Looking masculine is all about the level of responsibility you take for your own appearance and actions. Learning how to look more masculine isn’t just about getting a nice suit or beard; it’s a result of taking basic care of yourself. It’s a natural expression of who you are and your level of self-respect.
How To Look More Masculine
The first step in learning how to look more masculine is treating yourself like a man. Taking care of yourself and your appearance while nurturing your self-respect. You do this by embracing your natural masculine appearance; fixing your posture and movement; developing your body and appearance; and lastly, mastering what your body is communicating to others.
This isn’t something that will happen overnight, it will take time. As you’ll learn by the end of this article, it cannot be faked. Luckily, it’s a pretty simple process. You just have to put in the effort and be consistent.
Here are the easiest ways to get started on this today:
Embrace your masculine characteristics
There’s a simple idea I want you to understand right off the bat. It’s called sexual dimorphism. And if you want to learn how to look more masculine, it’s pretty key.
Sexual dimorphism is where the differences between genders are clear outside of just their sexual organs. What this means practically is that all your male characteristics are accentuated. You have facial hair. You have above average muscle mass. And you generally dress in a masculine way.
If you take nothing else away from this article, let it be that. It’s quite literally (and scientifically) the easiest way to look more masculine.
This doesn’t mean that you have to have an enormous beard, huge muscles and dress like Indiana Jones. All it means is that you should move in the direction of your own natural masculine aesthetic. Whatever your starting point may be.
Stand and move like a man
The first thing you need to fix in order to look more masculine is your posture. How you stand creates an impression in someone else’s mind of what kind of man you are. It also helps display to the outside world what your opinion of yourself is.
Good posture can be boiled down to one simple bit of advice: stand as if someone has a piece of string attached to the back of your head and is constantly pulling upwards. This will straighten your neck and back, aligning your spine and immediately make your look more masculine.
But the benefits don’t stop there. Studies show that improving your posture has a significant effect on your psychology. Just as when you feel bad, your posture alters to mirror that (think: hunched over). When your body adopts a strong and confident posture, it starts to have a strong, confident effect on your feelings. Win-win.
The next thing you need to fix is your movement. This, alongside posture, are what I consider fundamental to looking more masculine. When you take small movements, and never move your arms it paints a certain picture of someone who is nervous and unsure of themselves.
Think of an actor playing a stereotypically masculine character. Their movements are usually quite large and purposeful, and they have a calmness about their movements (unless they’re, y’know, enraged). And look, I get it, taking actors as examples sucks. I almost always try to avoid it. But when it comes to movement, they’re literally professionals at it. They know what they’re doing. So in learning how to look more masculine, it’s worthwhile seeing what they do and trying it out for yourself.
Develop a masculine physique
With those two fundamentals locked down, you want to develop a physique that accentuates your natural masculine characteristics. This is sexual dimorphism in action.
The more your body has a natural V-taper from the shoulders to hips, the less feminine you look. The more your masculine facial features (i.e. cheekbones, jaw, brow) are apparent, the less feminine you look. This doesn’t mean you have to be a bodybuilder, it just means you have to have a certain weight and proportion to your frame and a face that accentuates your masculine characteristics.
But how is this done?
80 if not 90 percent of this is achieved in the kitchen. Yes, all those Instagram videos you’ve seen of guys lifting weights like they’re about to enter Mr. Olympia are a little misleading. The vast majority of your results are going to come from eating clean, natural foods (meat and vegetables) and as little (almost zero) sugar as possible.
And if you’re trying to gain muscle mass, you have to do all of this about six times a day, whilst exercising at least three times a week. Sure, it’s hard, but you want to look more masculine this is just the reality. Do it or don’t.
The rest of your results, especially when it comes to building muscle are going to come from consistently exercising, ideally lifting heavy weights in compound movements for high repetitions. You want to be doing deadlifts, bench presses, squats, and overhead presses. No skipping leg day.
But consistency is key. If you eat right and exercise consistently, your body is going to change and you’re going to capitalize on your natural male sexual dimorphism.
As an added bonus, it’ll also improve your confidence.
Groom and style yourself in the right way
Now for some final touches. These are as simple as getting decent facial hair and a decent haircut that suits your face shape. Simply pay a high-quality barber to help with this. Sorting both of these out is as close to a magic pill as you’ll get in attractiveness.
You sit in a barber’s chair for 30 minutes and come out looking far, far better than when you first sat down. So if you skip this step you’re doing yourself a massive disservice. You’re going to have to experiment here, but my advice is to keep it simple. There’s enough guys rocking undercuts in the world. Though if you’re looking to rock the bald look, making sure you have the right clippers to do the job is critical.
I’d also err on the side of a bit of stubble on your face as opposed to being perfectly slick. Why? It distinguishes you far more as a man, even among other men.
The last thing you need to do is sort out your clothing. As the saying goes, clothes maketh the man. Find a style that works for you, ideally an archetypical one (i.e. biker, businessman, preppy guy), and get a wardrobe within that style that fits your frame.
This will help you avoid dressing like a kid out of laziness. Don’t discount the importance of color. An easy way to do this is to go to online clothing stores and find the models who have a similar complexion and hair color to you. Check out what they’re wearing. As far as fit goes, you want a fit that hugs your body frame just a bit. Everyone’s different so you’re going to have to experiment here though.
Now, it might feel like you’re done, but you’re not quite at the finish line yet. Not only do you have to look more masculine, you have to understand how to appear more masculine as well.
Master your body language
Until now you’ve locked down all the external elements. What you look like, what you wear and how you stand and move. These are all going to create an image of a masculine man. But unfortunately, if your behavior can’t back it up, it’s an image that’s going to quickly come undone.
The easiest way to understand how to appear more masculine is to not only have the image of masculinity but to also have the behavior of a man. This is what is commonly known as having good body language. While it’s simple to learn, it can be hard to pull off.
Over the course of your life, you will have adopted various body language habits. Some will be good, some will be bad. Bringing awareness to these habits is going to help you round out your body language and learn how to appear more masculine. Here’s what you want to pay attention to:
- You look people in the eye when you speak to them.
- Your behavior is calm and consistent instead of erratic.
- Your tone of voice is assertive when it needs to be.
- You’re OK touching people affectionately.
- In other words, you’re comfortable with your intentions, you’re comfortable with interactions and you’re comfortable showing it.
These are simple actions that get made difficult through anxiety. When you have an intention you want to hide, whether that’s aggression or attraction, your basic body language such as eye contact or tonality will begin to fall apart.
If you want to learn how to appear more masculine, you have to accept that this is done by embracing your intentions, whatever they are, and expressing them directly. Because all the habits of good body language sit on that foundation.