Whether she’s a friend you’ve known for a while or a coworker you see everyday at the office, taking the first step and initiating a date can be daunting. Thankfully there are a number of signals you can keep an eye out for that will give you a little more comfort before taking the leap. You can even test to see if a girl likes you.
Now, let’s test to see if a girl likes you
While there’s no one sign that guarantees interest, if you’re noticing a number of the signs below from her consistently, you’re probably in with a good shot.
1) She wants to be around you
This one is really quite straight forward. If she enjoys spending time with you either in a group or alone, then you know there’s at least some level of comfort shared between you. If she’s inviting you places or wanting to spend time with just the two of you, then that’s even better.
2) She finds all of your jokes very funny
Now maybe you’re a funny guy and we all know humour goes a long way in the dating world. But have you ever noticed just how hard she laughs at even your lamest joke? Consider that signal number 3 and probably the most obvious test to see if a girl likes you.
She’s having fun being around you, paying you extra attention and wants to make sure you feel good around her. With some women, this could mean a bit of a laugh at an intentionally lame joke or she could be a bit more obvious about it. Even you’re thinking to yourself “I didn’t think it was that funny . . . ” Perfect.
3) Her friends act differently when she’s around you
Particularly if you both share the same group of friends. This can be a more obvious one than she wants it to be which also makes it a perfect test to see if a girl likes you.
If she’s interested in you, there’s a good chance she’s told her friends about it. If they’re equally excited, you might notice a change in how they react when you’re near each other.
It may be a few more sets of eyes on the two of you. Or some not-so-subtle social engineering to put the two of you alone together to help things along. Just keep an eye on her friends, they may end up telling you everything you want to know without opening their mouth. Which might be exactly what they’re trying to do!
4) She often touches you
Perhaps one of the more obvious signals. It’s not too common for most women to regularly touch people they have no interest in. More often than not, it’s quite a deliberate move.
It could be in the form of a hug goodbye or gently pressing against you as you show her something on your phone. If you’re lucky (or maybe because you’ve been missing her subtle signals!) she’ll be a little more obvious. Like putting an arm around you, sitting on your lap at the party or grabbing your hand to lead you to the bar.
Whatever form it comes in, physical contact is usually deliberate and a pretty strong sign from most women.
5) She’s comfortable with the topic of sex
Think about a female coworker that you aren’t attracted to for whatever reason. Imagine they start making sexual jokes or tell you a story that involves one of their sexual encounters. It’s probably going to make you feel a little uncomfortable, right?
On the other hand, think about the most attractive woman you know and how different you’d feel if she shared this same story with you…
It’s quite similar for women and for the same reason. If she finds you sexually attractive, the topic of sex is something she’ll not only be comfortable with talking about but something she’ll want to be part of.
That doesn’t mean you should drop an inappropriate joke at the next staff meeting and hope for the best. But if the topic does come up, see how she reacts to it, it could be another great signal.
6) Phone calls and messages at strange hours
Have you ever had a phone call from a female friend late at night and you wondered why someone would be calling you at 11:00 p.m. to tell you something that really could have waited until the next day? If so, you may have missed another sign.
Whether she’s at home alone, bored and thinking about you or out with friends and drunk dialling, the result is the same. Even though she’s nowhere near you, she still felt the need to talk to you one-on-one.
7) You catch her mirroring your movements
This is some general body language that you can observe wherever there’s rapport. Sit somewhere opposite her like a table and see if she mirrors your posture. Maybe you’re both sitting on a chair facing each other and you’re leaning forward, elbows on your knees. Does she match that same posture?
It won’t be immediate but you’d be surprised how obvious this one is when it happens. Yet most people are totally oblivious.
This is a normal trait for humans in general when we’re really paying attention to somebody else, particularly when we want the other person to accept us. Think about the words you’d choose and the way you might talk when you arrive at football tryouts vs. meeting someone’s grandparents. Whether we like it or not, we change how we act if we want the other person to like us. More often that not we’ll be changing to be more like the other person.
8) She takes an interest in what you do
This can be another of the more obvious signs that’s she’s into you. Perhaps you go camping a lot and she starts asking you about your last trip. Or she hints that she’d be interested in joining you on your next one, even though she doesn’t seem like the outdoors type at all.
Often this is a combination of a few other points covered in this article. She cares about what you enjoy doing, wants to impress you and most importantly, wants to spend more time around you without taking you away from your usual activities.
This can be such a great way to ease into things and test the waters. If it’s a camping trip then you have plenty of time with each other to explore the potential. If it’s a sport, then you have a chance to impress (note: this does NOT mean you should try to show off, it rarely works in your favour!) and probably plenty of reason to see if she’s comfortable with physical contact.
Whatever the case may be, she’s offering you a great opportunity to get close to her and you may even want to reciprocate – “OK, you’ve been a good sport and came to play tennis . . . when are you taking me to [her preferred activity]?”
Unless she’s the forward type who beats you to it, you’re going to have to take a chance at some point and ask her out. At least armed with these potential tells you can be a little more comfortable with taking that risk and the whole thing will be that much less intimidating.
If you struggle to see these signs or know exactly what they look like it can be helpful to keep an eye on your group of friends at the next party. You may just notice that one person laughing a little too hard at a joke or that bit of extra touching that you were previously oblivious to. With a bit of practice, noticing these tells become second nature and you’ll naturally test to see if a girl likes you without even realizing it!