Gentlemen, when was the last time you thought about the way you walk? We’ve all had that moment where we can’t help but pay attention to a woman’s sexy walk. If you’re anything like me, it probably didn’t occur to you that you can achieve the same thing.
Don’t worry, it took me a long time to realize this was a “thing” as well. Truth is, that’s actually a positive for both of us because we’re not alone. This is just not something women really talk about (at least not to us) or men think about.
So, the bar on this topic is set low. So low that even the slightest improvement here will give you an advantage over the majority of men. It’s not something that comes naturally to most of us so in this article, I’m going to walk you through everything you need to know.
How to Be a Seductive Man
There are a lot of elements involved in learning how to be a seductive man (seriously look at just how much content we have on dating tips and seduction!) When we’re thinking about the ways we can make our movement more attractive to women, there are three major elements here.
Let’s take a look at each of these before we move on to that sexy walk.
Give the right signals
We can communicate so much through our body language alone. Let’s think about it with two simple examples that we’ve all seen before.
Think about two different men at your local bar, both sitting with the same group of friends. One of them sits quietly, shoulders slumped, looking at the coasters on the table. The other, sitting proudly. Good posture, engaged in and often leading the conversation, laughing, making eye contact with his friends and others around the room.
Which of these men do you think would be the most fun to be around? More importantly, which do you think would be considered more attractive and why?
Show that you’re relaxed and confident
The answer is obviously the second man in this example. As for why, it’s all about confidence. Exactly what he’s saying is completely irrelevant, it’s about the way he carries himself.
He’s sitting there with good posture, having a great time, engaging with his friends while also taking in his surroundings. Whether it’s true or not, the image he’s giving off is that he’s comfortable, confident and open to talking to other people.
The first guy, on the other hand, gives the impression that he was forced to come out and can’t wait for an excuse to go home. There’s nothing at all wrong with being an introvert, however, if you’re learning how to be a seductive man, looking like an introvert isn’t doing you any favors.
Interestingly enough, did you know that one way to boost your confidence instantly is by wearing a cologne you like?
Look good, feel good
If you’re struggling with confidence (I started out that way, don’t worry), the first thing I want you to do is take a good look at yourself. Figure out what it is you don’t love about who you are and how you look. Then, figure out what you can do to change it.
For me, it was about my weight and my perceived lack of social skills. Through the usual story of diet and exercise, I started looking and feeling much better. This combined with a mild case of “fake it ‘till you make it” confidence and, within months, I was like a different person.
I enjoyed going out, I was happy being there and I loved talking to new people.
All of this is to say that when you start looking and feeling good, you’ll naturally start to exude more confidence. It’ll happen slowly, but one day you’ll look around and realize you’ve become the second guy in my example above. But if you want an instant confidence boost, try wearing something red. Studies show that wearing red can increase your confidence by a bit--which might be enough to make you more attractive to women.
Without saying a word, your body language alone is making you a more attractive, more seductive man.
Check out Marcus’ article on building your self-esteem for some more great pointers.
Why You Should Have a Sexy Walk
My example above was all about how you can come across as more attractive while sitting at a table. It's also interesting to note how your posture in general can increase your attractiveness by a lot. This same concept applies just as much to the way you walk. Whether she’s noticed you at the table or didn’t see you until you walk by, the way you carry yourself here matters a lot.
It doesn’t matter how great you look sitting down, if you shuffle past her looking like you’re headed to a funeral, it really kills the attraction. Instead, think about all those things that demonstrate confidence and apply them to your walk as well.
Ultimately, that’s how you develop a sexy walk. More on that soon.
A confident walk is a sexy walk
Clearly, this is the most important “why” to consider. Confidence is one of the few things every single human can agree is attractive. So, think about how you can convey this in your walk as much as you do in other parts of your dating life.
A sexy walk will do one of two things. Either it’ll add to the attraction if she’s already noticed you or it’ll make you stand out as you walk by.
In either case, once you can learn how to walk sexy, you’re going to attract more of the right kind of attention just by the way you move.
Convey the right message
By working on your walk, you’re making sure you set the right tone for anyone watching. You’re calm, confident and happy to be out.
No catwalk-style scowl, just enjoy your environment. Make it clear that you’re approachable and fun to be around.
How to Walk Sexy
Before we wrap this up, let’s take a closer look at some specific tips to help you send the right message. Learning how to walk sexy isn’t difficult, it’s just something that’ll take some practice, like most things in dating.
Here are five tips to help you develop your own sexy walk and swagger.
It all starts with good posture
At an evolutionary level, there’s something inherently unattractive about bad posture. It signals poor overall health and low confidence if nothing else.
Think about it, when was the last time you saw someone with six-pack abs slouching at the table with their neck craned awkwardly forward?
For most people, as our strength and fitness improve, so too does our awareness of what we’re doing with our bodies. If posture is something you struggle with, the best place to start is some basic exercises you can do at home.
You can do it put your. . . shoulders into it
Developing a sexy walk means thinking about your entire body. If all the movement happens from the hips down, you start to look more like a Wii character than a strong, confident man.
As you’re practicing, think about what your shoulders are doing as well. They should be moving slightly back and forth, opposite to your feet. As you step forward with your left foot, your right shoulder tilts slightly forward. Talk a look at the male models in the clip below to see it for yourself.
Notice how subtle this movement is, but how much it adds to their walk?
Eyes up, walk proud
Good eye contact is an excellent way to convey that you’re comfortable and confident. Particularly if you’re used to looking at the floor or actively avoiding eye contact when you walk, this will be a game-changer for you.
Force yourself to look up. You can start by just looking at inanimate objects around eye level if you need to start slow. Then, start making an active effort to take in your surroundings as you walk.
You’re not trying to look at or look for anything in particular, just get used to casually scanning the room as you move around. If someone makes eye contact, hold it for a moment before you get back to scanning.
Remember, we’re not trying to avoid social interaction here. Responding to eye contact by immediately looking at the floor sends a heavy signal that you’re just not open to it.
Smile, you’re having fun
To add to this confidence and swagger, a smile will make you look that much more appealing and approachable. Obviously, walking around with a huge, toothy smile everywhere you go will make you look like a serial killer.
Since that’s only attractive to a select few women, tone it down a little. Rather than an obvious smile, just think about lightening your facial expressions. Quit frowning, relax your face and think about the most fun thing you’ve done this year. That expression you’re doing right now, that’s what we’re looking for.
“Loosen up” says the guy writing an entire article about the importance of a sexy walk, right? The very fact there are so many things to think about is why I’m including this in the list.
As I started working on this for myself, it’s something I had to keep reminding myself of. As we get wrapped up in the details, our walk can start looking forced and robotic.
If you catch yourself doing this, shake it out and relax a little. Let your shoulders drop, your hands relax by your sides and try again. Often, you’ll find that a slight reset is all it takes.
There you have it, gentlemen. A host of great tips to help you start developing your own swagger. Give off the right signals, get noticed for the right reasons and enjoy the success that brings.
Start at home in a mirror and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself. Once this starts to feel more natural, roll it into your everyday life. Within a few weeks, you won’t even notice that you’re doing it automatically and your dating life will thank you for it.