Catching the signs she wants to fuck may be a difficult task. However, if you miss these important clues, you might wait too long to initiate sex and she might lose interest in you.
Assessing if an older woman is attracted to you sexually may be even more difficult. Older ladies are usually more discreet and they know the art of subtle seduction well. They may also like to leave you hanging for a while, to feel like they’re in charge while flirting.
Where ever you meet them (and you should check out our favorite places to meet single older women looking for hookups if you haven't) this guide explains how to know when she’s attracted to you in a sexual way.
Most Signs She Wants to Fuck Will Be Very Discreet
Most women won’t be blatant about their sexual desire for you. This is partly because most guys are intimidated by strong, confident women who aren’t afraid to ask for what they want, even in bed.
There’s a chance that the lady you’re flirting with has been slut-shamed several times by previous dates because she expressed her sexual interest in an explicit way. For this reason, she may want to let you know that she’s attracted in a subtler way. Then, if she sees that you reciprocate, she’ll probably escalate towards more explicit seduction tactics.
That said, here are the most common signs she wants to fuck you. These signs can show up no matter where you go to meet older women. If you see more than one of them, don’t be afraid to make the first move.
She keeps touching you even in a casual, friendly way
One of the biggest signs she wants to fuck—and, sadly, one of the most overlooked—is when she seems unable to keep her hands off you. In fact, touch is one of the things older women need to have sex.
A woman doesn’t necessarily have to touch you in a sexual or flirty way to express her interest. Instead, most ladies will do it in a very subtle way. Your date might try to casually touch your hand, especially when she’s talking to you. She might also fix the collar of your shirt.
But how can you distinguish casual touch from, well, sexy touch? According to the dating expert Brian M. from The Art of Charm, a woman has to touch you several times for it to mean sexual attraction.
“What you’re looking for isn’t one isolated example. What you’re looking for is a repeated pattern,” explains the expert. “If she keeps banging her elbow against yours in a totally empty room, she’s attracted to you. If she brushes her arm up against yours once in a room full of people, she might very well be into you, but she’s not signaling anything other than being in a crowded room.”
Bottom line: If she touches you often, no matter how casual her touch may seem, she’s likely very attracted to you. All you need to do is reciprocate the touch and escalate towards sexual body language.
She fixes her posture when in front of you
Another big sign of attraction is body language. A woman who’s attracted to you will try, even unconsciously, to fix her posture when she’s with you.
She could stick out her ass and chest or straighten her back to look curvier. Some women also hold their tummy in when they’re next to a man they like, but it’s quite difficult to notice unless she’s wearing a very tight dress.
Notice how she’s sitting. If she’s attracted to you, she could adopt the “leg twine” position, with her legs wrapped around each other. Marilyn Monroe often used this position to convey sexiness.
She could also cross and uncross her legs in front of you to draw attention to her thighs. Women do this very often when they’re wearing a mini skirt or a short dress!
She caresses herself—this is one of the biggest signs she wants to fuck
If you pay attention to women’s body language, you’ll notice that they often play with their hair when you’re talking to them. This is a strong sign of sexual attraction!
A lady who touches her hair when she’s with you may be embarrassed about her feelings of sexual desire, or she may feel shy because she really likes you. It’s also possible that she wants to attract your attention towards her new haircut.
Other times, ladies caress their own thighs or neck when they’re next to a guy they like. This draws your eyes towards her erogenous zones. If a woman does this when sitting with you in a bar, she’s definitely trying to flirt with you! After all, strippers and burlesque dancers often caress their own bodies during their performances to look sexy. They also do this while engaging in strong eye contact . . .
She makes eye contact
A woman who isn’t afraid to lock eyes with you is definitely attracted. Conversely, if she avoids eye contact, she probably isn’t looking to have sex with you.
According to most dating experts, the type of eye contact that signals sexual attraction is prolonged and intense. “If you find yourself holding a gaze with a woman and it feels longer than the usual eye contact made with strangers, she’s interested,” says Brian M. “It doesn’t have to be long, just three seconds or so is plenty.”
So, what to do if the sexy lady you just met initiates eye contact with you? First of all, reciprocate eye contact. This may sound obvious, but many guys are actually too shy to do it. Secondly, try to never look away first. This conveys confidence and sexiness. And if you see this, it's one of the top signs you can get her into bed.
One of the strongest signs she wants to fuck is when she uses sexual innuendos
Another overlooked sign she wants to fuck is when she tries to bring up sex during a casual conversation. Women do this to show you that they’re sexually uninhibited or even because they want to turn you on with sexual innuendos.
If you’ve known her for a while, this may happen when talking about exes. She might confess you which sexual acts she liked the most and what she would like to do in bed with her next boyfriend. The more openly she talks about these topics, the sooner you should made the first move and bed her!
However, keep in mind that some women are way more subtle than that. They try to seduce men with double entendres, which they see as a form of foreplay that makes sex even better. For example, women can mention they like bananas to hint that they’d like to have oral sex with you. You can reply with “Oh, I bet you do!” or “Oh, you’re a naughty one, aren’t you?” This way, she will know that you understood the innuendo.
However, not all women will do this. Some are just too shy to hint at sex at all during a normal conversation.
She peeps at you when you’re not looking
This can be a good sign of attraction, especially if combined with other signs she wants to fuck you. If you notice that she always tries to look at you—especially when you’re not looking at her—she may be strongly attracted to you.
Does she lick her lips or bite her tongue when she looks at you? Well done, bro: She’s definitely smitten!
When you notice her trying to steal a glance at you, always try to initiate eye contact. Don’t pretend you didn’t notice that she’s looking at you—she knows you did! Never, ever look down, because it conveys insecurity and shyness, which is the opposite of sexiness.
When she’s licking her lips a lot
While licking one’s lips often is not necessarily one of the best signs she wants to fuck, it’s definitely a huge sign of attraction.
That said, notice her body language, facial expression and how she behaves around you when she does this. If she’s constantly licking her lips while talking to you and has very sensual and intimate body language, it means she wants you bad.
She’s making herself ready to make out with you. She’s also already imagining doing so. So if you’re both somewhere private, don’t hesitate to pull her in and kiss her. Then take things further.
She makes an excuse to go to your place or invite you to hers
This might just be the most obvious sign she wants to fuck. There's absolutely no reason for a random woman to go to your place or invite you to hers. Unless you’re exceptionally good friends or she wants to sleep with you.
Basically, she’s signaling that she wants to go somewhere more private with you. She wants to be somewhere away from prying eyes so that she can have you all to herself.
She may even find an innocent-sounding excuse to see your place. Like asking if you have any good music to listen to or movies to watch. It’s just an excuse to go home with you. The not-so-subtle version of this would be her asking you, “My place or yours?”
So when you notice that she wants to go to your place or invites you to come to hers, don’t hesitate. You’re definitely going to get lucky if you accept, so take advantage of this and don’t miss the clear opportunity.