After the photos, your bio is the first thing women are going to see in your profile. Knowing how to write a good Tinder bio is going to make a huge difference to your success.
Most of my female friends go through the same process with Tinder. They’ll swipe quickly based on appearance alone. After they have a decent number of matches, they’ll take a quick look at each one.
Any that don’t make the cut (ie: blank and/or boring profiles) are unmatched pretty quickly or outright ignored. You don’t want to be one of those guys, so let’s take a look at ways you can improve.
Tinder isn’t the only hookup app on the market but this advice really works on all of them. If you’re using one of our other top-rated hookup sites and apps, you can pretty much apply this advice there and still succeed.
Tinder users see a lot of profiles in rapid-fire. That means you have a very short period of time to grab her attention. Initially, that’s where the photos come in which is a topic for another day.
Beyond that though, she’s still only going to spend a few seconds checking your bio. Getting it right can easily be the difference between that first date and being instantly unmatched.
Let’s look at how to write a good Tinder bio. Oh, and if you’re also figuring out what to do after you start collecting matches, I’ve got you. I already talked about starting a conversation on Tinder in a recent article. With more matches and better conversation, you’re about to have a whole lot of fun with this app.
She’s only going to glance at your bio, so flirting on Tinder with that 500 character limit is a bad idea. She might have flipped through 30 profiles in the last 60 seconds. I assure you, she isn’t stopping to read a short story in any of those, no matter how compelling you may be.
Instead, keep it succinct. Convey what you want to in as few characters as you can manage.
To put this in perspective, one of my friends has a seven-word bio and does very well for himself. The seven words? “Soft shell tacos or hard? It’s important.”
What’s he conveying with this? His sense of humor and generally laid-back personality. As though his biggest worry in this world is what kind of tacos she prefers. Of course, his photos are on point and do a lot of the talking for him as well. If you’re going to go this route, make sure you follow our guide for photos on Tinder.
My point in all of this is that you aren’t submitting a resume. Get creative and, just like everything else in the world of dating, experiment. I assure you this silly-yet-effective question is the result of a lot of trial and error for him too.
Especially when you’re targeting older women, proper spelling and grammar are crucial. Older generations seem to have an excellent grasp on these things and it can be jarring if you don’t.
I’m lucky enough that I don’t struggle with either. I can’t help but cringe every time I see the wrong your/you’re in a Facebook post or meme. Don’t make her cringe at your profile in the same way!
If spelling and grammar aren’t your strong suit, it’s not the end of the world. Just install the free Grammarly keyboard and it’ll help you out significantly. It’s similar to spell check but also keeps an eye on your grammar. It makes suggestions to improve your English overall -- not a bad side benefit, huh?
Most importantly, don’t use text speak, not even when trying out Tinder pickup lines. Not a single person, younger or older, is interested in reading “Wat R U looking 4” at any point. That’s practically a guarantee you won’t match with anyone.
If you’ve ever been catfished, you’re only too aware of the frustration that comes with it. The time and effort that goes into arriving on that first date only to realize it was all a lie.
Call me an optimist but I don’t believe these people are setting out to deceive anyone like this. That’s something to keep in mind when learning how to write a good Tinder bio. All it can take is a series of slight embellishments or omissions to completely mislead her.
Sure, they might help you get to that first date or a good start to a Tinder conversation but at what cost? Instead, just be honest about who you are. Intentionally or otherwise, misleading women into dating you isn’t going to yield great results.
In my experience, it’s better to be open about certain things that might deter women. This way you know that if the conversation is still going strong, they’re okay with it.
Maybe you have a child from a previous relationship and you’re worried it will put some matches off. The truth is, in some cases, it absolutely will. Would you rather her know now and walk away or discover three dates in that it’s a deal-breaker?
Out of respect for your time and hers, try to be as honest in your profile as you would like her to be.
Similar to my previous point, be straight-up about what you’re looking for on Tinder.
For a few months, my bio explicitly said that I wasn’t looking for a relationship. There were some conversations that ended early because of it but that’s okay. I wasn’t looking for women who wanted something long-term so we both saved ourselves some time.
There was another benefit to be had here as well. Since I was open about my intentions, women who were looking for the same thing became more open about it too.
This meant the whole process could be sped up significantly. We both knew we were on the same track so, in some instances, matching to the first date was less than an hour.
Even if you’re at the opposite end of that spectrum and all you want is a long-term relationship, the same applies. Say that in your profile, be willing to lose the matches that are looking for sex and reap the benefits of finding the right targets.
Unless you want to that depressed, sarcastic kid in the corner, keep your bio positive. It's not going to get you pity matches and your sarcasm won't break the ice on Tinder either.
Talk about your passions and what excites you rather than the things you dislike. Being around someone who only ever has negative things to say can be incredibly draining.
They criticize everything and tend to suck the fun out of every experience. Filling your bio with negativity doesn’t mean you’re one of these people but she doesn’t know that, right?
Conversely, positive people have great energy that everyone can appreciate. You could be having the worst day and a simple positive comment from them can change your entire perspective.
This is the sort of person that we all want to be around and it’s the side of you that your Tinder bio should portray.
You thought I was going to get through an entire Tinder article without mentioning humor, didn’t you? Unlikely.
Being able to make her laugh from your bio text alone makes you stand out immediately. Right away you’re demonstrating that you’re fun to be around and have a good sense of humor.
Maybe even more importantly, you’re easy to get along with so conversation won’t be awkward. Women of all ages really appreciate a good sense of humor, this is why it features in most of my Tinder articles.
The better you can get at conveying it through text, the more successful you’re going to be. Whether it’s your Tinder bio, chatting in the app or text messaging, it’s all the same.
With these quick tips on how to write a good Tinder bio, you should have no problem. If you’re stuck and can’t think of what to write, start with the basics and experiment from there.
Everyone’s personality is going to be a little different so there’s no perfect, cookie-cutter template. Instead, it should be something developed over time. I find this to be a much better approach because it really demonstrates who you are.
If nothing else, begin with a few bullet points to outline who you are. See how that goes for you and remember this article as you experiment over time.