The fact that online dating has become the norm is a fantastic thing. It gives everyone the same access to dating, no matter who they are. It also means that even the most unique of kinks has a place online. In this Whiplr review, I’m going to cover an app that claims to offer exactly that — a safe space to put your kinks out there and explore. The downside to the prevalence of these apps, of course, is that not all of them are legitimate.
Follow along while I go through the entire experience so you don’t have to. Since some of these dating apps can be questionable at best, you’re far better off letting us take the risks!
As always, let’s talk about the process I use to review these dating apps first. Really, without a standardized process, this would all just be personal opinion, right?
Since this app claims to be designed for exactly that purpose, that’s how I treated it. Knowing for a fact there’s a strong community for it in my city, I was interested to see how this went.
Before I get into the details of what I found, let’s do a quick comparison. You can see a quick overview of how it fared against Adult Friend Finder, the biggest name in hookup dating sites for a long time now.
Being that they’re the go-to for almost 60,000,000 people, they’re the perfect site to make this comparison against. Really, we all want to be using the best option that’s out there so if Whiplr doesn’t stack up, it’s best to know now.
In this particular case, the numbers are very telling:
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Does this site take proper precautions to safeguard its members, their identity, and their data.
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Will the time and money spent using this site pay off for an average person based on the opinions and experience of our editors.
The reason almost everything was given a score of one here is that zero isn’t an option. Since the overall result is already very clear, I can tell you right now — this app is useless. The profiles are weird, the messages are mostly spammy and it was just an odd experience all around. We highly recommend that you use a different app.
Honestly, my initial impressions with Whiplr were great. The setup process lacked polish but beyond that, it was reasonably detailed which is often a great sign.
Sadly though, the moment my profile was set up and I could see the users “near” me, that illusion was shattered.
Still, they ask a lot of questions in terms of your kinks and preferences. Defining themselves as “A messenger with kinks,” they even claim to have industry stars in their community.
It’s a shame this initial setup is wasted on such a trash app to be honest. Usually the setup for a fake dating app is very basic because it really doesn’t make sense. Sadly though, some apps have a more detailed process so they feel more legitimate.
Ultimately, all of this is aimed at fooling you into a paid membership.
Like any normal user on a dating app, I was genuinely trying to set up dates through Whiplr. That made it incredibly frustrating to find that almost all of the users are showing as more than 500km away.
I live downtown and my dates are always within a 5- to 15-minute walk from my apartment. For me, even 50km away is a solid deal breaker. Still, I pressed on anyway to see what would happen.
In most cases, the profiles on this site either don’t have a photo at all or they have a single pic. Much like the profile from “Magnolia” below, they tend to be pretty sparse in general.
This is another very common thing you can expect to find when you’re looking at a bad site. Since they aren’t real users creating their own personal profile, they set up some basic information and move on.
Finding a sea of half-finished profiles came as absolutely no shock, given the rest of my experience on the app by this point.
Also, note that her weight is 55kg and her height is. . . 160kg. That’s right, she’s 160kg tall. This is an error across the site — everything was showing in metric units and height always says “kg”.
Speaking of not being surprised, I also started to receive a lot of spam messages fairly soon after getting everything set up. One obvious sign they were fake messages is the fact that some of them were almost duplicates.
Better yet, in the case of “Mistress Clara”, there were two accounts with the same person in the profile photo. “Clara” sent almost the same message twice from two different accounts.
The other obvious sign to look out for are accounts that want you to immediately click a link or follow them somewhere else. Most often, they’ll want you to contact them on kik. In the case of “goddess becky,” it was Google Hangout.
Regardless, if you’re ever asked to immediately contact someone on another app, it’s a scam. That’s just general advice for safe online dating.
As with most sites like this, messaging other users comes with a price. However, Whiplr gives its female users an added perk: free unlimited messaging.
Initially, I was skeptical about this, so I created an account as a female user. True enough, I was able to message other users, male or female, without running into a paywall. I was even able to have a fairly decent conversation with someone. Most of his questions were pretty basic, but at least I knew I was talking to a person. Shame he didn’t have a photo, though.
I didn’t have any other conversations because, despite not specifying my location, only 5 people were online and only one of them replied to me. So while there may be real people on this app, there clearly isn’t enough of them to keep anyone interested.
In case you haven’t read from the beginning, this app is a total waste of time and you shouldn’t so much as install it. Still, if you’re searching for a new dating app to use, read on. If nothing else, it’s always good to see what a fake one looks like so you can spot them easier in the future.
Now when it comes to legit apps that will satisfy your kinks, cravings and whatnot, only Adult FriendFinder actually does what it promises to do. There are thousands of people using it in most major cities, all the profiles are legit (AFF tracks down fakes quickly) and it’s full of people who want to get laid. That means you’re very likely to find women who are eager to meet up, unlike with Whiplr where all the “women” are at least 200 miles away and don’t reply at all.
So if you’re on the lookout for a legit, reliable and popular hookup site, try Adult FriendFinder’s free trial!
Sticking with the high-level elements right now, let’s compare pros and cons for Whiplr as well.
You saw the messages from Mistress Clara above. Not only was her name and message identical on both apps, it appears to be the same person!
Since she’s actively using both and they’re both tagged with a paid “Dekadom” account, this makes no sense if they were legit.
If only one of them had messaged me, maybe we could make the argument that she just forgot about her old account or got locked out. Sadly for Clara though, this is an obvious fake.
After weeks of using this app and genuinely trying to set up dates, I’m sad to say I didn’t have an actual conversation with anyone.
They were all quick to message me but nobody ever responded. At least some fake dating apps will have bots that attempt a conversation with you but this was all one-sided communication.
Just like in the screenshots of Clara’s profile above, every user on here seems to have a “Dekadom” tag. This is the name they give to their premium accounts. Most likely, this is designed to make you feel as though you need to upgrade as well.
In the screenshot above with the grid of user profiles, you can see just how widespread it is. Every profile you see with a small red badge on it (literally 100% of them) is a paid account.
Here’s the kicker, though. Whiplr isn’t upfront about its site pricing. Instead, they offer to make you a free premium user if you just give them your credit card details. As a free premium user, you get 10 “playground points” that you can use to chat with users, join groups and search for other users.
There seems to be no information (at least upfront) about how much it costs to be an actual Dekadom. Either way, sounds fishy.
This is yet another thing you’ll come across on fake dating apps and websites. Since they want you to pay for a premium membership, they’ll spam you with messages and make you pay to respond. With a lot of these fake apps, they’ll even make you pay to see the messages.
At least with Whiplr you can see the messages first, although it highlights why many of their competitors don’t — it’s easy to see they’re fake without handing over your money first.
Either way, you can’t send a single message on this app until you pay for their premium “Dekadom” access. Although that membership promises a lot of benefits, you’re only talking to scammers so there’s nothing to be gained.
Whiplr also has a “groups” feature that might work if the app were legit. Since it isn’t though, it’s just an unnecessary element. Presumably also there to make it seem more legitimate.
As the feature name would suggest, it’s just groups of people who want to chat. There are groups for locations (i.e. chat to people in your city), for different kinks, BDSM 101 and so on.
It’s almost a shame we can’t see this in action with real users because it could prove to be a great feature. Here though, it’s a waste of time. I’m yet to see any activity because “hey”, “hi” was all I saw in my city’s group after weeks of being part of it.
At the bottom of the app you’ll see a tab they call “shots.” Much like Instagram, it’s basically just somewhere for these accounts to upload thirst traps.
Also much like Instagram, the comments are mostly spam. In this case, the majority of the comments are trying to set up a sugar baby arrangement. There’s something oddly satisfying about seeing scammers deal with spam comments.
In any case, looking through the comments of this section was the best part of this review. First, here’s a photo from “StacyStones.”
Hmm, I wonder if I’m the right man she can make a good wife to. She seems really into it! Maybe I should message her — let’s see what the other comments have to say though.
Oh no, poor “Stacy” is getting spam messages. Satisfying, really. Still, it gets better.
Admittedly, “ThePet” was out of line here but still, that’s quite the aggressive tirade. If you’re unfamiliar with scammers in general, this is a pretty common tactic from them. Outright aggression to make the other person doubt themselves. It also scares away anyone else from calling them out.
On second thought, I don’t think “Stacy” would make a great wife for me.
To make sure these reviews are as thorough and informative as possible, I always finish up with the most frequently asked questions.
If you still have questions about Whiplr that I haven’t covered, let us know and we can happily update the review!
The Whiplr dating app claims to be designed for those looking to explore their kinks and meet people with similar interests. In reality, it’s just another useless app that’s full of fakers.
Like most apps, you can sign up with your email address and create a password. After that, the app will keep you logged in.
If you decide to delete it and reinstall it, you can just log in with that same username and password again later.
Since this app is a complete waste of time, you’re far better off using Adult Friend Finder. Still, if you want to explore a larger range of dating apps and websites, we reviewed all the best ones right now.
Read through the list, see which ones seem to fit you best and go for it!
Like most apps, when you create a profile on Whiplr, you’re given a free account. It allows you to look at profiles near you and use basic filters but that’s about it.
Since you can’t message anyone or reply to the (spam) messages you receive, you’re heavily limited.
Since Whiplr’s only paid option is a lifetime membership charge, there’s no way to cancel that membership. You only ever get charged once so basically, there’s nothing to cancel.
To delete your account, there are a few steps to run through:
1. Tap the Whiplr icon in the top left corner
2. Tape MORE at the bottom to see more options
3. Tap Settings
4. Tap Account
5. Select Delete profile
For reasons I don’t quite understand, Whiplr doesn’t use a standard monthly subscription model. You pay for premium “Dekadom” access once and have access to it for life.
You can, however, give the site your credit card details to get “free premium access” that you can use to chat with people on the site. Looks like you need to do this before you can view their membership fees.
Mostly not. I wasn’t able to find proof of any real profiles on here at all. It appears to be populated primarily by spam accounts.
Not at all. Since I couldn’t find any real users, it makes sense that I wasn’t able to set up any dates either. I did receive a lot of invitations to contact spammers through other websites though.
To message someone on Whiplr, you need to upgrade to a paid “Dekadom” account. Once you have that, you can tap on a user’s profile then select “chat” to communicate with them.
However, if you’re female, you can message anyone even without an account. That just makes it easier for spammers to make accounts.
Instead of searching like you might expect from a dating website, Whiplr allows you to filter instead.
Presented with a grid of profiles, you can filter by factors like age, distance, kinks etc to narrow down the type of profiles you’ll see.