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The 10 Different Meanings of Eye Contact From Older Women

Different Meanings of Eye Contact From Older Women

Make no mistake: Learning how to interpret the meanings of eye contact from older women can make or break your relationships with them.

Eye contact is important in dating, finding out what people think of you, and gauging a person’s interest.

As a man wanting to date older women, it’s essential to have at least a basic understanding of what women are saying when they look at (or sometimes, away) from you in different situations.

The Meanings Of Eye Contact From Older Women

Most guys are familiar with some obvious eye contact cues, like when a girl looks at you, smiles, and can’t stop looking away.

Obviously this means COME TALK TO ME.

Or when a girl REFUSES to look at you when you walk up to her, you should probably just leave.

But there are actually more levels of eye contact than that.

Here’s a thorough explanation of each of the 10 meanings of eye contact from older women:

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Meaning 1: She intentionally doesn’t make eye contact with you

This is when an older woman INTENTIONALLY chooses to not make eye contact with you. Location is important here, as it is with many types of eye contact.

This is the lowest of all the meanings of eye contact.

When it comes to dating, relationships, and intimacy, this meaning simply states: “I’m not interested in you. Go away.”

Usually an older woman will only do this if you’re creeping her out, too drunk, you’ve been stalking her, or she’s extremely pissed at you.

In terms of screening if you see this type of eye contact and after ten seconds the girl doesn’t change how she looks at you, move on.

It’s not going to get any better.

When you're just walking down the street and she doesn't look you can't assume much. But when you're in places where it's very common for cougars to pick up younger guys the intensity of everything is ramped up!

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Meaning 2: She’s unaware of you, and doesn’t make eye contact with you

This eye contact level doesn’t imply interest or dis-interest, it just means the woman isn’t aware of you right now.

She hasn’t noticed or seen you.

She might be busy with something else, talking to someone, or you haven’t done anything to grab her attention… yet.

Meaning 3: She unconsciously looks at you quickly

This is when an older woman quickly glances up at you and immediately looks away.

But in reality, she isn’t actually aware that she’s looking at you.

This isn’t a time where you’ve caught her looking at you and she’s embarrassed.

It’s when her eyes are traveling around the room or world and by coincidence, you two lock eyes for a brief second.

This usually signifies a neutral level of interest: She’s not interested or dis-interested, and you haven’t done anything yet to make her shift either way.

This is a step above the last meaning since your eyes did meet.

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Meaning 4: She makes an effort and purposely looks at you quickly

Once this happens it’s a very YES or NO type of statement.

You’ve either made a positive impression on the woman and she’s interested in you, or she REALLY doesn’t want to talk to you.

Double check and make sure notice where her eyes go:

  • If she looks down, it’s the type of eye contact where you notice her, meet her eyes, and then she quickly looks away with a sense of, “Shit, you caught me.” She might do this because she’s shy, awkward, or doesn’t want to outright show that she’s interested in you.
  • If she looks to the side, she may be interested or not interested in you.
  • If she looks up, she’s almost certainly not interested in you (think about her rolling her eyes).

If an older woman breaks eye contact with you quickly on purpose, it’s usually because she’s either attracted to you and a bit self-conscious to be caught looking at you, or she’s extremely dis-interested and wants to avoid all eye contact with you.

The guide above will help you figure out which case you’re dealing with.

Meaning 5: She makes eye contact with you, and holds it a bit longer than a quick glance.

Here is where you can REALLY tell that a woman is interested in you.

This is where she makes eye contact with you, but holds it just a bit longer than breaking eye contact instantly as per the previous meaning.

This might just last a quarter or half a second more, but it’s enough for her to start thinking about you, then catch herself and look away.

She’s just not as quick.

Usually, she’ll be engaged in something else and unable to consciously control her stare, which is why she looks at you a bit longer.

If you notice her making this type of eye contact, you should go and talk to her.

This is almost a sure sign that she’d be pretty warm to you approaching her.

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Meaning 6: She does a double-take, looking at you once, looking away, then looking back at you again

If a woman looks at you once, looks away, and then looks at you again, she’s DEFINITELY interested in you.

In fact, if you caught her making eye contact with you and she breaks it, keep looking at her and see if she looks back at you.

Chances are if she’s attracted to you, she’ll look again after a short period of time.

This is a clear sign of interest of her saying, “I WANT YOU.


We all unconsciously stare at things we want, and sometimes we have to look twice. 😉

Meaning 7: She starts staring at you in a “dreamy” way, and gets a bit lost in your eyes

At this point, a woman is looking at you and doesn’t look away for a good few seconds.

She’s past the point where she can look away quickly after your eyes meet.

You KNOW that she is staring at you and thinking about you.

If a guy did this to a girl and the girl didn’t want it, she’d think he was “creeping” on her.

This is another reason why it’s important to get good at eye contact.

If you shy away from all eye contact, you’ll miss all the obvious signs that happen when you hold eye contact for extended periods of time, and older woman saying, “Hi, please come over here, handsome.”

This type of eye contact is a CLEAR sign of interest, and you have to be battling HUGE approach anxiety to not notice it and go for it.

Meaning 8: She stares at you in a “dreamy” way, gets lost in your eyes, and smiles at you

If an older woman does Meaning 7 AND smiles at you, you’d BETTER BE APPROACHING HER.

Meaning 7 is a clear sign of interest, and her smiling at you on top of that is just advertising in bright lights that she wants to meet you.

Meaning 9: She starts to have “eye sex” with you

When an older woman makes eye contact with you, holds it for a long time, smiles, doesn’t stop, and won’t look away… You’re starting to have eye sex.

She just keeps staring and staring at you, for minutes not looking away.

If you see a woman doing this not only does she like you as you can tell from her body language, but she probably would go home with you that night.

At this level of eye contact, it’s about as much interest as a woman can display in you other than starting to touch you and take off her clothes.

If she starts to have eye sex with you and you do nothing, you definitely have some massive anxiety that you need to get a handle on.

Meaning 10: She stares at you with “doe” or “love” eyes

When an older woman has fallen for you, is deeply in love with you, or can’t get enough with you, you’ll see this type of eye contact.

This is when you go to sleep together and wake up looking into each other’s eyes with a dreamy stare.

It’s almost like you’re both on drugs.

In fact that’s what’s happening: Your biology is driving tons of opioids and other feel-good hormones through you at this point.

It’s when two people act this cute-sy way in public and you want to throw up, but if you do it with your snuggle-bear you can’t get enough of it.

Usually, this signifies entering the honeymoon period of the relationship, where the emotions and feelings are flying up, and you’re just head over heels for each other.

If you and the woman feel the same way about each other, getting this level of eye contact feels like you can lift the world.

Both of you have found amazing people who understand each other and you want to be together - the most awesome part of dating.

Romance films are built on actors and actresses showcasing this type of stare.

It makes the billboards, ads and sells tons and tons of products.

If you and an older woman get to this point, make sure to savor the moment, because it’s hard to find and might not last forever.

However, if you don’t feel the same way as the woman does, this can be a really crappy experience.

She’s fallen for you and you’re not interested.

If you can’t see yourself going deeper with her, it might be a good idea to hedge her expectations and let her know how you feel.

Warning: The joker stare

Watch out if you ever see an older woman giving you this type of eye contact.

This is when, even when they aren’t actually in front of you, a person always seems to be watching you.

They’re in your nightmares.

This is the emotional manipulation, when a woman’s emotions drive her so crazy to be with you that she fakes pregnancies, leaves 100 voicemails, and does anything else she can do to get you to be with her.

This is the woman who wants to quit her job she loves and says she doesn’t care about anything else except being with you… And I mean ANYTHING.

When an older woman looks at you with “the joker stare”, you need to get distance. FAST.

While everyone deals with some drama in relationships, these women will take it to another level and if you survive, you’ll probably spread the story around like you served in ‘Nam.

Need some help interpreting the meanings of eye contact?

Try this exercise:

Like anything in dating, you can get better with deciphering eye contact in you practice and spend time on it.

You can better at conversation, physical escalation, and you can get better at differentiating a woman’s eye contact meanings.

You can also get better at holding eye contact with her.

If you look away when people make eye contact with you, you’re doing yourself a disservice.

Not only do you not give them a chance to look at you for longer (and for you to know that they are), you’re sub-communicating weakness, non-confidence, and you’re just plain missing out on opportunities.

Instead, try to force yourself for the next week or two to NOT break eye contact when someone makes eye contact with you NO MATTER WHAT.

Make them break it first.

Of course, don’t be a serial killer.

If they make eye contact with you, just warmly look back and smile.

Try making eye contact with older women you see walking around and watch what happens.

At first if you aren’t used to this it will make you uncomfortable, but that’s the point: You’ll start getting comfortable with it, and it will give you a little high when you start seeing women looking down and away because you caught them looking at you. 😉

Maintaining good eye contact is essential to improve your options in dating, and to find out who’s interested in you.

Make sure you know the different meanings of eye contact from women and you act accordingly.

If you see that she’s interested, GO: You’re going to be better than 90% of guys that do nothing.

What are you waiting for?

You have nothing to lose.


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