

TenderMeets Chat

The only people who think women message like that are people that have never had an actual conversation with one. Awkward.

You’ll also get a bunch of messages and replies urging you to take the next step in their process. Since I haven’t uploaded a profile photo, these are the types of messages I’m getting right now:

TenderMeets chat

TenderMeets chat

TenderMeets chat

Thank goodness, Katerena. The absolute last thing I want is for anyone to know how interesting I am!

If I didn’t know any better, I’d think these guys really want me to add a profile photo. . .

Still, I think this one is my favorite. Like he just gave up on conversation and went “ugh, just give me your card details already”:

TenderMeets Pay to Chat

What other sites you can try

Further down in our Tender Meets review, you’ll see a long list of other sites you should NOT try. But if you’re looking to get laid in the near future, no other site will help you out better than AFF. For starters, AFF is a legit site that doesn’t exist solely to get your money. It actually helps people meet up for casual relationships.

In fact, a few days on AFF is enough to show you that there are so many women in your area who actually want to meet up. A few hours on TenderMeets, on the other hand, will only get you spam, time-wasters and bots.

Positives and negatives of TenderMeets

So with our stellar recommendation, are there any positive things about this site? Here are a few we found during our Tender Meets review.

  • Clean, simple user interface
  • Fast load time
  • Easy to navigate
  • A constant stream of instant messages you can’t reply to
  • A constant stream of messages in my inbox
  • Even so much as clicking on one of these messages and you’re prompted for payment
  • Not a single real user on the site

More about TopOffers

Where do we even begin here? I suppose we’ll start by outlining just how lucrative this network is. Maybe you’ll be as frustrated by all of this as I am.

According to this appendix from Snopes,

“Together Networks already operates dating websites including Be Naughty, Cheeky Lovers and Flirt, which were sold last year to Polyakov’s Grendall investment firm in a deal worth £45.1m.”

Yeah, that’s around USD 52,000,000.00 for just three sites in this network. 52 million dollars. Please do not visit these sites and contribute to that figure.

According to Snopes, the TopOffers network includes 218 websites. 72% of which share the same PO box in the British Virgin Islands and fall under a collection of shell companies.

Dating Coaches recommend The Top Alternatives To TenderMeets

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  • Best results for regular guys
  • Over 60 million active members
  • Not good for long-term relationships
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Great If You're Handsome
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  • Very popular, especially if you're 18-22
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TenderMeets has interesting terms and conditions

The terms and conditions of a site typically outline how your data will be kept safe. About how they use your photos on the site and what you’re agreeing to. We saw this stated clearly during our Tender Meets review.

For these sites though, it seems to be their sneaky place for laying out what they’ll do with your info. As though hiding it in here is their loophole so they can go “I told you so” later.

They will duplicate your profile on other sketchy sites

The site’s terms and conditions say so very clearly:

“When you sign up to any one of our Services we will send you an email shortly afterwards advising that we have created a duplicate profile on Partner Sites to enhance your chance of finding a suitable match.”

Why a site like this has terms and conditions is beyond me but okay. What they’re doing isn’t legal so paying a lawyer for terms and conditions seems a little daft. Like signing a contract with a drug dealer. . . I digress.

TenderMeets How We Use Your Information

It does say you’ll get the opportunity to opt out but I’m yet to see this opportunity. Not on the website or in my inbox. Strange, it’s almost like the people behind this site are dishonest. Shocking!

They’ll take your photos too

Having your dating profile duplicated isn’t ideal but things could be worse, right? Their whole network is fake so what are the chances of anyone seeing it anyway?

Using your photo for advertising and commercial purposes though, that’s a little different. Check this one out:

“…when you upload a photo to any of our Services you are allowing us to use that photo for advertising and other commercial purposes, royalty free.”

TenderMeets How We Use Your Photos

Yep, right there in the terms and conditions. Upload a photo and they reserve the right to use it wherever they like, royalty free.

Even your contacts are at risk

You’ll also get the opportunity to add your contacts to the site as a referral. If you do this, you’re also exposing them to the spam and who knows what else.

“If you choose to upload your Contact’s name and email address and/or mobile number you are allowing us to send an email or social network mobile invitation on your behalf, inviting your Contact to join the Services.”

TenderMeets How We Use Info About Your Contacts

Profiles, pictures and members

Usually, I would use this section to talk about the women I met on the site. To comment on the profile setup and how legit they looked.

In the case of Tender Meets, we’re just going to take a look at what a member profile looks like. I’m also going to reiterate once again that there are no real women on this site.

No matter what you do, you will not get a date from this website. The only people you’re likely to talk to are basement-dwellers in another country pretending to be women.

Now, let’s take a look at the type of profiles you’ll come across:

TenderMeets Profile

This is exactly what the profiles all look like. One or Two photos, often one hidden (because you need to pay to see the hidden photos), and an otherwise blank profile.

The women are always attractive yet plausibly real. As in, they’re good looking but they haven’t stolen professional model shoots so they actually look like a dating profile.

Fairly empty profiles aren’t uncommon from women in online dating sites. For 100% of profiles to look like this though. . . that’s lazy. I guess they couldn’t be bothered populating profiles for the sake of this ruse.


Ads are a telling sign that you’re probably on a sketchy dating site. If the site is legit, users will happily sign up and pay an ongoing subscription. No need to go squeezing ad revenue.

Interestingly, this network does use ads yet they aren’t for ad revenue. Instead, they always link to another site in their network and look something like this:

TenderMeets Ads

This makes me wonder if part of their CPA model is about referral traffic. In other words, for every visitor TenderMeets.com sends to the other site (Tender Flirts in this instance), they receive $x.

Again, speculation. It’s the only reason I can see for them to link to their other sites. There’s no SEO benefit since you need to be logged in to view the ads and see that link.

TenderMeets FAQ

To wrap up this TenderMeets review, let’s take a look at the dating world’s most frequently asked questions.

What is TenderMeets.com?

TenderMeets is a casual dating site that has popped up in the last few years. It has standard features you will find on a hundred other dating sites. After months of using it, we can confidently say that it’s also a complete waste of your time.

Who actually owns TenderMeets.com?

TenderMeets is owned by Portica Limited LTD, a company registered in the UK. This is the same company that owns many other similar low-quality dating sites.

How can I contact TenderMeets?

They make it very difficult to actually contact them. Unless you are a member they don’t provide any direct contact information. If you are a member you can contact them through the internal messaging system.

Is Tender Meets real?

Tender Meets is certainly real in the sense that it’s an actual site that exists. However, in our opinion, it is a very low quality site and a poor choice for almost anyone.

Is TenderMeets legit?

Not even close. It’s part of a large network of low-quality dating sites. We have tried and reviewed hundreds of different sites and TenderMeets is a bad choice for most.

Is TenderMeets a scam?

We hesitate to call TenderMeets.com an outright scam but it is certainly a waste of time. There are several great casual dating sites out there but this isn’t one of them.

Is Tender Meets safe?

We would not consider TenderMeets.com to be safe. This is a low-quality dating site where there are a lot of questionable things going on. We wouldn’t trust them.

What are TenderMeets alternatives?

There are several great options to TenderMeets that we’ve had a lot of success using. We’ve reviewed over 100 different sites and have had some great success with a select few. If you’re looking for casual dating, check out the best dating apps and websites for hookups we’ve tried recently.

Have a look through the list and see what works for you.

How does TenderMeets.com work?

TenderMeets is set up very simply and just like any other dating site. You signup on their site and begin searching for other singles. Unfortunately, it’s a very low-quality site and few (if any) other singles actually use it.

Is there a TenderMeets app?

No, there is not a TenderMeets app at this time. The only functionality exists on their website.

How much does TenderMeets.com cost?

You can join TenderMeets with the following subscription options:

  • 1-month membership – $34.99 per month
  • 3-month membership – $19.99 per month
  • 6-month membership – $15.99 per month

You’re able to choose one of the three subscription offers above. If you’ve read any of our Tender Meets review you will know that any of them are likely going to be a complete waste of money though.

How can you use TenderMeets.com for free?

Anyone can sign up for a free membership on Tendermeets.com but you will only be able to use a small number of the features. To do anything useful (like sending messages) you must sign up for a paid membership.

Can you send messages for free on Tender Meets?

No, you can’t send messages for free on Tender Meets. You need to sign up for a paid membership to communicate with other singles.

How do you log into TenderMeets?

You sign up with your email address and a password. Once your account has been created, click the Login link on the home page and enter these details.

How do you send messages on TenderMeets?

To send messages on this site you’ll need a premium subscription (not recommended). Once you’ve done that you can click Chat from any user’s profile.

How do you search on TenderMeets?

To search for particular profiles on this site you can use the search bar at the top of the home page. It allows you to select the gender, age range and location of women you want to see.

How do you cancel your TenderMeets membership?

Going by the many accounts available online, it’s seems like the only way to stop paying them is to cancel your credit card.

Official instructions to cancel your subscription are below but if you’ve signed up for a paid account, contact your bank asap.

  1. Click your profile photo in the top right corner
  2. Select “My Settings”
  3. Click “Billing History” (¾ of the way down on the right) then “Deactivate Subscription”
  4. Follow the steps in this wizard to cancel further payments

How do you delete your TenderMeets account?

To delete your profile just follow these steps. Note that you’ll have to cancel your paid subscription before you can do this.

  1. Click your profile photo in the top right corner
  2. Select “My Settings”
  3. Click “Remove Account” (¾ of the way down on the right)
  4. Follow the steps in this wizard to delete your profile

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