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How To Know If A Shy Girl Likes You And What To Do About It

If a shy girl likes you this is how you can tell

Let me show you how to know if a shy girl likes you because you may be missing out on lots of new and pleasant relationship opportunities!

I'll bring your attention to some subtle and even not-so-subtle signs that shy women might be interested in you, and then tell you what to do when you notice this.

Now, let's get started!

How To Know If A Shy Girl Likes You

Now, I'm sure you've met plenty of shy people in your life, and some of them were probably women who found you attractive. However, you may not have noticed their interest in you and thought that they didn't want to meet you, so you didn't make any move.

For a lot of guys, it can be difficult to determine whether a shy girl likes them. If they don't know what to look out for, they won't see any clear invitations to approach her or talk to her, so they won't even try.

But what if she actually liked you A LOT? What if she would have been delighted if you came up to her and talked with her, but was too shy to show you a definite approach invitation and instead relied on subtle hints?

That's why it's important to learn to recognize all the tell-tale signs that shy women find you interesting, and that's why I've prepared a comprehensive list of useful signs for you below:

Here's how to know if a shy girl likes you:

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She continually keeps looking at you and diverting her gaze when your eyes meet.

One glance or two is no sign at all - it doesn't mean that someone likes you. However, when a shy girl keeps looking at you many times, over and over, it means that she likes what she sees and is interested in you.

Eye contact can mean many different things, but if you meet her gaze, more often than not, she'll avert her eyes and focus on something else. At this point, go on about your business and notice if she keeps sneaking peeks at you.

If she does - then it's a sure sign that you've caught her eye, and all you need to do now is to approach her and say something like "Hey, I noticed you've been checking me out so I thought I'd come over and say Hi!"

Her texts and messages never stop

If you've exchanged numbers, emails, online dating messages and you're not sure whether she likes you - then take notice of how often she messages you. Things are always a little different when trying to figure out if a woman likes you online vs in person.

Also, make sure to notice if she's always the one who starts texting you first, or if it's the other way around. If she's the one who's constantly going first and often asks about your day, then it's a huge sign that she's interested in you.

This is also true for online dating, especially on our preferred dating sites for meeting single cougars. If she messages you first or is consistently messaging you back it is most likely because she is interested. Do something about it!

She finds any excuse to be near you

Proximity is a powerful sign that someone likes you. And it's pretty obvious if you think about it - we all want to be near the things and the people that we like or find very interesting - so we stay close.

And while it's not even a very subtle sign of how to know if a shy girl likes you - a lot of guys completely miss it!

So, from now on, take notice of all the people around you, and see who keeps close to you regularly. If you're in college, at work, at a party, or some other gathering where there are tons of people around, you'll soon be able to pick out those who choose to be near you. Some of them will be women who may be too shy to make the first move, and they're keeping close to you in hopes that you're the one who's going to say "Hi!" to them first.

Then it will be all up to you - chat them up, and introduce yourself!

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She finds a lot of reasons to talk to you

Odds are, you probably know a few women right now who chat you up on regular occasions. What you may not know is that they're very likely not just being friendly to you, but are instead interested in getting to know you better but are just too shy to tell you.

In fact, they're probably waiting and hoping for you to ask them out at some point.

So, when you notice that a woman is frequently chatting you up, for example at your workplace, she's most likely interested in more than just a platonic friendship.

In this case, there's only one way to find out! A very safe way to ask her out would be saying something like "Hey, I enjoy talking to you quite a lot! We should go grab a coffee after work someday!" - and notice what she responds with.

If she declines, then maybe she actually was just interested in being friends with you, and you can say "Oh, that's cool, no problem!" and move on with your life. You can also try to use conversation to make her like you, though it can take a while. However, a lot of the times if a woman is shy, one of her most prominent signs that she likes you is when she frequently chats you up - so take notice!

She makes herself look very pretty for you

Trust me on this - when a woman likes someone, no matter how shy or self-confident she is - she's going to want to look her best for that person!

So, if you notice that some shy girl who's always around you really tries to emphasize her looks, then she probably wants you to notice her and how good she looks, and wants you to ask her out.

She'll either wear something that accentuates her figure, or her breasts and her behind. She may also wear clothing that shows a very nice cleavage, and suck in her gut to look perfect when you're around. She'll even put a little extra work into her makeup if she likes you a lot.

Just make sure that she's actually dressing up for you, and doesn't go everywhere like this because some women dress in a provocative manner no matter where they go.

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She asks you to help her with small things and helps you as well

Helping you with small favors and asking for your help as well is a very subtle yet often overlooked sign that a shy girl likes you.

It ties in closely with the point above that when someone wants to get to know you better and is interested in you; they'll want to spend more time with you. Helping you and getting your help at seemingly insignificant tasks is one way to spend more time with you - so take notice!

She compliments you a lot

This is by far the clearest and most straightforward sign that a shy woman likes you. She'll compliment your looks, your actions, and your personality. She'll see something she likes about you and, though she's shy, she might mention it.

She may even give you compliments that have an underlying sexual overtone, like how strong and skilled your hands are, or how sexy you look from behind in those pants, or something similar.

Take notice of all women who give you compliments, and don't be afraid to thank them for it, and ask them out!

She'll smile at you a lot, and laugh at all of your jokes

Here's one of the best tests to know if a shy girl likes you - she'll laugh at all of your jokes, even the silliest ones that may not even make any sense!

She'll also smile a lot when she's around you, no matter what's going on.

When you notice this, simply ask her "Hey, I notice that you're smiling a lot when you see me! So how's your day?" - and later transition that into getting her number.

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Her feet are constantly facing you

If you trust most body language experts - then according to them, the feet don't lie!

If you notice that a woman's feet are facing in your direction, a lot of the time it may mean that she's interested in you. That's because when studying the natural tendencies of people who like each other, body language experts have determined that people subconsciously face their feet towards the object they want.

Don't take this as gospel because you can never be sure of what people are thinking about. But take notice of this subtle hint nonetheless and don't be afraid to make your move and ask her out if you notice her feet are constantly pointing in your direction.

Her body language and tone of voice changes

When we're near someone we like, our subconscious behavior changes accordingly, and we use certain body language, and speak in a certain tone.

As far as women go, their body language changes to something more sensual, and they speak in a higher pitched tone, to appear more innocent, feminine, and girly. In contrast, if she does the opposite around you, she might not like you.

They may even change their style of speech accordingly and talk in cute or even childing sentences, showing you that they're willing to be submissive if you're willing to be dominant.

She keeps finding excuses to touch you

This is a HUGE sign and one of the best ways of how to know if a shy girl likes you!

Remember what Kino is? Well, most girls do - and they'll find any and all reasons to softly touch you, wherever they may, for you to take notice of this and hopefully ask them out.

The power of touch is not just important for guys, but it's also a powerful tool that women use to let a guy know that they like him and want to be more intimate with him.

So, next time you notice that a woman is often touching your arm, or shoulder, or anything similar while talking to you, more often than not it will mean that she likes you.

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She likes all of your posts on Social Media

If you notice that the same girl keeps liking all your Facebook and Instagram posts, and follows your Twitter or other social media carefully and engages with your content, the chances are enormous that she likes you.

If she often tries to chat you up on social media and sends you messages, then it also means she's interested in you!

She keeps playing with her hair while around you

This is a very powerful signal because a lot of women will subconsciously play with their hair, twirl it around, or just run their hands through it while thinking of a guy they like.

She'll tease you and otherwise flirt with you

This one's pretty obvious, but I must still mention it to show you how to know if a shy girl likes you because these two signs are massive!

If she openly teases you or flirts with you directly or indirectly, you can take it as a sure sign that she's interested in you, and you should tease her and flirt with her as well. Continue vibing with her and enjoying the banter, and then ask her out!

Now doesn't it seem easier to know if a shy girl likes you?

These are all great signs that you can notice to determine if a shy girl likes you or not. Some of them are very obvious, and some of them are quite subtle - yet it's easy to miss them all if you don't know what to look out for.

So, remember this crucial lesson of how to know if a shy girl likes you: be present in the moment, and notice how her behavior changes when she's in the same room with you. If she becomes warm to you while she's cold to others, then just ask her out. Even if some girls are into jerks and you're not a jerk, these signs show that she's into you. 

Even something as little as a smile in your direction is enough to walk up to a girl and ask her out, to be honest. The most important thing is to take notice of women's behavior in your presence, and then take appropriate action.

Don’t be afraid to simply walk up to her, say “Hi!”, introduce yourself, and tell her what you’ve noticed about her to start your conversation.

That's because you'll otherwise miss 100% of the shots you won't take!



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