Finding and meeting cougars in San Jose isn't too tough if you know how to do it. There are quite a few more single older women here than in many other places in the country.
Because of the fast-growing economy, our city is also one of the most expensive places in the US. The older women you’ll encounter here usually make good money and love intelligent conversation. But as much as they work hard, they also play hard.
From shopping at Santana Row to dropping by New Seasons Market for kale, cougars in San Jose know how to indulge themselves. They could also be clubbing the night away at in any of the bars downtown. After all, our city's nightlife is wild. Swanky wine bars, sultry dive bars, live music venues, and hip and happening nightclubs are all here.
If you’re on the lookout for San Jose cougars, then our city has many excellent spots where you can find them. We’ve compiled a list of San Jose cougar bars and hangouts, so you can get a headstart on the dating scene.
Check out our list of proven spots below! We’d love to hear how it goes over in the comments section.
If there's just one place you want to check out tonight to meet lots of single older women, make it this one:
Certain clubs and lounges create an almost competitive atmosphere in the ladies who come out. You’ll notice it in the way every single one is wearing an even tighter dress and even higher heels. Avery Lounge is just such a nightclub. Every time we go, we’re amazed at how much sexier and more form-fitting the dresses have gotten since the last time.
Besides the eye-popping attire, Avery Lounge offers one of the hippest nights out in the city. DJs provide an intoxicating aural background that blends nicely with the dazzling lights and strong cocktails. Whether you’re coming to dance or to mingle in a secluded corner, Avery Lounge is always a pleasure.
There are a few reasons why using online dating apps to get cougars is a great option in many cities, especially busy ones like San Jose... Here are the reasons:
A lot of women out there feel like there's a social stigma against dating younger guys. It's totally fine if a guy dates a younger woman but when a woman dates a younger guy it's different.
Because of this, a lot of women who are interested in dating younger guys don't advertise it, even on dating websites or when talking to younger guys in public.
With Cougar Life, for instance, every woman is interested in guys of various ages. You 100% know that every woman you message wants to meet up with guys in your age range. It makes the process so much easier and more enjoyable.
2. It saves a ton of time and money
Spending any amount of time in a bar is expensive and you never know if any attractive cougars will even show up. If you want to make the most of your time and money a quality dating site or app is the best way to go.
Some cougars are out there looking for the love of their life. But other cougars have different plans. Some of them prefer to keep things casual, so they avoid relationships as much as possible. If that’s right up your alley, then there’s one site where you can meet like-minded cougars: Adult FriendFinder.
This site is perfect for anyone looking for some action and nothing more. The underlying agreement between all users here is that the site is for finding sex. No one’s on here looking for love. Instead, the users on Adult FriendFinder want one-night stands, quick flings and, in some cases, other kinky encounters that you’ll have to see to believe.
When you want to get outstanding results and meet the most cougars for bedroom fun AFF is going to deliver for most guys.
Over the years, we’ve tried Adult FriendFinder to find casual meetups. We’ve found that a large number of users are in their 30s or older. So for all you cougar hunters out there, you’re in luck! You’re sure to meet some horny single cougars on AFF.
Try Adult FriendFinder and meet the cougar who will rock your world!
We love a good cougar bar as much as the next guy. But there are times when you just want to hang out at home while meeting hot older women. There are also a lot of older women who just don't spend any time in bars and clubs any longer. Cougar Life (which has a great free trial) really helped us out.
While there may be a ton of apps out there, none of them are as good as Cougar Life when it comes to helping you meet single cougars. We've spent a lot of time rating and ranking over 100 different cougar dating sites and apps and this is what we really like about it:
While their 7,000,000 plus membership doesn't make it the biggest site around, in our experience they have BY FAR the most real cougars using it. We're talking about attractive, single women over 35 who are interested in dating both younger and older men.
Every single woman who uses Cougar Life is an ACTUAL COUGAR. You won't find that anywhere else!
If you've tried to use more general dating sites in the past you know how hard it can be to find a real cougar. You have to sift through hundreds of profiles and MAYBE get lucky and find one.
You have to change your approach to change your results!
Don't stop going out but being able to meet women 24/7 regardless of where you are is extremely powerful!
Do yourself a favor and give Cougar Life's free trial a shot here. It's easy to get set up and it is the best option for making a big improvement in your dating life that we've found. Try it!
How many romantic comedies start with two strangers locking eyes at a bar? This can be you at Vbar if you can handle the pressure. The venue is seen as THE place to be, especially with the seductive red lighting and edgy artwork adorning the walls, so expect classy ladies who know what they want which can be a problem for some men.
The cougars who come here are often the ones who've used to men hitting on them all the time which can be a problem to beginners or men with average game. Expect some serious shit tests and defiance on your way. However, if you pass them, and look the part, she's all yours.
Our city's nightlife is like no other. From classy upscale bars to hip dive bars, we have them all! Here are some of our favorites.
The key tip here is to look sharp and up your game. Cougars have a soft spot for nice compliments, so you gotta make them feel the same way they used to when they were young. However, and because they're experienced, they tend to be slightly testing, especially if they're really hot.
Expect it to go back and forth for a while with a few shit tests thrown at you. Stay cool, exaggerate what she says or rephrase it as if she's hitting on you.
For instance, if she tells you "but you're too short" don't take it personal. Instead, tell her "short for what. I just met you and you're sizing me up for a relationship. I think we should slow it down a little bit." This may sound difficult at first but it will come with practice. So hang in there until you develop that muscle.
Not a fan of partying the night away? These daytime options for meeting older women have worked for us time and again.
"Hi, you look adorable today." Works with cougars more than you think.
Some dating coaches recommend against giving girls compliments right from the get-go since it gives them too much validation too soon. This, however, doesn't work much with cougars. Anyone who's read "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene, is familiar with the term "Crushed Star." It refers to women who were the center of all attention at some time in their life and then lost it.
Maybe they were famous or she was drop-dead gorgeous. Anyway, she's now old and isn't receiving the same attention as before. And here comes your part. If you can remind her of how beautiful she was, while also staying alpha, then you will definitely get her on board. It's that easy.
Where to meet, or take a cougar out depends on her as much as it depends on your skills and attitude. Some cougars don't like night games and think they're too old for it, or they just have children. Others will prefer to know you better before doing anything physical while others, the coolest, will be hitting bars and clubs for a quickie.
For that case, we decided to divide our San Jose cougar dating guide into three categories: nightlife (cool and wild), fun activities (things to do midday), and fancy restaurants. Pick the ones you like, and tell us your results.
If you're looking for a fling or if she finally found a new babysitter, then these places will fix you up for the night. These are variations of lounges and bars where you can chat and have a romantic night before heading home. Just make sure you choose a venue that is slightly close to your place, or that one of you has a car - preferably you.
If you want to share an experience together, know her on a deeper level, and maybe have something long-term, then go with these... These recommendations vary from theatres and parks to cafes and jazz clubs. She won't give you her full attention all the time, but she will remember you as the man she had fun with.
Some cougars aren't in it just for the fun. As much as they want a love machine to rock their world, they also want a provider who can make them live at a certain level. So, expect them to size your wallet up the same way they check your couch.
We find fine dining to be a great way to demonstrate your value as a provider. And these are the finest restaurants we found for dining with a San Jose cougar..
We combined all the recommended locations in just one map to make it easier for you to navigate. Pick the ones that are close to you and give them a try. (And let us know what happens next).
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