If you are interested in dating older women, Chinese cougars are an absolutely great choice because there are lots of them. Chinese women have a short window to get married otherwise they are considered Sheng Nu, Mandarin for Leftover woman.
The age limit for marriage is typically 27, so you have a good chance of getting a Chinese older woman. Most of these women are very career oriented and if a Chinese woman is over the age of 35 and unmarried, you can almost bet that she is successful in her career. Chinese culture values hard work, and we often see these women succeeding in their careers and making lots of money.
Finally, Chinese women stick to gender roles. They value and appreciate men and you are more likely to get on with a Chinese older woman because deep down she adheres to the gender functions. These women also tend to deal with men’s egos better.
With these benefits out of the way, we know that you are here because you want to know where you can find a Chinese cougar. It doesn’t matter what city you live. These pointers apply to all the main cities and even many small ones. Without further ado;
Some suggestions from our team:
Older Chinese women have a taste for the familiar and tend to shop at Chinese and ethnic grocery stores. Picking up women while shopping isn’t that difficult, to begin with, but it is a lot easier at an ethnic store. Unfamiliar items surround you, and you can leverage this to start conversations with women.
It’s very easy to start a conversation here since most women aren’t expecting to meet someone while shopping for groceries. You will find plenty of ethnic or Chinese grocery stores in your city. Some of the big names include H-Mart, Shun Fat Supermarket, and 99 Ranch Market. Even your small family-owned ethnic store will do if you can’t find any of these in your city.
One of the best places to meet mature Chinese women is on cougar dating sites. These websites are convenient since the members already know what they are searching. You need not think about which women prefer younger guys as well as guys their own age because all of them do. You also save a lot of time that you might otherwise waste sitting around a bar or club.
Each year we rank and review all the top sites to meet a cougar and then rank the sites against each other. For the past several years the best site out there specifically for cougars has been Cougar Life (which you can try for free here). There isn't an easier way to meet a lot of single older women interested in younger and older guys.
Just enter your search criteria such as age, location, and ethnicity and allow the search engine to do the rest. Check them out and see how many single older women are in your area.
This idea is one of the prominent ones. Chinese women love Chinese food so going to a Chinese restaurant is a natural place to meet women. Weekend brunch or lunch is the best time to meet these women who are looking to unwind from a long week of work. They are also typically in groups, so they are easier to approach.
Women feel safer in numbers, so you usually don’t have to worry about looking creepy. Opt for the upscale Chinese restaurants where there are overall better quality cougars. Some good ones you might find in your city include San Tung and Din Tai Fung Dumpling House. The best advice is to go for authentic Chinese restaurants.
These women naturally know what real Chinese food tastes like and gravitate towards these restaurants. Find out what there is in your city.
These days, there seems to be an app for everything. It’s one of the many conveniences we have but it can also be overwhelming, particularly when it comes to dating apps. If you’re just looking for sex, it can be especially challenging to navigate the apps and figure out what the Chinese cougars on there are really after. Unless you're using our favorite, Adult FriendFinder.
This is the site you need to try if you are thinking about trying one. When it comes to success for average guys nothing else we have seen really comes close. There are no guarantees (any site that does that is a scam) but we have seen the best results from AFF and think you will as well.
It is well worth any guys time to spend a few minutes setting up a free profile and checking out the options you have in your area. The women who are most motivated to actually meet up tend to use this site so you won’t run into many fake profiles or women just looking to collect compliments from guys.
Adult FriendFinder is the best option we’ve seen if you just want some action. This is particularly true if you’re looking for women who are a little more mature than some of the young girls on the more trendy apps. They have the largest number of female members age 35+ and all of the women on there want sex, so it’s not your everyday dating app.
You might be wondering, “what about Tinder?” That’s a great question, and Tinder has certainly made a name for itself as a go-to app for casual sex. The thing with Tinder is that most of its female users are under 30. Also, we’ve found that some of the women on Tinder can be a bit squirrely about what they’re looking for, whether it’s serious or short-term. On Adult FriendFinder, you already know your matches want. They even offer a free trial so you can check them out first.
You can find a China Town in almost any city in the country. China Town is what it sounds like, lots of Chinese people. The weekend afternoon is an excellent time to peruse the stores and restaurants and get a taste of what the ‘real’ China is all about.It is also a good opportunity to meet single Chinese cougars.
Many prefer to buy from their own which is why Chinese businesses are so successful. There are also many events happening in China Town throughout the year. Research what is going on and what interests you and attend to mingle with all kinds of women. China Town also attracts a lot of Asian women who aren’t necessarily Chinese. You might be surprised to find out that you like Vietnamese women as well!
If you watch the Olympics, you know the Chinese dominate in ping pong. This game is revered in China so it is only natural that older women looking to exert themselves physically would visit the local club. You don’t even have to be good at the sport to join in the fun. You can sharpen your ping-pong skills and meet cougars at the same time.
You’ll probably have to pair up, so this is a great way to start a conversation organically and take it from there. This environment is easy going and playful which helps your pick-up game.
The Chinese New Year is usually around end January to mid-February. The date varies from one year to the next so find out when it’ll be happening this year. The best time is New Year’s Eve when the festivities begin in earnest. There is likely going to be a festival if there is a sizeable Chinese community in your town.
You can’t miss one in a big city. There are plenty of older women at these festivals looking to have fun. There is also plenty of excitement and alcohol flowing around, so inhibitions is small. The Chinese celebrate their New Year with a bang, so you are going to have a great time marveling at all the different costumes, dragons and cultural dances and festivities.
Find out where your local Chinese bars are and head down there on a Friday or Saturday evening. Bars are the next best places to meet women apart from a cougar dating site. Chinese and Asians, in general, are preoccupied with saving face, so you will rarely see a Chinese cougar at your local nightclub.
They prefer upscale Chinese bars where the crowd tends to be open minded and a woman drinking alone isn’t considered taboo. We have to warn you that the Chinese drinking culture is contradictory. Chinese in general love a man who can drink lots of alcohol. At the same time, they loath drunkenness and obnoxious behavior. If you can hold your drink, you’ll impress Chinese women.
This opportunity is perfect to relive your college days. Just don’t be a douche and be realistic about how much alcohol you can handle.
Chinese culture is very social. Take advantage of the Chinese people you already know and try to get invited over for dinner. A popular Chinese meal is the Hotpot, which is one large dish where everyone serves. This setup is perfect for getting near a cougar. Hopefully, your friend knows a few single women who he invites for dinner.
Worst case scenario is you get a great meal and expand your circle of Chinese friends increasing your chances of finding a cougar.
Chinese and karaoke is a long running joke but Asians in general love karaoke. They do it a little differently which is even better for you.
Chinese karaoke is less about sounding good and more about having fun. You don’t have to be a good singer to have a splendid time.
Chinese karaoke is also a private affair. It typically involves renting a private karaoke room, so you don’t have to worry about looking stupid in front of a group of strangers. This scenario is where your Chinese friends come in. Ask where and when they go out for karaoke and join them. You are very likely going to meet a cougar there.
If you like culture and decorum, you can still meet Chinese cougars. Tea rooms are great places to interact with Chinese people and Chinese culture.
How they pour the tea is a ceremony in itself and is an experience worth having.
The tea also typically accompanies games, usually mahjong, which is good news for you. It’s an easy way to talk to women without needing one-liners or witty pickup lines. Carry some extra cash because playing for money is very common at tea houses and in Chinese circles in general.
If you are a history fanatic or you like to learn new things in your downtime, you can leverage that to meet Chinese cougars. Find out about the Chinese Historical Society of America in your city. The institution hosts incredible plays and displays that are both entertaining and informational. These events also attract a particular type of Chinese older woman. This type is typically the second or third generation Chinese American who wants to learn more about her culture.
These women strike the delicate balance between eastern values and temperaments and western wordiness and flexibility. What we are trying to say is this type of woman is happy to take care of you while ready to party to the wee hours of the morning.
Nightclubs are fertile ground for cougar hunting and finding older Asian women is no different. We have talked about the Chinese and saving face, so you will rarely see a single Asian woman at your local rave.
These women prefer upscale nightclubs where she is least likely to run into her college-age nephew.
Find out the hottest and most exclusive club in your city and take a friend. These cougars tend to party in groups so that a wingman will be very useful.
Indulge Your Sweet Tooth at a Dessert Cafe
Asian cougars love dessert. They have an insatiable hunger for sweets, and Eastern deserts hit all the right spots. Visit local Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese or Indian dessert bars, and you won’t be disappointed.
We also like these types of environments because picking up a conversation is easy. Just ask a woman you fancy which desert she recommends, and you take it from there.
Chinese women, like all women, love to shop. They don’t just prefer Chinese stores and malls. You will always see these women at your local mall.
The cougars with a lot of money naturally have a taste for fine clothing.
You are likely to meet them at designer stores, so the mall is a great place to expand your horizons. The malls also attract ‘Americanized’ cougars that care less about being seen with a young stud. You might even leave with something nice if she likes you enough.
Here is the thing; Chinese cougars aren’t going to ask their married friends where they can have a wild night on the town. They use internet forums for these issues. It doesn’t take much to find a Chinese forum for your local area. It helps if you are city savvy and know all the nice and dingy spots. Get active on the forum and engage and answer as many questions as possible. Your efforts bear the fruit of a fun night out on the town.
There is a single place in the universe where there are more Chinese cougars that anywhere else; China. If you have the money and are looking for a vacation, why not go to China? This destination steeped with culture will give you your time’s worth. China has opened up a great deal while older Chinese women are open-minded. A foreigner is a novelty or curiosity that many brave women are happy to sample.
Only use the same rules you do at home to find women. Go to nightclubs, bars, restaurants and malls as this is where Chinese older women tend to hang out. Pro tip; make friends with the guys who are lower on the social ladder. We are talking about taxi drivers and bellboys. These guys know the city like no one else and can take you to the exact spot where you can find cougars.
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