How To Flirt Online With A Woman And Keep Her Interested – A Guide

Keeping her interested while you flirt online

Online dating is fun, sexy, exciting and utterly exhausting (for some of you). It’s everything all at once, which is why we love it. Right, guys?!

Nothing keeps me on my toes as much as chasing a woman online and keeping here interested until I go in for the kill and ask her if she wants to meet up. I love flirting with women, catching their attention, chasing them and keeping their interest up. I love seeing how they react to my playful banter, my romantic overtures, and my sexy one-liners. And I just love using my secret weapon that always keeps them interested – which I’ll reveal later in this article. You can’t go wrong with it.

After talking to a lot of other serial online no-hopers recently, I’ve come to the realization that I’m an exception to the rule. Which is why I want to use this article to teach you how to flirt online like a badass.

Apparently, it’s not easy. Flirting online with women should, in theory, be a lot easier than flirting with them in real life. After all, you don’t have to physically approach them, they don’t get the chance to read your body language and there’s no sweating involved! You just have to make sure you’re using the sites with the best response rate first.

On the flipside, knowing how to flirt online is a valuable skill because keeping her attention and interest high is difficult. After all, you’re vying for her attention on her smartphone. Not only does this mean there could be a lot of other guys she’s talking to, but it also means she might have better things to do — like looking for her next pair of shoes, watching videos, or learning a new skill.

How To Flirt Online and Get Results

To grab her attention and keep it, you have to be a master flirter who’s going to give her the most fun she’s ever had on her smartphone without taking all her clothes off.

So let’s get straight into the exactamundo details with how to flirt online with women.

Be Positive

Before anything else, you need to get your mindset right. If you’re a Negative Neville who wants to bitch and whine about his day, she won’t be replying.

Flirting online is all about having fun. It’s about being positive, enthusiastic, light-hearted and humorous. You know what women love? They love a guy they’re actually excited to keep texting.

If you’re the one bright spark in her inbox, the guy who flirts and has fun like there’s no tomorrow, she’ll be interested enough to keep texting you. You’ll become her go-to guy after a long day at work when she wants to settle down for some flirty fun. Don’t be afraid to toss a few smiley emojis in there. Try to make her smile even if you’re having a bad day yourself.

Before you do anything, keep all your shit out of her inbox. Be light, fun and entertaining. Be her escape from the daily grind. That’s what flirting is all about online.

Keep The Focus On Her

Politics? Religion? Your boss? Keep it away.

The moment you start talking about other stuff is the moment you take her off the straight-line goal of landing a date. When you’re talking to a woman online, you should picture a straight line that starts at 1 and ends at 10. Your aim is to take her from warm (1) to red hot (10). In other words, you want to slide her along the line from her being sort-of interested in you to being super interested in you.

And you do this by flirting with her.

Your goal — I’m assuming — is to meet up with her, right? You want to charm the pants off her via messaging, make her laugh, make her wet perhaps. And you need to always keep your end goal in mind. As such, your flirting game must be clinical and directed.

Don’t fall off the beaten track by asking how her mom is, talking about elections or how much you hate the president. Once you start doing this, you’ll lose that initial buzz that flirting has. Keep things flirty and fun at all times, and learn how to stay away from what I call superfluous talk that kills all the fun. Keep the focus on you and her — but mostly her.

If she tries to take you off the beaten track and asks you for your political views? Either find a smart way to redirect the conversation instantly back to flirt-town or just don’t answer her question.

Grab Her Attention On Social Media

Sometimes, you can flirt online with women without even messaging them. How great is that?

Social media is your new playground, so use it to your advantage.

I love flirting with women on social media without having to talk too much. I’ll “like” a photo of theirs, they like one of mine back, I like another of theirs . . . it’s a sexy tit-for-tat that will make her smile.

In some ways, this is the best kind of online flirting. You’re not even saying anything, but you’re catching her attention and showing your intent. You’re getting her interested.

I like to feel a woman out first by commenting on a status of hers. The status must be something I can relate to. Maybe she’s posted a song I like.

“Wow! Didn’t know you liked this band, too!’

Then, I like one of her recent photos before warming her up a bit more by liking one of her older photos. When you do this, don’t go way down into her timeline, that’s creepy. Click on her profile pic and go left to her very first one. Then, keep going left until you find a sexy pic of her and give it a like. This lets her know that you’re interested.

And hey, maybe she’ll respond in kind and like one of your recent photos. Hopefully, she will. It’s important at this stage, while you’ve got her attention, that you upload a new photo. Make it a good one.

Next, I keep her warm by tagging her in something. It’s a good idea to tag her in something that’s related to the status I commented on that got this going in the first place. Maybe it’ll be a song I think she’ll like.

Then, I might playfully tease her on another of her statuses. If she responds and things are going well, I know that she’s fully heated up. At which point I’ll go into her DM’s and start a conversation.

Best way to open a flirty convo?

“I love you.”

Sounds like it shouldn’t work, but it does. No, I’m not really telling her that I love her, and if the context is right, she’ll get that.

Let’s say we’ve just been talking about music on her status and she literally likes all the bands I like. I’m gonna now take this into her DM’s and tell that I love her because she has amazing taste in music.

Then, the stage is set for even more flirting.

Tease Her

Ever teased a woman before? It’s easier online. When you flirt online with women, teasing her is essential.

Naturally, you need to exert a degree of tact here. If you’re clumsy, your teasing could venture into dangerously-aggressive territory. The problem with being online is that she can’t read your tone. Your aim is not to offend her, but to play with her. Your teasing should be friendly at all times, and you must make her aware that you don’t mean any harm. You’re just flirting with her!

I like to pick up on mistakes she makes in messages – funny typos, things like that. Then, I’ll use them to tease her with later on.

Never tease her about things she’s sensitive about. Make sure you stick within the bounds of decency. Otherwise, you’ll come across as a malicious jerk. Mock her but make sure you do it in a humorous way that’s clearly a light-hearted joke.

If she won’t leave the house because of a broken nail?

“First world problems LOL.”

If she wants to go and see a lame band?

“I’m *insert name* and I like to hang out with teeny boppers at concerts.”

The easiest way to show her you’re teasing? Use emojis.

Remember that mockery can easily look like you’re being serious if you’re not careful. And when that happens, the flirtatious fun dies instantly. You’ve killed it and she might start thinking you’re a bit of a mean jerk.

Role Play

Guys, this is the secret weapon I was referring to at the start of the article. This is the ultimate way to flirt online with women. It’s totally fail-proof and is guaranteed to ramp up her desire and keep her interested.

The best thing about role-playing is that it lets both your imaginations run wild. You can create sexy stories involving the two of you. As you get deeper and deeper into the roles, all kinds of crazy and fun things can happen.

How should you role play with a woman online? Ask her to picture a scene. I usually like to ask the woman to picture the two of us in a nightclub. We’ve never met at this point, we don’t know each other, but we’ve just caught eyes on the dance floor.

What happens next? Do we grind? How about kiss? Maybe touch? Does she come back to my place?

This is a great way to flirt online because it puts you both into a real-life situation where there is the opportunity to touch, kiss and take things further. It’s naughty and suggestive, but it’s just a bit of flirty fun. And she’ll love it.

Moreover, she’ll be curious to see where you’re going to go with this. Are you going to be a little bit naughty? Or are you going to text “brb” just when things are heating up?

Be Everywhere

When you flirt online with women, you must be everywhere. Don’t just stick to one platform, such as Facebook. Be on Twitter, Instagram, Telegram, email and anywhere else you can think of.

Keep her on her toes. If her last message to you was sent on Facebook, start a new convo on Twitter. If she DM’s you on Telegram, leave it a while and shoot her a new message on Facebook.

This tactic is important for a few reasons:

1) There is no risk of her spending a lot of time on a platform where you’re not around, thereby limiting the amount of time you get to talk to her

2) By being everywhere, it helps negate the huge risk that you’re forgotten about while she talks to someone else

3) Popping up on different platforms to flirt is fun, exciting and keeps her interesting

4) It’s unpredictable — which is essential when it comes to flirting online with women

Being unpredictable like this captures her imagination and her attention.

You want to be in her mind whichever platform she’s using. You want to be in her subconscious. But remember — never overdo it on any platform. Send a handful of flirty messages and then beat a hasty retreat. The last thing you want is to exhaust her so much that your act becomes routine and familiar.

Be a man of mystery — like a Clarke Kent in the Superman movies who disappears without warning and reappears as Superman! The sexy Lois Lane couldn’t get enough of him. Keep her guessing, keep her intrigued.


These are some actionable tips for how to flirt online with women. Just remember to keep it positive, tease playfully, engage her in some role play, and be everywhere. Don’t let your rivals dominate any platform. Be the one she wants to have flirtatious fun with. You can do it!

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