The Expert’s Guide to Meeting Cougars in El Paso in 2021 - Where To Go And How To Date Them

A group of attractive cougars in El Paso drinking champagne at a bar

There are lots of places to visit if you are searching for cougars in El Paso. However, with a huge city like ours, time becomes an issue. You want to know the best cougar bars and hangouts to avoid wasting time. This is where we can help you!

From yoga studios to organic stores, our city is abundant with cougars who want to have some good times with young cubs like you. Hopefully, you don’t get overwhelmed by the sheer amount of spots where El Paso cougars abound. Even little neighborhoods and shopping malls like The Fountains at Farah are teeming with sexy mature women.

Our city has tons of establishments where people looking for companionship can hang out.  You just need to know where you can find single older ladies and not a bunch of you ladies in their early twenties. There may be so many to choose from but worry not because we’ve got your back.

You can now spend your time wisely. Below are some of the proven spots where you can meet attractive cougars. Check them out and thank us later.

The Best Places to Find Cougars in El Paso

Got time for just one bar tonight? Make it our top pick for the best bar to meet older women.

Circa 1963 at Hotel Indigo for romantic encounters with El Paso cougars

Mature women partying at Circa 1963


For luscious older ladies who love cozy and romantically-lit interiors, check out Circa 1963 at Hotel Indigo! With its trendy décor, relaxing lounge, and toasty fireplace, Circa electrifies your senses as you search for hot cougars.

At times, this venue attracts some of the hottest cougars in the city especially those who're in town for just a few days and are looking for some quick fun. The place has a relaxed nature that allows you to have a romantic chat without much disturbance and if things go well, you can take off and bring the fun to her room.

Our pick for the best El Paso cougar dating site is  Adult FriendFinder if you ONLY want a physical relationship (try it free)

Homepage of Adult Finder

Sure, Cougar Life is great if you are interested in a real relationship. But what if you want to find a cougar in El Paso for a little action? We have had the most luck with Adult FriendFinder.

Regularly at the top of our list of proven meetup apps, Adult FriendFinder beats every other online resource for finding El Paso cougars. After a lot of experimentation, we think we know why.

It’s hard NOT to recommend that guys at least check out Adult FriendFinder (you can try them for free with the links above after all). We have seen a lot of guys find success using it and most of those guys have been pretty average in the looks department. With that kind of success and how little time it takes to use there really isn’t a downside.

This is our most useful way to meet cougars to take home around the city!

Most cougars missed the Tinder wave (they were too old) and don't want to try now. They don't like having to compete with women who are 10 to 20 years younger than them. If you have tried Tinder you know what we mean.

Instead, Adult FriendFinder has been around for fifteen years and is much more familiar to them. It is also easier to use and has a much wider variety of people on it. This makes cougars feel much more comfortable and that keeps them around.

AFF is also completely focused on connecting people for a little physical fun. And by physical, we mean the kind that’s better done behind closed doors. Busy cougars appreciate that and so will you. Check out their free trial and see for yourself. It will surprise you how many women are using it.

A little time spent on Adult FriendFinder along with checking out some other solid spots for some naughty encounters in El Paso can go a long way.

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If you actually want to meet single cougars who are more interested in fun in the bedroom than a long-term relationship you need to check out Adult FriendFinder's free trial with this link. We've spent many months testing out 100+ different sites and apps to meet cougars and AFF has consistently been the easiest way for most men.


Homepage for Cougar Life

Cougar Life is great for finding relationships with mature women (try it free)

When it comes to meeting a lot of cougars in El Paso quickly, especially those interested in dating younger guys, there isn't a better option than Cougar Life (which just so happens to have a free trial). Older women are often just too busy to spend a lot of time in bars and clubs so many of them have been looking online to meet guys. In fact, a lot of them are ONLY looking online these days.

If you're not spending at least a little time on Cougar Life you're going to miss out on a lot of opportunities!

There are a lot of dating sites and apps out there (and we've tried just about all of them in our cougar dating site review) but none of them really deliver as well as Cougar Life does. Here are a few reasons why we think it works so well:

There are a lot of cougars in El Paso using it

There are more popular apps and sites out there but they just don't have the cougars. Cougar Life has over 7 million active members and EVERY SINGLE WOMAN on this site is a cougar. There is no reason for a non-cougar to even consider signing up!

Instead of scrolling through hundreds of profiles hoping to find an attractive single cougar, especially one interested in dating both younger and older guys, they are all right here. It saves so much time and frustration!

A really good mix El Paso cougars who want short and long-term

Cougar Life does a great job of attracting women interested in both short-term fun and a real relationship. The other top sites out there can be great but tend to attract a very specific type of woman.

If you haven't tried it out yet give Cougar Life's free trial a shot. You have nothing to lose and you can't expect to get new results without changing up your approach. Guys who really want to find a cougar aren't going to be able to do better elsewhere (in our experience).

Sing your heart out at Erin’s Bar

Sexy older women at Erin’s Bar

This karaoke bar is a crowd favorite among energetic older women who love to sing to their hearts’ delight. It's one of those cougar bars in El Paso where the atmosphere is cool and the women are cooler. Its covered patio gives it a house party vibe and its selection of drinks makes it popular among locals. Cougars go here to celebrate their birthdays or to hang out with friends.

Erin’s Bar is a great place to enjoy drinks with older women. You’ll love the overall atmosphere and the friendly staff. Practice your favorite songs and sing your heart out. Pick a song that everyone knows and likes. You get extra credit if people like and sing with you. And while doing that, you can maintain eye contact with a cougar or two that you like. It will spark their attention and who knows? Maybe you’ll hook up with a feisty El Paso cougar.

Texas Stagecoach Saloon is an incredibly fun place to meet lots of El Paso single women

Top El Paso Cougar Bars and Cougar Clubs

El Paso is busy and always packed with cougars of every type. The fancy, the humble single mom, the ring lovers, and the fling-seeking ones.....all in one place.

Most bars here have this cool Texan vibe, so expect to see a lot of boots down here. However, we believe upping your style one notch or two will make you stand out from the crowd and grab the hotties by the eyes.

Also, when deciding on which bar to go to, try to pick the best ones within your area. Don't shoot for a faraway bar just cause it has a 4.9 rate on Google Reviews. You may have fun, but you will have difficulty pulling the woman back home at night and the night will be pointless. So choose wisely, we're already giving you a lot of options.

A cute El Paso cougar at Cabo Joe's


Meet Cougars In El Paso During The Day

Meeting cougars during the night can be hard for some men who are either shy, introverted or don't have for night game. To those, we say "we feel you." Sometimes it's very hard to pick yourself up and hit a bar, especially by yourself. The women can be intimidating, the competition is high, and you may think you're not as equally cool as those mucho guys buying her drinks. And this is why we love day game.

Talking to women during the day is the womanizer's secret weapon. Every guy is on Tinder nowadays and no one is paying attention to the power of walking up to a woman and flirting with her. It's brave, unexpected, and sweeps women off their feet if you do it correctly.

It's also time effective because you do it while doing other activities. Gyms, cafes, malls, and supermarkets. All are packed with unapproached women many of which well welcome being talked to by a real man. In fact, you have a higher chance of attracting hot cougars on the street than on Tinder which doesn't help you convey your true personality. That hot cougar who swiped left on you on Tinder or Bumble can be your date if you show her some confidence...and it's something you can easily during the day.

Where exactly in El Paso? At the following spots:

Single women in El Paso can’t get enough of The Johnny Cash Beer Garden


The Guide To Cougar Dating In El Paso

Like I said before, there are different types of El Paso cougars. Some are in it for the fun, while others will be looking for a long-term partner or someone to help out with the kids. It's cool, some people want different things, but what matters is what do you want?

Your goal will determine where you will take her out to. If she's open-minded and it seems like you can bring her home on the first date no problemo, then a romantic bar, or a few of them, can be the option.

If, however, she's more into "let's hang out and see if we're a good fit," then you can take her to a nice restaurant or some beer garden.

If you just want to keep it casual take her to a lounge

Lounges are romantic and help you build intimacy. We recommend that you pick one that is kinda close to your place, spend a couple of hours there, then take her to another place (even closer), and then eventually pull to your place.

A few extra tips to use:

1. Sit next to her

Never sit in front of any woman you are dating. Sit next to her so you can be intimate together - the least of which is holding her hands.

2. Come early and befriend the bartender/waiters

Or at least know their names. It tells her you're not a shy weird who's here to kill her.

3. Assume the burden of the conversation

Some women aren't chatty with strangers, so you'll have to carry the conversation on your shoulder till she gets comfortable or begins to laugh.

4. Listen and emphasize

Listen as she speaks and emphasize whatever she says about herself. Rephrase/repeat what she says in different words. It may sound manipulative but you're doing her (and everyone) a favor by making her feel listened to.

5. Show alpha signs

Tease, flirt, push-pull, maintain eye contact and be assertive. Make her feel she's out with a real alpha (which should be who your real personality). Take the lead and solve problems. Small things like calling the waiter first or asking someone to lend you an empty chair matter to women.

6. Escalate

Use any opportunity to hold her hands early on. Be it palm reading, crossing the road, or just holding pinkies. I usually share a story early whose context requires me to hold her two middle fingers.

As the conversation goes on, you tease her by accusing her of trying to seduce you or come onto you. Something like "is that you're pickup line," or "no, you're not getting into my pants tonight" or "is that your way of telling me to kiss you." Works with me every time and makes her giggle.

Later on, you can use another point where her emotions are high and then kiss her. Look her in the eye, say "come here" and kiss her. If you did the job right, she will comply with you. If, however, she refuses. Don't defend yourself. You may tell her "you looked cute and I had to go for it" but that's it. Never apologize for your masculinity. She will like you even more and will most probably comply the next time you go for the kiss.

So many tips. Yes, but they will get the job done.

Now let's talk about the best lounges to take El Paso cougars to on dates.

Women admiring the artwork at Centennial Museum and Gardens


If you're more serious about dating her try a comedy club, piano bar, or fun activity

I'm against any activity that takes away the woman's attention from you, especially on the first date. Examples of this are cinemas and comedy clubs. She will spend three hours with you without even talking. Her eyes will be on the comedian and by the time you try to kiss her, it will be over because it's too late and didn't warm her up for it.

These places, however, are good if you've already slept with her and you're deciding if what's between you two can be long-term.

Below are a few piano bars, comedy clubs, parks, and theatres where you can take El Paso cougars on dates:

More suggestions for dinner dates

If she's very old school you can always do a dinner date but that isn't recommended unless you have the budget and will bounce her between different places.

Below are a few upscale El Paso restaurants in case you want to show off a little bit.

A map of all the best cougar dating spots in El Paso

We combined all the dating/pickup spots in just one map to make your life easier. Pick a plaec that is close to you and go have fun.

Our city has lots of suburbs, all of them with neighborhood bars of their own. Here are the El Paso cougar bars we like.


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  • Lesley

    I'm not local. Current in Elpaso of family matters. I'm from Oklahoma, etc., looking for nice company to eventually get to know better. Best way to describe me is a very nice Person that's independent looking to spend time, hopefully the rest of my life with a lady, been looking for years.

    Seriously distance is not a problem.


  • joe salas

    How are you doing?

  • Vanessa

    Went to Teddys in November and had a blast and i'm going back again at the end of January

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