Here’s the great thing about having sex with most older women: They know what they want, and they have experience. And so, they’re usually more comfortable with themselves and their bodies than younger women.
That’s why it can be an amazing sexual experience. If you don’t give your older woman good sex – whether she’s a girlfriend, friends with benefits, wife, etc. – she’s not going to stick around for long. But once you learn how to satisfy older women in the bedroom, she’ll want to keep coming back again and again. She’s probably been with enough guys who don’t know what they’re doing - so you’ll be a refreshing change. Today, I’ll talk about how to have better sex with older women…
These are tips you can use with all kinds of women from long-time girlfriends to new friends you met on one of the quality hookup apps that actually work.
Let’s get into it!
Communication is key before, during, and after sex. This is because women are highly emotional. For us guys, we can look at a girl and know within seconds if we want to have sex with her - and we can be ready for that sex right away. This goes for women we meet on the top hookup apps out there worth trying or in a more traditional way around town.
But for women, that’s not enough - and this is especially the case for older women who’ve probably had some meaningless sex before (and now want something deeper). She needs to feel passion, and for that, she needs an emotional connection from the minute that you start the conversation
With this in mind, here’s how to communicate before, during, and after sex…
Communication before sex:
Ask her open-ended questions about her passions, experiences, dreams, and adventures
Look into her eyes for the majority of the conversation
Keep the conversation focused on her, but listen and relate back with experiences and stories from your own life after she tells you something about her life
Communication during sex:
Communication after sex:
You need to know how to talk to girls throughout the entire process if you really want to find success.
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When learning how to have great sex with older women, the idea of dominance can be very important.
Many attractive older women have taken control of their career, and have seized a high-level control over their lives in general (versus younger women who don’t quite know what they want out of their lives yet).
They enjoy having this control - but in the bedroom, they want to feel the opposite. They want to be able to let go completely and feel like the man is in total control.
That requires you to be confident in the bedroom and also extremely dominant.
Here are some ways you can be more dominant in the bedroom:
Older women know when you’re great at sex, and they also know when you need improvement. What’s more, they’re not afraid to tell you what you can do better (whereas a younger woman might let it slide or just not even notice it all).
So, you need to be open-minded, leave your ego at the door, and be willing to take and accept their advice.
Here’s a little embarrassing story to illustrate this…
I once had an older woman buy me a copy of The Multi-Orgasmic Man for my birthday. She enjoyed the sex we had, but she just wanted me to last longer, breathe deeper, and be more in the moment.
I could’ve been embarrassed. Instead, I embraced it, and improved on all of those things.
Now, I meditate consistently, have full control of my breath, and am deeply in the moment during sex.
The lesson? Don’t get bitter or defensive. When you’re open-minded with older women, you can greatly improve your sex life for years to come.
Foreplay is a core element of a great sexual experience. If you don’t know how to handle this part, then the sex will likely be sub par.
And the foreplay can start before anyone takes their pants off. How?
Massages, scented candles, incense, music…
You don’t need to go through the full gambit every time, but when you break out tools like these during foreplay, she’ll appreciate it and get very turned on.
Once you play the music and light the incense and candles, you can tell her to lie down and then give her a sexual massage.
Rub down her whole body. Back, head, arms, legs… and inch closer and closer to her pussy. Then, turn her around on her back and massage the front of her body with her hands, and then lightly kiss her breasts. Work your way down each leg with your mouth, then slowly back up to her pussy.
When you finally start the cunnilingus, she’ll be moaning uncontrollably.
A sexy older woman doesn’t want a 5-minute sex session. To have better sex with older women, you need to build your stamina and last longer.
You should be able to go at it for at least 10-15 minutes consistently - without worrying about finishing too quickly the whole time.
Here are some tips to improve your stamina:
If you follow all this guide, you’ll be able to have great sex with older women. Not only will you enjoy the sex a lot more yourself, but older women will literally get hooked on sex with you. Plus, it’ll be a lot easier to build relationships and get second dates with them.
To recap, here’s how to have better sex with older women: