Internet dating is great, but it can also be kind of overwhelming. Especially with so many websites out there making big promises — are there actually thousands of singles in your area waiting to meet you? Or is this yet another hollow shell of a website that can’t back up its claims with actual results? That’s what we wanted to find out, and it’s why we’ve spent the past month working on our Victoria Milan review.
The site seems pretty flashy from the outside, but that isn’t always the most reliable indicator, and we wanted you to be able to make an informed decision before you start handing over your credit card details and other personal information.
First, we’ll start with a high-level overview. In my experience, Adult Friend Finder is the most legit hookup website out there, with a huge and responsive user base, so it makes a good baseline for comparison when we’re reviewing new sites.
Our team rates each site objectively based on many hours of independent research, the features each site offers, and how it compares with other sites. The ratings are the opinion of our editors and their extensive experience.
|Quality of Women
Our opinion of how attractive the typical woman is that uses this site and how easy they are to connect with compared to other sites.
How many people are using this site to actually meet people compared to other sites.
How easy is this site to use and how quickly can an average person begin meeting people compared to other sites.
|Privacy & Safety
Does this site take proper precautions to safeguard its members, their identity, and their data.
Our opinion of how easily an average person will be able to achieve their dating goals with this site compared to other sites.
Will the time and money spent using this site pay off for an average person based on the opinions and experience of our editors.
Victoria Milan is firmly targeted at married and engaged men. After spending months trying it out it’s hard to believe that many guys are actually having success using it. While the site itself looks very nice the actual quality of the service leaves a lot to be desired. Based on our experiences with competitive sites we have to recommend that you give this one a pass.
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Well, after spending a month here, I’m still not sure how to answer that — mostly because I’m not entirely convinced I actually met any real women.
Victoria Milan really, really wants you to know that it’s okay to cheat. In fact, they’d like you to believe that using their website could even save your marriage. The front page is filled with reassurances that “you deserve to be happy,” and that, by engaging in an affair, “you’ll experience newfound happiness, excitement and passion which will improve your marriage.”
I’m asked to imagine a secret rendezvous with a new, exciting mistress every day of the week. Luckily, my imagination is pretty good because after spending months messaging well over 50 women, I’ve still yet to land even a single coffee date.
To give credit where credit’s due, their privacy features do seem fairly comprehensive. You have the option to blue your profile photos or to literally “mask” your identity with a clever filter.
Other features include the option to let messages automatically expire after a certain time, an idle recognition system that automatically logs you out after a period of inactivity, and even a panic button that’ll redirect you to an innocuous website in case you nearly get caught.
An official-looking banner on the front page features the logos of major news providers like CNN, BBC and CBS. These logos aren’t clickable links, and a cursory search unearthed absolutely no evidence of any reputable articles or news segments. I did find one article on Victoria Milan by BBC — that is, Preston’s Business Breakfast Club. Hardly world-renowned for it’s hard-hitting journalism.
I let my profile sit empty for a few days after signing up for the site, as a bit of a litmus test. Without any photos, interests, or information, my profile garnered 20 messages, a handful of winks and favorites, and several requests for more information, which is never a good sign. To add insult to injury, I was unable to view any of these without upgrading to a paid account.
I was also hit with a series of popups asking me to “rate my experience” before I could even create a profile; a little difficult when I hadn’t had time to experience anything yet. Suffice it to say, my opinion of the site was low then, and I haven’t experienced anything in the meantime that’s caused me to change my mind.
Oh, and in case you’re wondering what really matters here: Most of the profile options, including appearance, personality, and relationship status, are optional. The only ones that aren’t? Wealth and salary.
Even if I could get past my (admittedly negative) first impressions, my month-long experience using Victoria Milan was endlessly disappointing. I carefully scoured through profiles to weed out obvious fakes, messaged dozens of attractive but real-looking women, and replied to everyone who favorited me, and got exactly nowhere.
Of the 50+ messages I sent, I had maybe two or three actual conversations, all of whom would dodge the question or stop responding outright when I suggested meeting up. Several women asked to take the conversation to other platforms, which is a pretty common scam.
Out of curiosity, I did give out a burner number to a few women who asked, and was pretty quickly inundated with a whole lot of spam texts.
I did have a couple of enjoyable conversations, which makes me reluctant to call the whole thing a scam. On the other hand, there were some laughably fake profiles, and the low rate and quality of responses overall, as well as the inability to access any meaningful features for free, make this an easy recommendation: Save your time and money, and just don’t bother with Victoria Milan.
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Here is a summary of what we loved and hated about this site.
There are a lot of profiles on Victoria Milan, of some seemingly very attractive women. Clicking on a profile at random, though, you’re more likely than not to come across one that’s obviously a fake. I don’t mean “way too attractive to be real” fake — I mean the profiles of women claiming to be 6’7″ tall and weigh 72 pounds, or the ones with photos of pale blondes listing their hair color and ethnicity as black. This doesn’t lend much credence to their claim that “all photos and profiles are verified.”
If you can get past the obvious fakes, most of the photos aren’t too bad — attractive, but not overly glossy. Even so, you should be aware that the site will auto-populate photos for users who haven’t uploaded any; I noticed that I already had a profile photo days before I got around to uploading one for real. Victoria Milan promises “real profiles by real members,” but I remain skeptical.
The site design is pretty slick from the outside. There’s a constantly-ticking member counter, as if new women are signing up every second, as well as a few strategically-placed infographics.
Once you’re logged in, the landing page is pretty familiar. A little busy, but easy to navigate, with search filters at the top of the page and a main sidebar on the left where you can navigate through messages and notifications. Another sidebar on the right shows a preview of your recent messages and links to Victoria Milan on social media.
Be prepared for a few “review this site” popups, especially when you first sign up. If you’re actively using the site when someone is browsing your profile or sends you a message, you’ll get a popup notification about that, too.
The messaging system is very familiar and works the same as any other live chat. There’s an option to sort contacts by who’s online, search for a specific contact and to mass delete messages; overall, I found it easy to use.
The more difficult part was sorting out whether I was talking to a real person — which, for the most part, was a big no. Some fake messages were pretty easy to spot simply because they didn’t make sense; several times, my questions would be met with a response like “good,” or “thanks,” or I’d repeatedly be asked the same question by the same user.
I did manage to carry on a real conversation with a couple of women, but these were in the minority. Most of the messages I sent went ignored, even by users who’d added me to their favorites before I messaged them. And if you want to maximize your chances by messaging in bulk, be prepared to fork over extra cash — even with a paid subscription, you’re limited to initiating 20 conversations per day.
Honestly, not a whole lot. The search function is available to free members, but if you find someone you like, you have limited options for what to do next. As a free member, you can send a “wink” or add users to your favorites, which lets them know you’re interested, but you can’t send messages. You can also receive messages, which means you’re likely to get a lot of email alerts, but you won’t be able to read any of these messages until you pay for a subscription.
Even as a paid user, your actions come with restrictions. You can send a maximum of 20 new messages a day unless you pay for extra contacts. You’ll also have to pay more for other features, like the ability to send virtual “gifts” — like a diamond, a rose or a pair of handcuffs — to users you really like.
Paid ads are usually a bad sign on dating websites — as in, legit websites don’t have any. Victoria Milan doesn’t have external ads, but they do feature ads for other sites within their network — Rich Meets Beautiful, Marriage Booster, Virtuaffair and Next Love — in banner ads and in links on the sidebar.
With very little to do on VictoriaMilan.com for free, if you want to use the site, you’ll need to pay. Standard membership periods are three, six or twelve months, so you’re looking at a big commitment upfront. They do claim to offer “trial memberships” of two days or one month, but these aren’t listed on their subscription page, so you’ll have to go digging if you want to chase those options.
Victoria Milan is a hookup site aimed at married and attached men. Despite claiming to have over 7 million members, there was little evidence of other genuine users on the site.
You can log in by clicking the “login” button on the top right-hand corner. If you don’t have an account, you’ll need to fill out a basic profile before creating one.
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There’s not much you can do on Victoria Milan with a free account. You’ll be able to browse user profiles and receive messages, but you can’t read or respond to messages until you pay.
Canceling your Victoria Milan membership isn’t difficult, but it does involve a few more steps than other sites:
Scroll down further under “My Membership” and click “Deactivate Profile.”
Deleting your Victoria Milan profile is a two-step process. You need to fill out a contact form, wait for an automated email, and then follow the instructions in the email.
Victoria Milan charges the entire fee upfront for all memberships. Standard membership periods are three, six or twelve months, but they also offer shorter “trial memberships” which aren’t available from the subscription page.
All signs point to “no.” I had a few conversations that might have been with real women, but the majority were obviously fake profiles and scripted conversations that made little sense.
It’s not a blatant scam, like quite a few of the shadier websites out there, but they do seem pretty happy to take your money and not offer much in return.
Sending messages is pretty easy — as long as you have a paid membership. Just click on “message me” on a user’s profile or respond directly through the “messages” link on the sidebar. If you’re a free member, you can’t send or read messages.
There’s a “search” section right near the top of the sidebar. You can browse all users there, or filter by location, age, interests and appearance.