2024 Quiver Review: Were We Quivering With Desire After this Review?

As you’ll see in most of my dating app reviews, these numbers alone tell most of the story. In the case of Quiver, it appears to be a perfectly legitimate website. Why the low scores if it’s not a scam? Great question.

In our review of Quiver we found a legitimate website but few active users

One major hurdle for a dating site to get over is generating an active user base. As is true with most things in life, people want what people want. In other words, the very act of being popular makes it attractive to even more people. This grows the popularity further, brings in more people and the cycle continues.

The same goes for the other way around. If a site lacks active users, the end result is what I observed with Quiver. A decent volume of profiles but most of them sitting dormant for years.

Since there are almost no active users, new users create a profile, see that it’s dead and never come back. This just adds to the problem and so that cycle continues.

All in all, I had zero interactions on Quiver. Not a single one.

Most users haven’t logged into Quiver.us in around two to six years

Each user’s profile shows you when they signed up and when they were last active (i.e. the last time they logged in). Of the 100+ profiles I looked at, the vast majority have been inactive for at least 2 years.

This is just one example of many, not a cherry-picked exception. If you’re going to try this site out for yourself, just make sure you check their “Last Active” date before bothering with anything else.

An app and website that share the same user base (and problem)

Quiver is a platform that’s available in a browser (Quiver.us) and app form. Functionality and user base are exactly the same, it’s just two different ways to access the same system. Both require your photos to be verified by their team before they’re visible on the app.

All the right tools in place, just no users

Honestly, it’s disappointing that Quiver is so quiet because it seems like a great site otherwise. One that I’d happily continue using. Users can post updates if they want to stay very active in the community. There are chat rooms and group conversations for local areas, events and kinks and the site works well.

Sadly though, as you can see below, an inactive user base renders all of these great features useless.

Take a look at the screenshot from the “groups” section below. With this feature, you can browse for and join groups that interest you. This particular group has 156 members, which suggests the site may have been active some time ago.

The fact that it’s the second group that shows up and it’s from Burning Man 2017 tells the story though.

The same is true in the chat functionality. There’s a default room for people that are new to the community which is an excellent idea. . . but it’s empty. There’s also an FAQ which would be great if it weren’t also empty.

You even have the ability to create your own room which, on an active site, would be perfect. You could set up educational events, parties or whatever you feel like and chat about it right there. What a shame there’s nobody to chat to.

Traveling? You can set a “travel plan”

Another great feature on this site is their travel plan function. If you know you’ll be traveling soon, you can choose to show up in that location ahead of time. Much like Tinder’s passport feature.

Especially helpful for making group plans, you can get comfortable with each other before you go anywhere. Like everything else on this site though, it’s a shame to see it wasted on inactive users.

Heavily targeted toward swingers right from the beginning

If you’ve never been part of “the lifestyle” (swinging), it can be an intimidating prospect. So many questions, so much apprehension and all-around uncertainty.

Yet another thing Quiver gets right is making the site feel like a safe, welcoming environment. Right from the sign-up process, you’re asked a series of questions about your preferences and what you’re looking for.

Although a minor detail, it cements the idea that you’re in the right place if this is what you’re looking for. It’s okay to be a couple looking for other couples and you won’t be judged for it.

This same theme runs through the rest of the site too. It feels like a safe and anonymous environment. While you do need photo verification to really do anything here, that doesn’t mean you need to have a public profile photo. Only Quiver’s team will see your verification photo.

Only completed, verified profiles will be shown

One frustration I come across with apps like Tinder is women using it to gain Instagram followers. It reeks of desperation on their end and it’s a waste of my limited swipes.

Quiver solves this problem by hiding your profile until you’ve been verified. As you can see below, my blank profile didn’t get me far. They have a clever system where the more of your profile you fill out, the more features you unlock.

The process is simple enough but still requires manual inspection on their end. This should do a great job of deterring spam accounts. For me, verification took about three hours.

A word of warning for those who plan to use the site though, you need to manually unhide your profile on completion. I submitted the verification photo, got approved and expected to start using the site properly. Instead, I had to manually enable my profile after being verified.

Single guy looking to explore? Expect more of a challenge

This isn’t a problem specific to Quiver but the lifestyle in general. As a very general rule, single men are more likely to actively seek some kind of group/sharing situation.

Combine this with the fact that, generally, couples are more likely to look for other couples or single women. It’s a bad balance that’s really nobody’s fault.

It’s the same way you’ll find it very difficult to enter a swingers club alone while single women are very welcome. As a single man, there’s just too much supply and not enough demand for us.

Unsurprisingly, this problem extends to Quiver as well. Most profiles I came across aren’t looking for single men. Below is a snippet of a very typical profile — the last line sums up exactly what I’m talking about.

I messaged every nearby user active in the last six months

The result was a grand total of zero conversations. I mean literally every single user within 50 miles of me that’s been active in the last six months. That meant looking at a lot of profiles and messaging just a handful but that’s exactly the problem.

Most users are very inactive and the others seem to have given up, much like I have. They’ve tried connecting with others, had no response from anywhere and moved on.

When I say active in the last six months, many of these have been inactive for three or four months. In fact, I only found one profile that was active in the last seven days.

Looking at that, it’s hardly surprising I didn’t get a response.

Luckily there are other sites like AFF that actually have an active userbase

Quiver may have been a great swingers hookup site at one point. But sadly, I’ll never know how great it actually was. Maybe it was the AFF of their day but with one key difference: AFF is still full of active users today.

Now keep in mind that no matter the platform, single men just generally have a tougher time finding couples who are interested in them. But with the right platform, you can make that search easier thanks to the sheer number of users online. And that’s the beauty of AFF: no matter your kink, you matter your lifestyle, there are so many people on the site that you’re bound to find someone you’ll click with!

Try the AFF free trial today and you might just get lucky tonight!