The Expert’s Guide to Meeting Cougars in El Paso in 2023 - Where To Go And How To Date Them

A group of attractive cougars in El Paso drinking champagne at a bar

There are lots of places to visit if you are searching for cougars in El Paso. However, with a huge city like ours, time becomes an issue. You want to know the best cougar bars and hangouts to avoid wasting time. This is where we can help you!

From yoga studios to organic stores, our city is abundant with cougars who want to have some good times with young cubs like you. Hopefully, you don’t get overwhelmed by the sheer amount of spots where El Paso cougars abound. Even little neighborhoods and shopping malls like The Fountains at Farah are teeming with sexy mature women.

Our city has tons of establishments where people looking for companionship can hang out.  You just need to know where you can find single older ladies and not a bunch of you ladies in their early twenties. There may be so many to choose from but worry not because we’ve got your back.

You can now spend your time wisely. Below are some of the proven spots where you can meet attractive cougars. Check them out and thank us later.

The Best Places to Find Cougars in El Paso

El Paso has so many options when it comes to meeting cougars. The city has close to a million locals so expect to see cougars everywhere both on and offline. Bars, clubs, and lounges..all are packed with cougars from all parts of town. However, these gazillion options often cause decision paralysis.

Everyone says their place is the best and it's hard to tell which is which by just checking their Facebook page. This is why we made you this list. It's a detailed guide for the best cougar-friendly places in El Paso. It's all about where and how to find the hottest El Paso cougars and where to take them out depending on your goals to fulfill your goal (be it a relationship or just a fling).

Let's get it started....

Mature women partying at Circa 1963


Circa 1963 at Hotel Indigo for romantic encounters with El Paso cougars

For luscious older ladies who love cozy and romantically-lit interiors, check out Circa 1963 at Hotel Indigo! With its trendy décor and toasty fireplace, Circa electrifies your senses as you search for hot cougars.

At times, this venue attracts some of the hottest cougars in the city especially those who're in town for just a few days and are looking for some quick fun. The place has a relaxed nature that allows you to have a romantic chat without much disturbance and if things go well, you can take off and bring the fun to her room.

Homepage of AFF

Our pick for the best El Paso cougar dating site is  AFF if you ONLY want a physical relationship (try it free)

Sure, eHarmony is great if you are interested in a real relationship. But what if you want to find a cougar in El Paso for a little action? We have had the most luck with AFF (which has a great free trial).

Regularly at the top of our list of proven meetup apps, AFF beats every other online resource for finding El Paso cougars. After a lot of experimentation, we think we know why.

It’s hard NOT to recommend that guys at least check out AFF (you can try them for free with the links above after all). We have seen a lot of guys find success using it and most of those guys have been pretty average in the looks department. With that kind of success and how little time it takes to use there really isn’t a downside.

This is our most useful way to meet cougars to take home around the city!

Most cougars missed the Tinder wave (they were too old) and don't want to try now. They don't like having to compete with women who are 10 to 20 years younger than them. If you have tried Tinder you know what we mean.

Instead, AFF has been around for fifteen years and is much more familiar to them. It is also easier to use and has a much wider variety of people on it. This makes cougars feel much more comfortable and that keeps them around.

AFF is also completely focused on connecting people for a little physical fun. And by physical, we mean the kind that’s better done behind closed doors. Busy cougars appreciate that and so will you. Check out their free trial and see for yourself. It will surprise you how many women are using it.

A little time spent on AFF along with checking out some other solid spots for some naughty encounters in El Paso can go a long way.

Try AFF For Free!
If you actually want to meet single cougars who are more interested in fun in the bedroom than a long-term relationship you need to check out AFF's free trial with this link. We've spent many months testing out 100+ different sites and apps to meet cougars and AFF has consistently been the easiest way for most men.


Home page of eHarmony

eHarmony is great for finding relationships with mature women (try it now)

When it comes to meeting a lot of cougars in El Paso quickly, especially those interested in dating younger guys, there isn't a better option than eHarmony (which just so happens to have a great trial). Older women are often just too busy to spend a lot of time in bars and clubs so many of them have been looking online to meet guys. In fact, a lot of them are ONLY looking online these days.

If you're not spending at least a little time on eHarmony you're going to miss out on a lot of opportunities!

There are a lot of dating sites and apps out there (and we've tried just about all of them in our cougar dating site review) but none of them really deliver as well as eHarmony does. Here are a few reasons why we think it works so well:

There are a lot of cougars in El Paso using it

There are more popular apps and sites out there but they just don't have the cougars. eHarmony has over 7 million active members and MOST WOMEN on this site ARE cougars. There is no reason for a non-cougar to even consider signing up!

Instead of scrolling through hundreds of profiles hoping to find an attractive single cougar, especially one interested in dating both younger and older guys, they are all right here. It saves so much time and frustration!

A really good mix El Paso cougars who want short and long-term

eHarmony does a great job of attracting women interested in both short-term fun and a real relationship. The other top sites out there can be great but tend to attract a very specific type of woman.

eHarmony trial

If you haven't tried it out yet give eHarmony's trial a shot. You have nothing to lose and you can't expect to get new results without changing up your approach. Guys who really want to find a cougar aren't going to be able to do better elsewhere (in our experience).

Sexy older women at Erin’s Bar

Erin’s Bar is another spot really popular with single older women

This karaoke bar is a crowd favorite among energetic older women who love to sing to their hearts’ delight. It's one of those cougar bars in El Paso where the atmosphere is cool and the women are cooler. Its covered patio gives it a house party vibe and its selection of drinks makes it popular among locals. Cougars go here to celebrate their birthdays or to hang out with friends.

Erin’s Bar is a great place to enjoy drinks with older women. Practice your favorite songs and sing your heart out. Just make sure you pick a song that everyone likes. You get extra credit if people like and sing with you. And while doing that, you can maintain eye contact with a hot cougar or two. It will spark their attention and who knows? Maybe you’ll hook up with a feisty El Paso cougar.

The Apps Dating Coaches Recommend Most To Meet Cougars

More and more older women are only using apps and sites to meet guys, especially younger guys. You need to be on at least one or two apps now if you want to get the best results you can. These are the apps that give normal guys the best success meeting cougars:

SiteOur ExperienceOur RatingFree Trial Link
Best Hookup Site Cougars
Experience Highlights
Experience Highlights
  • The best way to meet cougars for hookups by far
  • Best results for regular guys
  • Over 60 million active members
  • Not good for long-term relationships
Try AFF For Free
Best For Relationships
Experience Highlights
Experience Highlights
  • Easily the best option for long-term relationships
  • 75% of all online marriages start here
  • 70% of users meet their spouse within a year
  • In-depth signup and matching process
Try eHarmony
2nd Best For Hookups
Experience Highlights
Experience Highlights
  • 2nd best option to find hookups
  • Attracts an older crowd than most hookup apps
  • Pretty popular
  • Great free trial
Try Passion

Texas Stagecoach Saloon is an incredibly fun place to meet lots of El Paso single women

Top El Paso Cougar Bars and Cougar Clubs

El Paso is busy and always packed with cougars of every type. The fancy tigress, the humble single mom, the ring lover, and the fling-seeker.....all in one city.

Most bars here have this cool Texan vibe, so expect to see a lot of boots down here. However, we believe upping your style a notch or two helps you stand out from the crowd and grab the hotties by the eyes.

Also, when deciding on which bar to spend the night at, pick a good one within your area. Don't shoot for a faraway bar just cause it has a 4.9 rate on Google Reviews. You may have fun, but you won't pull her back home and the night will be pointless. So choose wisely, we're already giving you many options.

The list above should keep you pretty busy for a while. These have been our favorite spots that have a lot of single cougars, great atmosphere, and provide ample opportunities for guys to mingle with women. Try out a few and figure out which one fits your personality best.

A cute El Paso cougar at Cabo Joe's


Meet Cougars In El Paso During The Day

Meeting cougars during the night can be hard for some men who are either shy or don't have a knack for night game. To those, we say "we feel you." Sometimes it's very hard to buckle up and hit a bar, especially by yourself.

Women can be intimidating in bars with all the skin they're showing and all the guys buying them drinks. This is why we like approaching women by day because they're less cocky and there's no one competing for them.

Talking to women during the day is the womanizer's secret weapon. Every man is on Tinder nowadays and no one is paying attention to the power of walking up to a woman and flirting with her. It's brave, unexpected, and sweeps women off their feet if you do it correctly.

Day game is also time effective because you do it while doing other activities. Gyms, cafes, malls, and supermarkets. All are packed with unapproached women  - many of which are willing to be approached by a real man.

In fact, you have a higher chance of attracting hot cougars on the street than on Tinder where you can barely convey your true personality. That hot cougar who swiped left on you on Tinder or Bumble can be your date if you show her some confidence...and it's something you can easily demonstrate if you approach her during the day.

Where exactly in El Paso? At the following spots:

Single women in El Paso can’t get enough of The Johnny Cash Beer Garden


The Guide To Cougar Dating In El Paso

Like I said before, there are different types of El Paso cougars. Some are in it for the fun, while others will be looking for a partner who can help out with the kids. Both are okay, as long as you know what you want exactly.

Your goal will determine where you will take her out to. If she's open-minded and it seems like you can bring her home no problemo, then a romantic bar, or a few of them, can be the option.

If, however, she's more into "let's hang out and see if we're a good fit," then you can take her to a nice restaurant or some beer garden.

Want to keep it casual? Take her to a lounge

Lounges are romantic and are good for building intimacy. We recommend that you pick a lounge that is kinda close to your place, spend a couple of hours there, then take her to another place (even closer), before heading home.

A few extra tips to use:

1. Sit next to her

Never sit in front of any woman you are dating. Sit next to her so you can be intimate together - the least of which is holding her hands.

2. Come early and befriend the bartender/waiters (Or at least get their names)

It tells her that you're not a shy weirdo who's here to kill her.

3. Assume the burden of the conversation

Some women aren't chatty with strangers, so you'll have to carry the conversation on your shoulder till she gets comfortable or starts laughing.

4. Listen and emphasize

Listen as she speaks and emphasize whatever she says about herself. Rephrase/repeat what she says in different words. It may sound manipulative but you're doing her (and everyone) a favor by making her feel listened to.

5. Show confidence

Tease, flirt, push-pull, maintain eye contact and be assertive. Make her feel she's out with a real man. Take the lead and solve problems. Small things like calling for the menu or asking someone to lend you an empty chair matter to women.

A hot El Paso cougar enjoying the sun at International Bar


6. Escalate

Use any opportunity to hold her hands early on. Be it palm reading, crossing the road, or just holding pinkies. I usually share an early story whose context requires me to hold her two middle fingers.

As the conversation goes on, tease her by accusing her of trying to seduce you. Wait till she compliments you and something like "is that you're pickup line," or "no, you're not getting into my pants tonight" or "is that your way of asking me to kiss you." Works with me every time and makes her giggle.

Later on, you can use another moment where her emotions are high and then kiss her. Look in her eyes, say "come here," put your hand on her face and kiss her. If you've done the job right, she will comply with you. If, however, she refuses. Don't defend yourself. Just tell her "you looked cute and I had to go for it" and that's it. Never apologize for your masculinity. She will like you even more and will most probably comply the next time you go for the kiss.

So many tips. Yes, but they will get the job done.

Now let's talk about the best lounges to take El Paso cougars to on dates.

These have been our favorite lounges around El Paso lately. They have a great combination of good drinks, more intimate seating, and they aren't too loud to actually have a conversation. These are great places for low-key dates when you want to create a more intimate vibe.

Women admiring the artwork at Centennial Museum and Gardens


If you’re more serious about dating her try a comedy club, piano bar, or fun activity

I'm against activities that take her attention away from you, especially on the first date. The most famous examples of that are cinemas and comedy clubs. You will spend three hours in silence and her eyes will be on the comedian/screen. By the time you try to kiss her, it will be over because you didn't warm her up for it.

Theatres, however, are good if you've already slept with her and you're thinking about becoming a couple.

Below are a few piano bars, comedy clubs, parks, and theatres where you can take El Paso cougars on dates:

An El Paso couple enjoying drinks on a date at International Bar


More suggestions for dinner dates

If she's very old-school, you can always do a dinner date. However, we don't recommend those dates if you want something short-term if you don't have the budget.

Still, if fine dining is your thing then these are a few upscale El Paso restaurants in case you want to show off a little bit.

A map of all the best cougar dating spots in El Paso

We combined all the dating/pickup spots in just one map to make your life easier. So pick a place that is close to you and go have fun.

For more recommendations check out more great guides to meet cougars:

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