2020 Review of AffairAlert.com - Our Free & Paid Membership Results

First page you see in our Affair Alert reviewOnline dating is a whole lot of fun but only if you’re using the right websites. To help you sort the good from the bad, we spend a lot of time every year reviewing all the popular sites and a lot of the smaller ones. Determining which site you should use can be really tough without a little help from the experts!

Falling for the wrong website and handing over your credit card info can turn into a total disaster. The worst part is, some of them seem entirely legit until it’s too late. Today we’re taking a look at Affair Alert because it’s a site we get asked about often. Rather than take a quick glance and pass judgment, we wanted to dig deep and test out both the free and paid versions of the site

How we reviewed AffairAlert.com
To put together this review we spend dozens of hours over several weeks using both the free version of the site as well as paying the $29 for a monthly membership. Good luck finding another site actually willing to risk their credit card number!

Over the course of our time using Affair Alert we sent over 50 messages to various women and responded to every message that we received. You just can’t get a sense for the quality of a site without using it like this.

We wanted to be fair in our review so we gave a real effort when trying to meet women on this site. This wasn’t just a quick look.

The results were interesting to say the least.

Our Complete Review of AffairAlert.com (Paid and Free)

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Overall

Our team rates each site objectively based on many hours of independent research, the features each site offers, and how it compares with other sites. The ratings are the opinion of our editors and their extensive experience.

1 9.5
Quality of Women

Our opinion of how attractive the typical woman is that uses this site and how easy they are to connect with compared to other sites.

1 9
Popularity

How many people are using this site to actually meet people compared to other sites.

1 10
Usability

How easy is this site to use and how quickly can an average person begin meeting people compared to other sites.

6 9
Privacy & Safety

Does this site take proper precautions to safeguard its members, their identity, and their data.

1 9
Effectiveness

Our opinion of how easily an average person will be able to achieve their dating goals with this site compared to other sites.

1 9
Value

Will the time and money spent using this site pay off for an average person based on the opinions and experience of our editors.

1 10
Our Recommendation

As you can see from the graphic, this site turned out to be a straight-up waste of time. The dangerous part is they do actually put some effort into pretending to have real users. 

The “chat” messages that constantly pop up are fooling nobody. The “messages” on the other hand (closer to internal emails between members) aren’t quite so obvious.

It wasn’t until I attempted to have a real conversation and ask questions that things become more obvious. It may be a language barrier with the scammers on the other end but the conversation always felt off.

No matter how I approached it, any attempt to escalate was met with the same response too. Here are just a couple of examples of what I’m talking about. Read each one from bottom to top.

The first conversation we had on meetmesexy.com

The second conversation

I’m not exaggerating when I say every single attempt was met with a response along these lines. Now sure, some women just want to take things slow with online dating and you’ll find that everywhere.

100% strike rate though? Even when you’re talking to women with naked photos in their profile and graphic descriptions of the sex they “need”? Come on.

In case it isn’t clear already, my recommendation is to stay away from this site. Absolutely do not give them your credit card details. If you want to actually use a site that will give you a fair shot of meeting someone for some fun in the bedroom check out Adult FriendFinder (which you can try for free with the link below).

To offer a fair and balanced review, I like to find the positives in a site as well. In this case though, there just aren’t any.

If I had to name one it’d be that some elements of the site drop some red flags early. The problem is, if you ignore these early warning signs, the messages might be enough to convince you it’s legit.

Positives
Negatives
  • We really couldn't find any...
  • Lots of fake profiles
  • Tons of fake, autogenerated messages
  • No response from any of the 50+ messages we sent out
  • An obvious waste of time

I could really get carried away with the negatives of this site but let’s keep it to three main points.

The motive of Affair Alert

The purpose of this website is to get your credit card details. It doesn’t actually facilitate any dating, it just pretends to so you sign up for a membership.

To be clear, I’m not suggesting they sell your credit card details or anything. They might but I don’t know that for sure.

We found a lot of active deception in our AffairAlert.com review

Most scammers are pretty obvious about what they’re doing. They only want to spend their time on people naive enough to fall for an obvious scam.

This site, on the other hand, actually puts some effort into it. They’re going out of their way to deceive you, making you think you can actually be having sex tonight. All you have to do is hand over your card info and you’re getting lucky with any number of women.

You can do better than this site

If you are still reading you need to stop and check out Adult FriendFinder or one of the other hookup sites that actually work. These are the sites that we have actually seen good results with and that are not a complete waste of time.

You only have so much time and energy to spend and spending one more second on Affair Alert is another second wasted.

Manipulative tactics

The final negative here is they constantly push you to sign up but in a sneaky way. From the first second you log into a free account, you’re hit with messages from “women”. They pop up from the bottom of the screen, baiting you into the next step of their process.

Take this screenshot for example. This was minutes after I created a free profile. I hadn’t added a profile pic or bio text yet.

This same thing kept happening throughout the process. Once I had a profile pic they invited me to text them (through the site — another paid service). After signing up for a paid membership, they’d pester me to chat with them (requires a higher level of paid membership).

Another conversation from Affairalert.com

Some of them even try to make you feel bad for not responding. Comments like “don’t you find me attractive?” and “why won’t anyone talk to me?”

Very manipulative.

The profiles, pictures and members we found during our Affair Alert review

This website claims to be all about fast, simple and discreet hookups. As you might expect, the profiles they use are pretty explicit. The photos are sexual, the bio text is sexual and in many cases English doesn’t appear to be their first language. In all cases, these aren’t real women, they’re just pretending to be.

Talking to women in our review of Affairalert.com

Far be it from me to judge though, right? Maybe sex really is “one of her medicine when she is tired.” She is a “smoking hot and wild chick”, after all.

Affair Alert Design

Ignoring my other objections to this site, the overall design isn’t terrible. It has a very 2005 feel to it but you can find what you’re looking for.
Navigation is simple enough and using each of the features of the site is fairly intuitive. The constant use of naked and semi-naked women everywhere is a little cringe but all in all, it’s functional.

Maybe not the most aesthetically pleasing, design and functionality isn’t all that far behind legitimate dating sites.

Reviewing messaging and chatting on Affair Alert

There are two methods of communication between members on this site. Chat is a live text conversation that pops up from the bottom of the screen (think Facebook Messenger). You need a top-tier membership to use this feature.

This is frustrating because as a paid member because you’re constantly bombarded with chat messages. You can’t reply to any of them yet the messages just keep coming!

Messages, on the other hand, are more like internal mail between users. Similar to an early-2000s webmail interface, you can see how many unread messages you have when you log in.

It works but the very dated message interface makes it cumbersome to use.

Some of the messages we received using Affair Alert

As mentioned, the purpose of these conversations is to convince you there are real users on the site. More specifically, to convince you there are attractive women on this site that want to have sex with you.

All of these conversations turned out to be fake. The chat messages are designed to bait you into the next step of their process while the messages keep you hooked. Ultimately they want you to fall for this for several months so they can keep charging you.

What can you do with a free membership to AffairAlert.com?

The only thing you can do on this site with a free membership is look around. You can search for women in your area and look at their profiles but that’s where it ends.

No chatting, no messages, you sending “gifts”. Nothing. While frustrating, it’s also fairly normal to be honest. Even legitimate sites have to make money somehow, right?

There are a ton of advertisements that are super sketchy

There are some blatant ads across the site and all of them are adult-related and very explicit. Beyond that, they also have adult movies and “Cams” sections. Technically these aren’t really ads but they are addons to the site.

The movies require you to upgrade your membership and the cams want you to tip the models. ‘Cams’ is a brand new feature and appears to be as fake as everything else on the site. A quick Google of the names of their camgirls shows that they’re actually performers on another prominent camming site.

Both of these features are advertised all over the site.

AffairAlert Pricing

Pricing for this site is actually quite confusing. For this review I signed up for the “Monthly VIP Membership as shown in the breakdown below.

The pricing options on affairalert.com

It might seem like the top package since it’s “VIP” and the most expensive but that isn’t the case. While it doesn’t give you any additional info here to make a decision, the Gold membership is actually the top.

That’s the one that gives you access to all features across the site including chat and the “free” porn. That might seem counterintuitive since the price is roughly a third of the VIP but think about what they’re doing here.

They know there aren’t that many suckers likely to fall for this charade for 2 or 3 months in a row. If they get $69.90 from you today for 6 months, that’s still more than a single month at $29.95.

You can use the site for free but as I mentioned above, all you can do is look. You have to pay before you can start interacting with anyone.

AffairAlert.com Review FAQ

With so many mentions of this website online, it’s no surprise people have a lot of questions. Let’s take a look at the three most asked questions about Affair Alert. Have more questions about this website? Let us know and we’ll happily look into it for you — we’re all about research and education!

What is Affair Alert?

Affair Alert is a scam website that pretends to offer online dating and hookups. While it claims to offer an easy way for married people to have casual sex, it seems to offer no genuine user base.

You can create a free account to look around for yourself but will need to spend money to talk to anyone. Having paid for a VIP membership I can assure you none of the “women” you talk to are who they claim to be.

Is Affair Alert legitimate?

Absolutely not. Some sections of the site are reasonably convincing and conversations feel real on occasion. When it comes to setting up a date though, the response is always the same. They want to “get to know you” more first (ie they want you to spend longer on the site chasing them).
Not a single interaction on Affair Alert turned out to be legitimate — you’re far better off spending your money on something in our review of the best hookup sites and apps.

Does Affair Alert really work?

Sadly, no. Affair Alert pretends to be a genuine dating website but in reality they just want your money. There’s no attempt to create interaction between two real people. Instead, it appears to be a collection of staff using fake accounts. Through chat and messages they entice you to stick around, continuing to pay the subscription or even upgrading.

How much does Affair Alert cost?

The pricing structure for Affair Alert is presented in a confusing way on the website. Here’s the simplest way to look at it without their confusing layout and phrasing:

  • 3-day trial: $8.90
  • 1 month: $29.95
  • 3 months: $49.95 ($16.65 per month)
  • 6 months: $69.90 ($11.65 per month)

I suspect the reason they make it that much cheaper for 6 months is because they have such a brief opportunity. Very few people will be fooled by this site for more than just a few days so it’s unlikely anyone will pay two months in a row. By heavily discounting the 6 months, they get your $69.90 and don’t care that you never come back.

Buyer beware!

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