Some days, online dating feels like a terrible page of Where’s Waldo? I see so many guys’ profiles, but everyone blends together. It’s because they all say the exact same things as in the examples above.
These guys are screwed by their own profiles.
They don’t stand out. For a girl to look twice at a guy’s profile, he has to grab our attention. We know every guy is unique and different, but they’re not showing us how.
Luckily for you, this is your competition.
And you are different.
If you’re here, you’re already smarter than your competition.
There will always be something about you that’s more unique and more interesting than your competition. You just have to highlight it.
How to Make Your Online Dating Profile Stand Out
1. Your online dating profile should be a conversation starter.
It’s your job to write your profile in a way that makes it easy for girls to
1) find common ground with you, and
2) want to start a conversation with you.
HERE'S WHY: Girls are more likely to respond to a message after we look at a guy’s profile and see a few things we want to learn more about, or we share in common.
HERE'S HOW: The key to making this happen is being more specific. Instead of saying you’re “fun-loving,” actually say what you think is fun. This helps show your personality, and shows girls what you share in common.
Here’s an example of a guy’s profile who does this well:
This profile is great, because I read it and immediately want to ask: Where do you go rock-climbing in the area? How did you get into yoga? When do you play Ultimate Frisbee? Can I come?!
Focus on what makes you tick. Do you have any unusual hobbies? What makes you excited to get up in the morning? What new thing are you looking forward to doing/experiencing/trying this year?
2. Profile pictures matter even more than you think.
To get girls to read your profile, you must post good photos. And “good” doesn’t necessarily mean “hot.”
HERE'S WHY: Even when a guy takes the time to learn how to write a great online dating profile, it doesn’t mean shit if his pictures make him seem like a raging douche bag. (Seriously, those guys need to put their shirts back on, and back away from the bathroom mirror.)
Girls look at your profile pictures to check out more than your looks. We can learn a lot about you from your photos. If you’re smiling, showing some of your hobbies – maybe doing some rock-climbing, or home-brewing some beer – I think, Cool. That’s a guy I want to get to know.
Some photos that seem harmless can actually be huge mistakes. Not smiling in photos, lots of pics at the bar, and multiple selfies all make me think a guy’s an alcoholic depressive with no friends.
HERE'S HOW: To make sure girls don’t get scared off by your profile pictures, choose the best profile pictures you have, and avoid posting notoriously bad profile pics.
3. Proofread your profile.
HERE'S WHY: When you ignore simple grammar, or write in text-speak, you seem like a lazy jackass – at best. At worst, you look illiterate and flat-out stupid.