If you’re about to meet the girl of your dreams for a date, you want it to be anything but boring. This is why you should know about some great first date conversation topics.
Trust me, there are few things worse than sitting across from your date and realizing you suddenly have absolutely nothing to talk about. Either because you’re a bit nervous or because you’re not sure what she’ll enjoy talking about.
To help you with this, I’ll reveal some great topics for conversation you can pull out on your first date in case your mind suddenly starts drawing a total blank. They’ll make sure you always have something interesting to talk about, no matter how nervous you are. They’ll also spice things up a bit to make the conversation even more exciting for her.
Let’s get one thing straight right off the bat: Talking about work, school, the weather, politics and other similar things on a date is one of the best ways to bore someone to death. These topics positively scream “I have no idea what to talk about” to the other person.
To have an engaging conversation on the first date, you have to delve much deeper. That way the woman you’re talking with has a great time. You also need to figure out what she’s interested in, which will come in handy later.
You don’t necessarily have to talk about controversial, taboo or “spicy” topics to make things interesting. But you shouldn’t be talking about surface stuff either. Because dates aren’t about small talk. Otherwise you won’t stand out from the hundreds of men she’s met.
Here are several first date conversation topics you can rely on to make sure the woman you’re with is hanging on your every word:
The whole point of the first date is to learn more about each other and to see what makes both of you tick.
One of the absolute best ways to do that is to bring up various wacky, hilarious, bizarre and fun stories from your life.
I’m sure you’ve had lots of ridiculous, exciting or even frustrating things happen to you that would make for a fun story. Or even dangerous, horrid things that would make for a dramatic and emotional tale.
Even the most mundane scenarios, like being stuck at the DMV for 3 hours while listening to some granny prattle on about her crockery collection can be an entertaining story.
Your date will get a glimpse into your world and learn more about who you are as a person. And you’ll have plenty of opportunities to make her smile, laugh, or even make her nervous--but in a good way. Which is great because women love men who are emotionally captivating.
After you tell her a couple of stories from your life, ask her to share some of hers. Then it’ll be her turn to tell you something so you can learn more about her.
Also, don’t forget to tease her lightly when she tells you some of the stories from her life. This spices things up to make the conversation even better.
That said, don’t be a try-hard and tell only positive stories where you’re the hero who saves the day. And don’t tell her any stories just to brag about something. All that will do is show her you’re shallow and that you’re trying to impress her.
Focus on the emotional impact of the story and not the content itself.
This suggestion may seem counterintuitive because it’s one of those first date conversation topics that sounds boring at first glance. But it’s actually a treasure-trove of things you can talk about endlessly if you happen to click on a subject or two. Aside from that, a bit of nostalgia is actually good for you.
For example, what was your favorite movie or show when you were a kid?
Let’s say you both enjoyed watching Spongebob Squarepants when you were young. Finding this out would be such a huge boon for you and your date because you’d instantly have something in common you both used to enjoy.
This could spark so many inside jokes, gags, topics of discussion and many other things that you could end up talking about it for the next five dates if you wanted to. Especially if it’s something significant you both used to really enjoy as kids and still do to this day.
However, I’m sure you’ll find more interesting things to talk about than a children’s cartoon, which is just an example. So don’t be afraid to talk about your childhood and the things you enjoy--from interesting experiences to funny school stories. And make sure to ask her about the things she liked the most when she was growing up.
Who knows, you may both accidentally stumble onto various hobbies you both share. This will instantly make you click to make some serious sparks fly.
That brings us to the next great conversation starter:
Yes, I know, this may seem like the most obvious advice because everyone’s heard it a thousand times. However, I’ll give you a little twist to make talking about hobbies an unforgettable experience.
Here’s the twist: Focus on the passion and the emotions you feel when you’re describing your hobby to your date. And then, when she talks about her hobbies in turn, ask her questions to encourage her to tell you how her hobbies make her feel.
You see, it won’t matter to her if your hobby is the most boring and mundane thing in the whole world. Because as long as you talk passionately about it and describe in detail all the emotions it makes you feel and why this particular hobby is so special to you, she’ll become captivated by it as well.
That’s because emotions are contagious. And passionate speakers are the most captivating of all.
This is a topic of conversation that’s really great not just for the first date, but for any date in general. That’s because it quickly lets both of you get to the bottom of things and learn what you’re really about.
This topic never fails to spark a deep, meaningful and sometimes even profound conversation, if you approach it the right way. It’s also great if you’re both genuinely curious to learn what the other person is all about at their core.
When you talk about the things you’d do if money were no object, it lets her get a good glimpse at your core values and beliefs. It shows her how you’d spend your time if you were allowed to do pretty much anything. And it reveals quite a lot about your worldview and your views on life in general.
To top it off, it shows that you live for things other than money or the pursuit of riches. It lets her see that you’re a complex person with many goals and aspirations. Which is a huge turn-on for women, especially if they have similar views.
When you’re done talking about what you’d do, ask her a simple “So what about you?” Then get ready to find out who she is and what really drives her in life.
This is one of my favorite first date conversation topics because it often makes for a really fun time.
The reason why it’s so great is two-fold.
First, it shows you’re completely relaxed and are comfortable enough to talk about the bad experiences in your life. It also shows you don’t really take yourself too seriously and can laugh at yourself or the situation when necessary.
The second reason this topic is great is that it shows you have certain standards. That’s always a great thing because women respect men who have standards.
Plus, when you later ask her to tell you about the worst date she’s ever had, it’ll be a treasure-trove of useful information!
You’ll learn exactly what not to do during your date because she’ll tell you what made her dislike other guys she went on dates with. You’ll also learn about her various likes and dislikes when it comes to men, which is always a huge bonus.
As you can see, this topic isn’t just great for laughs but it’s also amazing for figuring out how she interacts with other men.
If everything else fails, humor is always a great option to turn to.
Plenty of women enjoy talking about comedy, standup, funny videos, hilarious anecdotes and other similar things.
We all know that one of the keys to a woman’s heart is through humor and laughter. So you can’t really fail with this topic. Especially if you know many great jokes and can make her laugh and giggle non-stop.
Just make sure to not overdo it and rely solely on this topic of conversation or she’ll think you’re just a one-trick pony.
Take this last one with a fistful of salt because it’s one of those first date conversation topics that can either make or break the whole evening.
That’s because talking about what’s on your mind is the perfect way to have a spontaneous, carefree and genuinely riveting conversation. But only if you’re already a good conversationalist who can make almost any topic seem fascinating. And only if you can rely on yourself to not succumb to anxiety and crumble under the pressure.
You see, you shouldn’t even be thinking all that hard about what your conversation topics should be. Because it may look like you’re not being yourself or are trying too hard to keep things interesting.
Instead, you should strive to be in the moment as much as possible and pick and choose your conversation topics on the fly. By being a great listener and by expanding on the things you’re already talking about.
This way you’ll essentially never run out of things to say and won’t get stuck on any one topic for too long.
I’d like to mention the fact that you shouldn’t try your damndest to think of some amazing conversation topic. Instead, you should simply go with your gut as much as you can.
That’s because thinking too much about what to talk about puts you into the wrong headspace. You start overthinking things, get stuck in your head and stop being present and in the moment. This often leads to disaster because you’re not actually paying attention to your companion!
So have a few interesting first date conversation topics in mind. Mention them if things get really stale or if there’s a lull in the conversation. But other than that, your best bet is always to learn how to become a great conversationalist so you can talk about anything you want.