Charlotte is the largest city in North Carolina. Because it’s not a sprawling megacity yet, there’s a lot to see and experience, but you won’t get overwhelmed. We have a bustling culinary scene, lush parks and gardens, and—of course—attractive older women. So where can you go to meet these cougars in Charlotte?
The dating scene in our city is unique because most of the residents here came from somewhere else. There are also tourists and travelers passing by from the airport. Strangely enough, people are familiar with each other. A friend of a friend might know the Charlotte cougars that you were eyeing last night in Uptown.
Speaking of cougars, there are better ways to find them than resorting to people-watching at Yoga One or Earth Fare. We’ve compiled the best hotspots and cougar bars for you to check out. Head over to these destinations, and you’ll have a much higher chance of snagging a cougar. We’re excited to hear all about your experiences in the comments section below!
If you want to meet plenty of gorgeous single cougars at night, there's one bar you need to visit.
As with many cougar bars in Charlotte, Prohibition is all about fun and good times. The bar itself is actually constructed from reclaimed wood and tin from local North Carolina barns. With prohibition-themed memorabilia adorning every inch of the walls, you will really feel as though you have stepped back in time. Every inch of this place makes for a great conversation starter.
Here you can expect to find cougars in hordes, sipping on Moonshine and really getting into the swing of things. With entertainment from live bands to funky DJs, you’ll be dancing with your new friend a few drinks in. So prepare your best moves on the dance floor to impress her!
What's the easiest way to meet lots of single women? Instead of heading to a bar every single night, why not try your luck online where there are plenty of cougars around?
Finding a single Charlotte cougar who isn't looking for a relationship but still wants to have some fun isn't easy. There are a lot of apps that claim they can help, but in our experience, very few deliver.
We don’t recommend many sites or apps for guys who are just looking for sex, but when we do it’s usually Adult FriendFinder. With over 60 million active users, you know that this is a site that works. Add to that the fact that most AFF users are in their 30s or older and you’ve got the perfect site for meeting cougars for a bit of bedroom fun.
If you're not looking for a relationship and only want a cougar to take home there isn't a better option!
The best thing about AFF is that there’s no need to beat around the bush when it comes to your intentions. Everyone (and we mean everyone) uses this site to get laid. You won’t meet any hopeless romantics looking for anything serious on here. That also makes it so much easier for the cougars in Charlotte to look for a fling without all the ambiguity.
If all you want is to find a cougar who wants a hot evening with no awkward goodbyes, you’ll find her on Adult FriendFinder.
When it comes to meeting a lot of cougars in Charlotte quickly, especially those interested in dating younger guys, there isn't a better option than Cougar Life (which just so happens to have a free trial). Older women are often just too busy to spend a lot of time in bars and clubs so many of them have been looking online to meet guys. In fact, a lot of them are ONLY looking online these days.
If you're not spending at least a little time on Cougar Life you're going to miss out on a lot of opportunities!
There are a lot of dating sites and apps out there (and we've tried just about all of them in our cougar dating site review) but none of them really deliver as well as Cougar Life does. Here are a few reasons why we think it works so well:
There are more popular apps and sites out there but they just don't have the cougars. Cougar Life has over 7 million active members and EVERY SINGLE WOMAN on this site is a cougar. There is no reason for a non-cougar to even consider signing up!
Instead of scrolling through hundreds of profiles hoping to find an attractive single cougar, especially one interested in dating both younger and older guys, they are all right here. It saves so much time and frustration!
If you've spent any time on other apps you know that a lot of the women that use them are really just looking for attention. They don't want to really meet a guy in person but they're happy to collect compliments and stroke their ego.
When you use a more specific option like Cougar Life you avoid a LOT of those time-wasting women. You only use a site like this if you're serious about meeting guys and not just leading people one.
It makes a huge difference in the response rate from your messages and the number of dates you can actually setup.
Cougar Life does a great job of attracting women interested in both short-term fun and a real relationship. The other top sites out there can be great but tend to attract a very specific type of woman.
If you haven't tried it out yet give Cougar Life's free trial a shot. You have nothing to lose and you can't expect to get new results without changing up your approach. Guys who really want to find a cougar aren't going to be able to do better elsewhere (in our experience).
Bars are among the best places to meet lots of single women, especially more mature ones. Here are some you might like.
Downtown is full of fun bars and clubs where the women are also looking for a great time.
No one can resist a good dive bar and that’s exactly what Thirsty Beaver Saloon is. This fun and friendly bar serves up some great beers and mixed drinks. Since it has a dive bar feel, the drinks are also super affordable. That means that you won’t burn a hole in your pocket having a drink or two here.
The women that frequent this place are laid-back and looking for a good time. The bar often hosts live music acts too, which make for the perfect ice breaker. Even when there is no live music act, there’s a jukebox that you can take advantage of too. So if you’re looking to meet someone hot for a good time, then we definitely recommend the Thirsty Beaver Saloon.
This upscale eatery attracts cougars from all parts of the city. Since it’s a classy chain restaurant, you can expect to find sophisticated cougars here. You’ll spot them enjoying a succulent dry-aged steak or top-class seafood along with the best wines. As a bonus, The Capital Grille provides great service too.
Come here for a refined evening where you can enjoy amazing food and excellent company. While there’s no need to wear a suit here, it’s best if you wear your best button-down to attract the ladies.
Located in the heart of Birkdale, Corkscrew is a well-loved community hub with a soothing atmosphere and friendly staff. With daily $5 wine and $3 beer specials, this bar is ideal for spending time leisurely with a beautiful older lady. For those wine lovers among you, this restaurant bar also offers wine tastings for $5 between 6 pm and 8 pm.
Fond of live music? Begin your cougar hunt with Corkscrew’s music sessions on Thursday, Friday and Saturday, all starting at 8:30 p.m. They also host live jazz events at 3 p.m. on Sundays.
The Thomas Street Tavern is ideal for those who prefer a more relaxed neighborhood feel. Compared to more jam-packed Charlotte cougar bars, you have more space for a quiet conversation here.
It’s warm and intimate, and you can enjoy a hearty drink or two. You also can meet older ladies here just by being your casual self. No need to don a suit jacket!
Cougars enjoy the friendly ambience of this pub. Traditional pub-grub is the menu specialty, and there are regular live music acts. Cold beer, ping-pong, and great bands also add to the entertainment. So why not keep it casual and head to the Thomas Street Tavern? You’ll also end up indulging in fun conversation with mature ladies looking for some laughs.
Looking to get away from the busy nightlife in Downtown? Then you might like these bars in the suburbs.
Coyote Joe’s is the best country music club in the area or, well, even on the whole East Coast. Whether you’re a pro at dancing or you have two left feet, you’ll love it here. With live bands playing top-notch tunes thrice a week, you’ll never have a dull moment at Coyote Joe’s.
Despite the huge size of the place, the place fills up on weekends. The place even has several bars to serve all those customers. While they don’t serve fancy craft beers, you can grab a beer here for as low as $4.50.
Out on the dance floor, you’re already likely to meet an attractive cougar. Line-dancing together is a fun way to break the ice. Both of you will be high on endorphins afterward, so follow up with drinks and a long, flirty (or dirty!) conversation. If you’re treating her, just make sure to bring enough cash. They don’t accept credit cards, but there are ATMs around.
This pub and restaurant gets rave reviews from locals because of its excellent service and an amazing selection of food and drinks. If you’re on the lookout for Charlotte cougars, then you’re in luck. Most of the customers here are 30 or older. As a young man, you’ll get the attention of the cougars there right away. They might even approach you first, especially since everyone is so friendly!
You have three seating options in Blackfinn. There’s the main dining area inside as well as additional tables outside. For cozying up to a cougar, you’d be more interested in the airy open bar. Their drinks menu includes cocktails, wine and beer at reasonable prices. Choices range from classic pints to bacon-infused vodka, so you and your cougar will definitely find a drink that suits your taste!
Everything in the food menu will tempt you to forget your diet. Our favorites are their turkey burger, chicken tacos and BBQ salmon salad. With such a casual atmosphere, you just might hang out here for hours, drinking and dining in the company of a hot older lady.
Dive bars and nightclubs aren’t the only places where you can score a cougar. Up for a fancy evening of perfectly cooked steak? Then Porter’s House is your destination. Of all the possible spots to look for cougars restaurants with great food and a better bar are always contenders.
Declared as South Charlotte’s top private dining space, this restaurant impresses right away with its well-designed interior. The lush white tablecloths, crystal glasses and rustic brick walls set the mood. Warm-up at the bar first with a round of drinks. You’ll notice at least a few cougars sitting on the bar, sipping on hand-crafted cocktails. It’s your chance to go up to an older lady that catches your eye and offer her a drink from the diverse menu. Take your pick from the barrel-aged cocktails, dessert wines and draft beers. The lady’s drink of choice might give you clues about her personality.
Thanks to the fine dining setting, the ambiance is naturally romantic. Don’t miss out on the delicious steak and potatoes too! With good food, golden lighting and decadent drinks, you can win her over and set up another date soon.
If you’re looking for cougar bars in Charlotte with high energy, delightful food, live music and lovely ladies, Bradshaw Social House is the place for you! Young guys looking for a low-maintenance cougar will usually find her here during happy hour.
Passionate patrons can watch their Hornets game on Bradshaw’s many big-screen TVs. The bar’s outdoor patio is also great for long conversations with a cougar you just met. Once you’ve got a cougar interested, make your impromptu date night even better with live music sets. These usually play at 10 p.m., and a lot of cougars will still be coming in by then!
Located in the Holiday Inn Charlotte University Hotel, Red Sky Lounge & Grill is one of those cougar bars with a sleek, chic ambience. You’re bound to meet lots of classy cougars here! Mature ladies adore the delicious dishes, desserts and delightful drinks.
The great thing about hotel bars is that they attract cougars who are just visiting. And you know how feisty cougars can be when they’re only in town for a bit. So spritz on your perfume, look your best and start hunting for cougars who want a single night of naughty fun!
Feel like dancing all night? Here are some nightclubs that are always full of single cougars!
Roxbury Nightclub has been voted the best dance club in our city time and time again. What makes it so great is the retro theme of the club. The club boasts an 80s and 90s nightlife scene that really lives up to the hype. This is a super fun place to hang out on a Friday or Saturday night.
The nightclub features two levels and a large dance floor. So if you’re ready to dance with incredibly gorgeous women then this is the place for that. Even if you’re not into dancing, you can find something fun to do here. The nightclub also has a games room and a VIP area with a pool table. We’ve met incredibly fun women here that we’ve had flings with several times.
Vibrations Night Lounge is a hot nightclub and bar where the crowd tends to be 30 and over. If you’re looking for a more casual night out then this will soon be your go-to. The nightclub often features live jazz and blues acts along with live DJ shows, dancing and karaoke. No matter what kind of night you’re looking for, you’ll find it at Vibrations Night Lounge.
The music is pretty great from our experience and the dance floor is relatively small. However, you can make that work to your advantage when it comes to flirting with women. If you’re into more mature women then come here. You won’t regret making the trip over here.
Outside of the usual bar scene are other venues where you can easily meet older women.
Are you looking to improve your dance moves for when you go out to the club? Do you like the idea of meeting lots of women without having to hold a long conversation? Well, you can have your cake and eat it too at Open Door Studios. This all-age dance studio is perfect if you want to brush up on your dance moves and meet single, available women. The best part is that everyone is super friendly and welcoming.
Engaging in a group dance class means that you’ll have the chance to meet lots of women. The studio offers beginner dance classes in Ballet, Contemporary, Hip Hop, Jazz, and Modern dance styles. Since you’ll be switching partners and joining different groups you can mingle with a wide variety of women. You won’t believe how many cougars are taking dance classes at Open Door Studios.
Although our city has an exciting nightlife, you’re not always going to want to go out drinking. We know that some guys prefer having a conversation with a woman over grinding on the dancefloor. That’s why we’ve found Central Coffee Co to be the perfect place to mingle in a low-stress environment. This quaint coffee shop attracts all of the locals including both college students and women coming in just to read a book.
The coffee shop offers up some fantastic espresso and baked pastries. Many people come here to grab a coffee and baklava and sit at a table to read or work on their laptops. The brick walls and fireplace make it a super cozy place to hang out and relax. You’ll be surprised by how much more receptive women are to a conversation outside of the bar and nightclub scene. So grab a coffee and bring your best one-liners with you.
Speed dating is the perfect alternative if you’re tired of wasting money at bars or on dates that go nowhere. There are tons of cougars that head to the SpeedCharlotte Dating events that are looking to quickly link up with someone. The dating service makes it incredibly easy. You have between six and seven minutes to converse with the cutie sitting across from you before you move on to the next one.
After the speed dating is over, all you do is jot down who you’d most be interested in. You hand in your date card and if the other person picked you too then it’s a match. Once the event is over you can feel free to stay longer and mingle with everyone else. This also gives you a chance to talk to that special someone a bit longer.
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Sullivan’s Steakhouse is another popular restaurant serving up great food and drinks in the South End neighborhood. Cougars in Charlotte usually lounge at the bar, unwinding after a hard day at the office. Alternatively, they might be in the sociable outdoor area, where it’s easy to strike up a friendly conversation.
Pro tip: drop by on a Thursday when they serve $7 bar bites, cocktails and wine. Lots of frugal cougars who don’t want to spend too much on a night out go here on Thursdays too.
When it comes to meeting cougars being smart about how and where you spend your time is critical to success. It's really easy to waste a lot of time without much to show for it. Older women feel the same way about their dating lives. They are so busy that they often can't spend hours in a bar or club hoping that the right guy shows up.
Instead, a large number of Charlotte cougars have exclusively been meeting single guys online and eHarmony seems to be the most popular for them. We have tried out and reviewed just about every legit cougar dating site and app and eHarmony had both the most women 30+ we found as well as giving us the best results. In the dating game the more options you have the better results you tend to get!
What really set eHarmony apart for us was:
eHarmony's proven trial signup process is a little longer than the other sites out there (well worth the time though). They go more in-depth to find out exactly what you're looking for and automatically match you up with those women who also are interested in guys like you. This longer process also has the HUGE benefit of splitting out all the women who aren't invested in the process and would otherwise just be looking for attention. That means that almost all the women are MUCH more likely to respond to messages and dates.
If you haven't had a lot of luck in our city or struck out on other dating sites you need to try out their proven trial. They really have a different process that helps even shy guys find solid success with a little effort. Change things up and change up your results!
Patrons agree that Saeed’s Bar & Deli never disappoints, especially if you’re scouting for cougar bars. Order their drink specials and relax in the indoor or outdoor seating lounge. You can also have a smoke at the wooden deck outdoors while searching for that flirty older woman.
Ease yourself into the scene with the bar’s outdoor patios, pool tables and friendly regulars. Their most notorious feature is a daily karaoke. Here, the crowd at Saeed’s sings their socks off and watch some fun renditions of the most popular top 40 songs. If you pick the right song and sing it well, you’ll find yourself catching the eye of some hot cougars. She might even ask you to sing for her in private if you know what we mean.
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