Meeting single cougars in San Antonio can be difficult if you don't have a plan of attack. The city and surrounding area are just too big to randomly pick a spot and hope it is popular among older women.
We can help. We know how frustrating it can be to spend your time and money at the various San Antonio cougar bars or other hangouts with anything to show for it! Take our suggestions below and start seeing the results you want.
We know there are both older and younger guys interested in meeting cougars so we made sure that we provided great recommendations for both.
Here are a few spots you need to see when looking for your new lady.
The Best Places to Find Cougars in San Antonio
If there's just one cougar hotspot in the city that you can check out this evening, make it this one. You won't believe how easy it is to meet single mature women here!
The Thirsty Horse Saloon has a lot of single cougars
If you are not looking for single cougars and finding them at Thirsty Horse Saloon you are missing out. This place is enormous with a really solid dance floor. If you are a guy who isn't afraid to do a little dancing you are going to do well here.
A lot of the cougars in San Antonio like to get wild on the dance floor and this is a great place for it. You can find all types here from cowgirls to very well-put-together women all looking for some fun. They usually play country music (which isn't for everyone) but the number and variety of cougars here will make it worth your while.
Dating apps are also really good for meeting cougars in San Antonio (at least a couple of them)
Going online is one of the easiest, most convenient ways to meet older women in our city. In case you're not sure which sites to try, here are some that always bring us luck.
AFF is an amazing San Antonio cougar dating site for casual or physical fun (try it free)
We love eHarmony, especially if you are looking for a real relationship. On the other hand, if you are just looking for a little short-term fun AFF (which has a great free trial) is the best option if you want to meet a San Antonio cougar.
When it comes jumping into bed fast there are really only two apps that work around town, Tinder and AFF. Tinder can be good if you want to date women under 30 but is pretty bad if you are looking for cougars in San Antonio.
If there is one app you should try it’s this one. We have yet to find another app that has more women that are actually looking to come over to our place and not just looking for attention. It is really easy to waste a TON of time on other apps messaging girls who have no desire to actually meet a guy in person, they just want a little ego boost. AFF is the opposite.
We spend a lot of time trying out all the popular apps and sites every year to find out what is working. For most guys, we think that this is going to be your best option. Nothing is guaranteed of course but your best chances are here.
When you want to get awesome results and meet the most cougars for bedroom fun AFF is going to deliver for most guys.
For single older women, AFF just has WAY more of them. They have been around since 2006 and have over 50,000,000 active members with by far the most women 35+. These are women who are 100% looking to meet up for sex without going through the usual 3 dates.
Check out AFF's free trial and see the San Antonio cougars looking in your neighborhood.
For an actual relationship, eHarmony is the best San Antonio cougar dating app (try it now)
We love a good cougar bar as much as the next guy. But there are times when you just want to hang out at home while meeting hot older women. There are also a lot of San Antonio cougars who just don't spend any time in bars and clubs any longer. eHarmony (which has a great trial) really helped us out.
While there may be a ton of apps out there, none of them are as good as eHarmony when it comes to helping you meet single cougars. We've spent a lot of time rating and ranking over 100 different cougar dating sites and apps and this is what we really like about it:
The women are REALLY open to dating younger guys (and older guys)
A lot of women out there feel like there's a social stigma against dating younger guys. It's totally fine if a guy dates a younger woman but when a woman dates a younger guy it's different.
Because of this, a lot of women who are interested in dating younger guys don't advertise it, even on dating websites or when talking to younger guys in public.
With eHarmony, every woman is interested in guys of various ages. You 100% know that every woman you message wants to meet up with guys in your age range. It makes the process so much easier and more enjoyable.
It saves a ton of time and money
Spending any amount of time in a bar is expensive and you never know if any attractive cougars will even show up. If you want to make the most of your time and money a quality dating site or app is the best way to go.
You have to change your approach to change your results!
You shouldn't completely stop going out but being able to meet women 24/7 regardless of where you are is extremely powerful!
Do yourself a favor and give eHarmony's trial a shot here. It's easy to get set up and it is the best option for making a big improvement in your dating life that we've found. Try it!
Lush Rooftop is San Antonio’s weekend hotspot
If you’re looking to meet hot women on the weekend, you would be wise to hit up Lush Rooftop. This dance club with both an indoor and outdoor space draws all the lovely ladies out Thursday through Saturday.
Every time we’ve been there, we’ve been overwhelmed by the sea of attractive women. Coeds from all the local universities regularly make the pilgrimage to shake their impossibly fit asses all night. If you were wondering where all the single women were, now you know. Be prepared to spend a little extra as the drinks are a bit overpriced, but that’s just club life. It’s well worth the price of admission to be around so many hotties.
Top San Antonio Cougar Bars and Cougar Clubs
San Antonio's nightlife is full of gorgeous cougars. More than 1.5 million live here and the bars and clubs are usually packed with hot +40 y/o women looking for fun, and maybe more.
Happy hours, Friday nights, and weekdays..You will always find a cougar-friendly place to spend the night in San Antonio. There's a reason they call it "America's #1 Cougar Town."
Just make sure you dress the part and talk with confidence. They might be in it for the attention, but many cougars here are experienced and won't make your life easy when you approach them. But once you do, however, you will have the time of your life with a hot, no-drama woman.
To help a friend out, we made you a list of our favorite cougar bars and clubs in San Antonio. Our Downtown nightlife scene is full of fun bars, great music, and, of course, beautiful older women. Head to one of these spots and you won't be disappointed!
- The Martini Club - 8507 McCullough Ave Suite A9
- Pegasus - 1402 N Main Ave
- Picks Bar - 4553 TX-1604 Loop #1101
- Gruene Hall - 1281 Gruene Rd, New Braunfels
- 502 Bar - 502 Embassy Oaks
- Margaritaville - 849 E-Commerce St
- The Angry Elephant - 19314 US-281 #107
- Bar 1919 - 1420 S Alamo St
- Mad Dogs - 123 Losoya St #19
- Anchor Bar - 4553 N Loop 1604 W
- The Esquire Tavern - 155 E-Commerce St
- Bonham Exchange - 411 Bonham
- Wax - 2211 San Pedro Ave
- The Modernist - 516 E Grayson St
The Apps Dating Coaches Recommend Most To Meet Cougars
More and more older women are only using apps and sites to meet guys, especially younger guys. You need to be on at least one or two apps now if you want to get the best results you can. These are the apps that give normal guys the best success meeting cougars:
|Site||Our Experience||Our Rating||Free Trial Link|
Best Hookup Site Cougars
|Try AFF For Free|
Best For Relationships
2nd Best For Hookups
Meet Cougars in San Antonio During the Day
Some men don't like noisy clubs or think they're too old to dance... We feel you. Nightlife isn't for everybody. Still, it doesn't mean that you can't have success with women just cause you're a morning person.
Personally, I prefer approaching women in broad daylight. She doesn't expect it, the competition is rare, and I give her a story to tell her friends for months. The cute thing for some cougars is that they don't get complimented a lot, so whatever you say will be flattering. Contrary to younger girls who may think that "hi, I like how you look now" isn't good enough for their ego.
Here are a few spots where you can meet hot San Antonio cougars during the day (and hopefully, connect with them).
- H-E-B - 516 S Flores St
- Life Time Fitness - 18510 U.S. Hwy 281 N
- Modern Mingle - 14500 San Pedro Ave, Suite 102
- The Shops at La Cantera - 15900 La Cantera Pkwy
- Shops at Rivercenter - 849 E-Commerce St
- Honest Soul Yoga - 223 E Hildebrand Ave Suite 103
- Candlelight Coffeehouse - 3011 N St Mary's St
- Summer Moon Coffee - 11831 Culebra Rd #106
- PRESS Coffee - 4035 Broadway
The Guide to Cougar Dating in San Antonio
Now that we solved the "where to find San Antonio cougars" question, it's time to help you finish the job and give them the best date they had in months (and hopefully more). However, where you take her will depend on three things:
- Her personality: Is she out for fun or she doesn't want to be seen around with a strange man - (especially someone way younger than her)? How invested is she in her looks? A sweatpants mommy or someone who spends a lot to look good (Botox, boob jobs..etc)? If so, then don't expect her to settle for a quick walk in the park.
- Your goal: Do you want something long-term or just a fling? Going to the movies is a valid shared experience but it's not something you do if you want to pull her home from day one.
- Your budget: Anyone who dates a lot knows that it costs money. Men are accustomed to paying on first dates and it may hurt your wallet if you're someone who goes on +10 dates/month. So, if you're in it for the hookups, then it's not the best idea to take every cougar you meet to a fancy place. On the contrary, if you think she can be the one, then you can invest a little bit more (without appearing needy or cheesy).
For these reasons, we divided our dating guide into three categories: bars/clubs, morning experiences, and fancy restaurants (yes, some cougars are really into fine dining). Here they are:
If you just want to keep it casual take her to a lounge
If you want to take her home right from the get-go, then you need a place where you can build comfort with her, and then romantically escalate.
Your home may sound like a good option - especially if it has a view - but she may not want to come over directly so you will need to go for plan B which is a bar or a lounge. Like the ones below:
- The Davenport - 203 N Presa St
- V lounge - 107 E Martin St
- Copa Wine Bar - 19141 Stone Oak Pkwy Ste. 704
- George’s Keep - 17803 La Cantera Terrace
- Bar 1919 - 1420 S Alamo St
- The Modernist - 516 E Grayson St
If you want a long-term thing with a San Antonio Cougar, take her here
I don't recommend comedy clubs or cinemas for first dates since her attention will be on the comedian/movie and not you. However, it can be a fun thing to do on the third or fourth dates or after you've slept together.
Below are a few spots you can take a San Antonio cougar to on dates:
- Laugh Out Loud - 618 Northwest Loop 410
- Howl at the Moon Piano Bar - 111 W. Crockett Street St. #201
- Jazz, TX - 312 Pearl Pkwy Building 6, Suite 6001
- Santikos Entertainment Palladium - 17703 W Interstate 10 Frontage Rd
- The Alamo - 300 Alamo Plaza
- Blind Tiger Comedy Club - 902 NE Interstate 410 Loop
- Briscoe Western Art Museum - 210 W Market St
- Brackenridge Park - 3700 N St Mary's St
- The Aquaduck Beer Garden - 9214 Espada Rd
- Diversions Game Room - 9900 San Pedro Ave
If she’s into fine dining, you can take her to one of these upscale restaurants
Some cougars are into typical restaurant dates. This is fine, you can still make it fun, and maybe use it as a chance to subtly flex your wallet to her.
The following restaurants are highly recommended by our friends in San Antonio:
- SaVor Bistro - 20122 Stone Oak Pkwy #105
- Biga on the Banks - 203 S St Mary's St
- Eddie V's - 1834 N Loop 1604 W
- Silo - 434 N Loop 1604 W BLDG 1,1106
- Zocca Cuisine - 420 W Market St
- 18 Oaks - 23808 Resort Pkwy
- Las Canarias - 112 College St
A map of all the best cougar dating spots in San Antonio
We combined all our recommendations (for meeting and dating San Antonio cougars) in just one map to make things easy for you. Use it, and remember to tell us about your results.
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