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How To Have An Amazing First Date Without Blowing It (A Man's Guide)

Man who knows what to talk about on a first date

In this guide to a fantastic first date, I’ll go over the most important things you need to know to make it unforgettable. But most importantly, I’ll explain what to talk about on a first date with a girl because it’s the most common struggle many guys have.

I’ll also mention where to take a girl on a first date if you want it to be one she’ll remember forever.

Learning these things is crucial if you want to have huge success in your dating life. And it all begins with how to prepare for a first date.

However, if you’re still struggling with getting dates with beautiful women, you should definitely get this part handled first. You must learn how to approach women and create massive attraction, so they agree to go on a date with you. For that, we’ve created a complete video guide to massive success finding, approaching, and attracting women.

How to prepare for a first date the right way

First, you need to make sure your house is clean and your bathroom is spotless.

What does this have to do with your first date?

The answer is simple: If the date goes really well (which it will, with my help), she'll probably end up coming over to your place. And if your place looks like a tornado recently went through it, she’ll probably leave before you get any action. This means you probably won’t be getting laid.

The second most important thing to do before a date is to take a nice, relaxing shower to calm your first-date nerves. Trim those fingernails. Shave if you have to. Put on a clean shirt. And brush your teeth.

It won’t matter how well your date goes if you don’t smell or look clean. It’s such a huge red flag for women that they’ll run away from you. And if your breath stinks, don’t ever expect a kiss!

The third and arguably most crucial thing to do to is to prepare mentally for the date. Make sure you’re calm and relaxed. Don't worry too much about what you'll talk about on your date. Your nerves can ruin an otherwise great date in an instant if you let them.

You should also have the right mindset. This is just a date where you’ll get to know someone. It’s okay if you end up not being attracted to her. It’s also okay if you end up sleeping with her. Open your mind to the possibilities, and don’t be single-minded in aiming to get laid.

So here’s the best mindset to have: “I’m going on this date to have FUN and to get to know her better!”

That’s it! That’s all you need to think about before going on a date to set yourself in the right mood.

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Where to take a girl on a first date for best results

Here’s what not to do on a first date regarding picking a location: Don’t go to a play, a movie, the theatre or similar places.

These are among the absolute worst ideas for where you can take women on first dates. You won’t be able to have a proper conversation if you’re watching something.

You see, the whole point of a fantastic date is to talk to each other. So you get to know one another and connect on a deeper and more emotional level. And if you’re stuck staring at the screen for the entirety of the date, there won’t be any time for talking at all.

Where you go on a first date is also going to depend on where you met. If you met on one of the legit hookup apps we prefer you are going to want to stay closer to your place than if you don't know her intentions quite so well.

The second worst idea for where to take someone on a date is a fancy restaurant for many different reasons.

The first reason is that good restaurants usually cost a lot of money. Besides the ungodly amount of pressure such a venue puts on the girl and the date itself, why would you even want to spend tons of cash on someone you don’t even know?

Who knows, maybe you’ll quickly find out you're both not compatible, or that she has a horrible personality. If so, you’d still be stuck with the bill.

You also won’t really have many opportunities to touch each other at a fancy restaurant. You’ll most likely be sitting on opposite sides of the table, which isn’t that great for getting intimate later. And touch is really important.

All of this is why casual dates are the way to go if you want the best chance of success. Try going to a simple coffee house or a fun venue like a theme park. There’s no pressure on anyone and you can leave at any time if things turn sour.

The main do’s and don’ts

Here’s what to do on a first date for it to go great.

First, make sure you’re there on time.

Dress nicely and comfortably, but don’t overdo it.

Be honest and authentic when you talk. Don’t try to fake interest in something she says just to make her like you.

Also, make sure to show her you’re a physical guy right from the start. This means you shouldn’t be afraid to touch her at all when you spot a good opportunity.

Take her by the hand when you cross the street. Touch her arm when emphasizing something you’re saying. Nudge her when you’re making a joke, or put your arm around her and shake her like she’s your annoying little sister when she says something silly. The more opportunities you find, the better things will go.

That’s because physical touch is pretty much the most important thing when it comes to seduction. Without it, there can’t be any true raw attraction as the girl won’t be comfortable with you or your touch.

That’s why you need to make it your first priority and touch her as the date goes on. Do it slowly at first, and gradually ramp it up, especially when you’re flirting. It might even lead to a kiss on your first date.

Don’t do these things

Here’s what not to do on a first date if you want things to go well.

Don’t whine and complain about anything and everything. No one likes people who do that.

Don’t be rude to her or the people around you, especially to the service staff.

Do not try to impress her. Instead, make it a point to be as humble as you can. Women loathe guys who try to suck up to them and try too hard to impress.

Don’t start gushing about how she’s “the most perfect and beautiful woman in the world” and how you love her. First dates are always too soon for stuff like this, and it scares women away.

Make sure you don’t show any signs that you’re desperate. Don’t look desperate to make her like you and definitely don’t look desperate to sleep with her!

Don’t show neediness or insecurity like putting yourself down in the hopes that she’ll reassure you. Fishing for compliments like this is unattractive.

Don’t drink too much when you’re on a date. A drink or two is fine to let loose and relax. But if your speech gets slurred and you wobble about when you walk, your date will think you’re a drunk.

Never talk about previous relationships and exes. Believe me, no one wants to hear about that when first meeting someone. It will only make you look like you’re not over them.

And don’t talk only about yourself. Show some interest in her as well. Ask her questions and give her time to talk.

Simply have fun

The most important thing you need to remember on a first date is to have fun.

Stop being too serious, and make it a point to show her a good time. Show her your sense of humor, tell her an interesting story, or ask her thought-provoking questions.

You can even go do a fun activity together like dancing, roller skating, playing pool or whatever you both find enjoyable.

Dates are meant to be fun. And if you take it too seriously and conduct them like some sort of interview, women will find you utterly and hopelessly boring.

Lastly, don’t forget to make her laugh. Show her your sense of humor and encourage her to share hers as well.

What to talk about on a first date

Now it’s time to learn what to talk about on a first date. It’s something plenty of guys struggle with.

The short and sweet answer to this is to talk about whatever’s on your mind! Talk about your passions and the things that are important to you. Then find out about her passions and the things that are important to her as well.

However, the most common complaint guys have when it comes to talking on the first date is running out of things to say. This then leads to their fear that they might come off as boring.

There are many ways you can deal with these issues. So let me show you what you can do.

Ways to keep the conversation going forever

There’s a great technique you can use to essentially never run out of things to say.

What you do is simply ask open-ended questions, and then listen for the “points of interest.”

For example, let’s say you ask her about her day and if she’s done anything interesting lately. She replies, for example, that she went grocery shopping and bought some avocados, pet food and other stuff.

The two main points of interest here are avocados and dog food. Why? Because they open the doors to other huge topics of conversation, which you can then follow up on.

For example, you can ask her what she’ll do with an avocado, what food she enjoys, if she’s focusing on healthy eating or not, etc.

You can also ask her what kind of dog she has. Pet owners enjoy talking about their pets, so this one could keep the conversation going for hours.

And after she’s done talking, you can then share your own thoughts about healthy eating or dogs. This will drive the conversation even further, possibly prompting her to ask you questions as well.

And while the topics wind on and on, you can always listen for more points of interest. Then expand on those and change the topic of conversation entirely when these ones run dry.

If you listen for interesting tidbits of information during your conversation and expand on them. This is the key to ensuring you'll always have something to talk about on your date.

The key to an interesting conversation are stories

If you want to know what to talk about on a first date without making it boring, stories are the answer.

Everyone has unique stories from their life, no matter how seemingly boring they are. These stories share not only a fun experience, but it also gives her a glimpse into your personality.

And if you’re absolutely positive you don’t have any decent stories to share, then share some from the life of your friends or family.

You see, stories are something nearly everyone likes to listen to. Good stories have a plot, a direction. It gives her a sense of anticipation, which heightens her senses.

And by the way, being a good storyteller isn’t as difficult as it may seem at first. What you need to do is focus on the feelings and emotions involved rather than reporting on what was going.

Tell her about how the things you saw and did made you feel when you were there. These emotions are contagious, and it will make her more engaged in the story.

With some practice, you’ll be a decent storyteller in no time, and you’ll never have to worry about boring your date again.

Now you know what to do on a first date for it to go well. You also know a few key tips on knowing what to talk about on your date. These tips might make your date go so well that you'll end up talking about what to do on your second date.

Having a fantastic first date is all about focusing on having fun, finding mutual interests and getting to know each other. Once you spend enough time together to enjoy each other’s company, it will be easier to flirt and make your move.


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