Younger men dating older women often have their hands full. If you only have experience dating women your own age or younger there are some big mistakes that you need to avoid. Fortunately for you, we have asked 43 dating experts to share the biggest mistakes that younger men are making. Make sure you don't become another guy who can't handle an older woman.
Top Mistakes of Younger Men Dating Older Women
Avoid these mistakes and maximize your chances:
1. Trying to "copy and paste" what an older guy would do
A younger guy will often try to ‘copy and paste’ or even out match an older guy. This is a pointless strategy because they both offer something totally different.
Older women don’t go for younger men because of their stability, their life experience or their achievements. They go for them because of their ‘happy go lucky’ attitude and their self-belief. Younger guys need to work out what the older guy is lacking rather than what attributes he has.Kezia Noble
Dating and attraction expert for men. Kezia has helped over 80,000 men get real results with women.
2. Acting more like a friend than a potential lover or boyfriend
For most people, sex drive does decrease with age. However, that doesn’t mean that a woman wants to be with a man who she feels no spark with.
If a guy wants to be successful at dating and getting into a relationship with an attractive older woman, he needs to ensure that he actively creates a spark of sexual and romantic attraction, rather than only being nice and friendly.Dan Bacon
Dan Bacon is a dating and relationship expert who helps men succeed with women. He teaches men how to naturally attract women to get a girlfriend, as well as how to deepen a woman’s attraction, respect, and love when in a relationship.
Sometimes younger men may be in awe of the older woman’s experience a bit. Remember, having a plan and leading accordingly turn any woman on, regardless of age. Yet, some guys let themselves fall into a “junior” role with an older woman, which soon leads to loss of attraction.Scot McKay
Scot is one of the most recognized and effective dating coaches to both men and women on the global stage. Now a four-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, over 400 media outlets have consulted him, including ABC, NBC, CBS, Fox, BBC, MTV, Lifetime, Men’s Health and The Wall Street Journal.
4. Handling her the same way you would a younger woman
One of the most common mistakes I see men make when dating an older woman is handling her the same way they would a younger woman. Older women tend to be more mature, which may appear to make some of the things a younger man might do seem out of character, which ultimately makes the older woman feel uncomfortable.
The solution is to be conscious of the age difference, and to cater some of the activities throughout the relationship to also suit her needs.Cheyenne Bostock
Cheyenne Bostock is a Life & Relationship Expert and Motivational Speaker best known for his straight shooting relationship advice and transformational coaching strategies that have helped him go from homeless to success and has impacted the lives of many individuals who are on the path from homeless to success.
He is the author of two self-help books and writer for The Huffington Post and Inc Magazine, a regular contributing expert on The Bill Cunningham Show.
The biggest mistake younger men are making with older women is treating them as if they’re the same age or younger. Older women are generally not interested in constantly texting or being asked out via text.
Also, they will not respond to men on dating sites or social media if the message is something like, “Hi” or “Hello”. There are many more men interested in dating older women than there are women available, so younger men need to bring their “A” game.Lucia
Lucia is a dating/relationship expert specializing in Cougar relationships, author of “Lucia’s Lessons of Love”, former host of “The Art of Love” on L.A. Talk Radio and a keynote speaker.
She has appeared on over 100 national and international TV and radio shows including Dr. Phil, The Tyra Banks Show, E! Entertainment, 60 Minutes Australia, The CBS Early Show, ABC 7 News, Good Day L.A and the KTLA News who called her “The Queen of The Cougar Jungle”.
Remember that your opinions count. Just because she’s older (and presumably wiser) doesn’t mean that she gets to call all the shots. There are two people in this relationship. You’ll need to get comfortable exchanging roles as to who leads. It’s an equal partnership.
This attitudinal choice works to your benefit. You’re establishing that you’re the man. Yes, you work with your mate. And yes, you listen to her wants and needs. But you have your own ideas and approach. In order to keep the passion and desire alive, she needs to see and feel your strength. It’s an animal thing. Women need to know they have a real man by their side; capable, decisive and confident.
As seen on OPRAH, best-selling author/relationship expert Susan Winter (Allowing Magnificence and Older Women/Younger Men) specializes in evolutionary forms of loving partnership and higher thinking. She writes, speaks and coaches on accessing our inherent perfection in life and love.
To be honest, this mistake is something that happens for everyone but more so for men who are dating older or younger. They forget to own who they are and respect the fact that they are younger/older.
The biggest error a man can make is trying to be someone else other than himself. What guys can do is really get clear on who they are as a man. If they like video games. Own it and talk about it with passion. If they like politics…. same thing.
Don’t give up on what you are because you think someone else of a different age is going to want something else. Owning yourself as a man is the sexiest thing a man can do!Marni Kinrys
Marni teaches men how to understand women so they can attract, date & GET any woman they want. Coach, TV & Radio Personality & Best Selling Author of Get Inside Her
8. Not figuring out what your needs are and communicating them
If you are going to date an older women you can use the opportunity to learn and grow. An older women will definitely appreciate honesty.
Really try to figure out what your needs are and communicate those needs honestly. Don’t be scared to let her know who you really are.Radio Wright
The eDatingDoc specializes in showing men, in these 3 situations, how to best use online dating & how to create an ONLINE DATING PROFILE that attracts beautiful & compatible women for authentic, fun & fulfilling relationships. 1) Just not meeting women that meet your standards and you refuse to settle. 2) Recent breakup or divorce. 3) You’re rusty or shy and want more experiences with amazing women.
9. Younger men dating older women get too attached
Younger men frequently get too attached to older women. Remember, she’s been around the block a bunch more times than you have, and this is less of a big deal to her than it likely is to you. So try not to get too melodramatic. She might think it’s cute, but if she usually dates older men she’s used to guys who are a little more grizzled with her.Chase Amante
So try not to get too melodramatic. She might think it's cute, but if she usually dates older men she's used to guys who are a little more grizzled with her.[/su_quote]
Chase Amante is the founder of Girls Chase, the web’s premiere natural game website.
10. Younger men dating older women try to show off and impress
Many men make the huge mistake of trying to show off and impress older women. You don’t need to try too hard and overdo things. It’s the small gestures such as remembering things that are special to her or cooking a nice meal that are much more important.James Preece
James Preece is the UK’s leading Dating Coach. He has clients all over the world and is the author of 8 best selling dating books, including the Amazon Number One best seller Online Dating Guide “I will Make You Click!”
If you are constantly asking yourself (and her) ‘why does she want to be with me?’, then you’ll find that she won’t want to be with you for long!
Even though she is older, she still wants you to be the protector, to make her feel safe. She also wants you to take the lead and have a plan – for example, a date idea or a weekend away.Claudia Cox
Claudia is the creator of Text Weapon, and the author of French Seduction Made Easy. She is passionate about modern communication and loves helping people improve their relationships through flirty texting. To read more by Claudia, visit TextWeapon.com.
12. Thinking that the only thing that older women want is sex
Younger guys who date older women almost always fall into the trap of thinking that the only thing that older women want is sex. That may be true in some cases, but for the most part, one of the reasons so many desirable older women are in the market for a partner is that the older men they’ve dated did not share emotional intimacy, a heartfelt romantic connection, or make them feel respected as a person.
Never take an older woman for granted. She will notice everything and she’ll break if off if she thinks you only want her for sex.Robert Manni
Robert is the author of THE GUYS’ GUY’S GUIDE TO LOVE, a novel called the “men’s successor to Sex and the City”. He is a featured Blog Talk Radio host of Guy’s Guy Radio™ and is also a regular contributor to Huffington Post and Cupid’s Pulse.
13. Forgetting older women can be very playful, fun and enjoy doing things that bring out their sexy side
Statistics have shown older women to be significantly more sexual than younger women and I’ve found men to be very lazy in their courting process.
Although older women have strong sexual urges and sometimes a lot more (sexual) experience, men do not take the time to properly court an older woman to have her interested in him and find him sexually appealing. Sorry guys, older women (cougars) are simply not just DTF whenever you call. Carmelia Ray
Carmelia Ray is a certified dating coach, matchmaker and online dating expert. She is the Matchmaker on hit TV series Mom VS Matchmaker on MyxTV. As a leading authority in the dating industry she has personally interviewed over 60,000 singles.
14. Letting yourself be controlled or pushed around
A woman is a woman – old or young, and they are, for the most part, drawn to a man who can take charge, make decisions, and stand his ground. This doesn’t mean that they want a jerk, that’s not what I mean at all. They want a man who will stick up for himself and be supportive and protective, even if they can support and protect themselves.Kari
Kari is the creator of Attract And Get Women. The blog’s goal is to help men understand women better, have more success with women, and be happier with or without a woman.
15. Younger men dating older women put them on a pedestal
The biggest mistake I see men make is putting older women on a pedestal. They think because the women are older, the rules of dating and attraction don’t apply to them like they apply to the younger women. But they couldn’t be more wrong in this assertion!
All women respond to the same attraction triggers. And no single woman is off limits. If an older woman is out and about looking to meet men, have the utmost confidence in yourself that that man could be you. And use what you know about dating and attraction to give yourself the best chance at dating her.Justin Stenstrom
Justin Stenstrom is a nationally-acclaimed life coach, author, entrepreneur, and speaker. He is the founder of EliteManMagazine.com and the host of the Elite Man Podcast. Once anxious, insecure, depressed, and unhappy, Justin’s overcome many of life’s greatest obstacles and loves nothing more than helping others do the same!
The biggest mistake men make when dating older women is to bring sex up too early in the relationship—like on the first phone call or first date. Many men want a guarantee that they will have good sex. So they want the goods up front.
The problem with this is that older women feel like these men objectify them. They want good sex, too—all in due time. So, get to know these amazing women first. Sex will come, and when it does, it will blow their socks off!Sandy Weiner
Sandy Weiner, founder of Last First Date, is devoted to helping women over 40 achieve healthy, off-the-charts love. An internationally known TEDx speaker, dating coach, and online course creator, Sandy has contributed hundreds of articles to large publications including Mind Body Green, The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and The Good Men Project.
It’s what I call “Dirty Dog Syndrome.” Guys think they are God’s gift to the world and that all those much younger women will just flock to you. So when you’re dating an older woman, your Dirty Dog comes out of its cage, and you get a serious case of roaming eye.
You’re not paying attention to your date or caring about her as a person; you’re fantasizing that you’re Hugh Hefner. And you don’t have to say a word, because she can tell. Which means you will end up: Alone. Dennis Work
Dennis Work is the CEO of Guyvorce.com, an independent blog site offering free divorce advice for guys.
If you share (or dump) how your day was right off the bat and then don’t ask about her day, it appears that you are not very interested her life and therefore her. It’s not necessarily that you are not interested; it’s just that you don’t always think to ask. So, if you are dating an older woman, make sure to ask her about her day, her feelings and her dreams.
Be a good support to her, as she most likely is to you. Make sure to LISTEN when she talks and don’t cut her off. Let her talk it out. Sometimes women need to talk to figure things out. We don’t always want solutions, sometimes we just need to talk and bounce ideas off of you (or vent).
If you have a good solution, ask if she would like to hear it rather than assume she would. Be patient, we don’t always get to the point right away, and sometimes there is no point. Bottom line, listen more, talk less.Jill Crosby
Jill Crosby is the owner/founder of the Conscious Dating Network, featuring GreenSingles.com and SpiritualSingles.com. As a speaker and writer, she is known for her candor, vulnerability, down to earth honesty and humor as she helps singles thrive in the world of online dating and ultimately meet their life partners.
A guy in his 20s who is dating a woman in her 40s shouldn’t try to act more mature than he really is, or pretend to be wealthier than he really is. Researchers have confirmed that most women who use online dating sites have serious concerns over the authenticity of the guys they are messaging. Breaching her trust early on can stop a budding relationship in its tracks.Scott Valdez
One of the world’s leading online dating experts, Scott Valdez founded VirtualDatingAssistants.com in 2009 and has helped thousands of men find their perfect partner online. His team of highly-trained professionals write your profile, touch up your photos, handle all of your messaging, and get you dates with the women you want to meet.
20. Putting aside your vision of the future and not being honest about what you really want
If you want to have kids but your lady is at a time in her life where she doesn’t or can’t have children, be realistic about the fact that this can’t be your forever woman. Too many times I see couples postpone or abandon their dreams because they fall in love – or in lust – and think that problem will just work itself out.
Usually you can coast through the relationship for a few years but if you have a major difference in how you see your future, eventually your relationship will crumble.Damona Hoffman
Damona Hoffman is a certified dating coach and host/dating expert for FYI TV (A+E Networks.) Damona also hosts the weekly radio show “Dates & Mates” (iHeart Radio/UBN Radio.)
Again, older women have life experience. They have been through the dating process to a much greater depth than younger women (for the most part) so they know that immediate love is fleeting love. They differentiate between lust and love. They do not want to deal with a needy boy smitten after one date, they want a man on their level. Chris Manak
Chris Manak is one of Australia’s leading dating and lifestyle coaches for men. Running his company Manic Workshops since 2008, he features regularly in national and international media.
Cheeky jokes might work with an older women in moderation, but immature jokes won’t. She may like younger men, but more often than not, to keep her interested, you’ll have to have a mature mind. Lucy Clarke
A writer with over 6 years of experience working with a wide array of online dating sites, Lucy specializes in bringing singles of all ages little-known insider knowledge that gives those looking for love a much better chance.
Dating an older woman is challenging if you aren’t feeling good about yourself. Women want to be with a self-assured man who’s got his ducks in order. Because older women have dated quite a bit, they don’t have time for nonsense and game playing.
Older women can see through the bullshit quickly, so be honest. When taking her out on dates, pick something affordable. She realizes you’re younger and aren’t the CEO of a fortune 500 company. If she wanted that, she wouldn’t be interested in you. She wants companionship and fun so be yourself and continually try to do some self-improvement.
It’s a turn-on for me as a self-proclaimed “Cougar” to see a guy who takes the lead, listens to the woman he’s trying to woo, and has a positive confident attitude. KarenLee Poter
KarenLee Poter currently hosts an Internet talk show, The KarenLee Poter Show, and podcast about dating, sex and love. KarenLee is an expert in large age gap relationships and wrote the book, “A Cougar’s Guide To Getting Your Ass Back Out There.”
We live in a society in which women are already insecure about aging and having relationships with younger men. The worst thing a man can do is play into that insecurity. For the most part, large age differences between partners is more socially accepted when the man is the one who is older.
When women are older, the stereotype is that their boyfriends or husbands will cheat and/or trade them in for a younger model. Men need to be aware of and sensitive to this. They should not draw attention to the age gap with their comments or behaviors.
Too many younger men give women reasons to be insecure. They are interacting with younger women on social media–liking one too many pics! They are being secretive about who they are texting–having their phones on the table, facing down. Really?! This is just a recipe for making an older woman even more insecure! Rachel Russo
Rachel Russo, MS, MFT is a Matchmaker & Dating/Relationship Coach.
The biggest mistake I see men make when dating an older women is not listening and talking too much about themselves.Rachel Moheban-Wachtel
Rachel Moheban-Wachtel is a psychotherapist in New York City for over 18 years and specializes in couples and relationship issues. She provides both in-person and virtual counseling and has created self-study study program to help couples work through the five common issues that plague relationships.
As older woman we are highly unlikely to share any kind of scintillating fact we have with someone else… after all we just met you!
You’re putting us on the spot forcing us to recall something unusual, intimate and ‘crazy’. As a mature woman we just find this childish and dirty-birdie. No good can come from this. Jessie Kay
Jessie The Real Matchmaker here. After 21 years in the business I can still honestly say “I’m always in love with love”. As a matchmaker it’s important for me to give you a little bit of what you WANT and a whole lot of what you NEED…that’s my secret weapon to finding you, REAL LOVE.
27. Trying to impress them
Dan Munro - TheInspirationalLifestyle.com
Trying to impress them, which is actually the biggest mistake I see men making in all forms of dating. But this is particularly relevant to older women, because they’ve seen it all before and they know you’re full of shit.
They have become worn out with the falseness of the modern man, so when they meet a guy who doesn’t give a fuck but is still genuinely interested in them, it’s like a massive breath of fresh air. Let them see what mood you’re in, tell them stories that are actually true, have a laugh and let go of trying to think of something good to say.
Act like you’re hanging out with your best mate and have nothing to prove (with the exception of also expressing sexual attraction when it occurs). Dan Munro
Dan Munro is a Confidence Coach, founder of the Brojo self-development community, and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Legendary Life. As a former approval-seeking Nice Guy, Dan helps other recovering Nice Guys and people pleasers to become more authentic, massively self-confident and socially successful
28. Don't tell her she reminds you of your mother
Lisa Shield - LisaShield.com
Never tell an older woman you’re dating that she reminds you of your mother or any other “older” woman. Also, don’t mention that she is the oldest woman you’ve ever dated. And don’t tell her that you love dating older women.
If you really want to flatter her, tell her she reminds you of someone younger and even more beautiful than her. Lisa Shield
After going out on 100 first dates in 2 years, Lisa Shield found the love of her life online. Her success led her to become one of the first dating coaches in the world and she continues to be one of the most sought after. Lisa has helped thousands of singles find love through her unique Naked Dating® process.
TEXTING! Keep in mind that texting is one of the easiest ways to be misunderstood and leaves too much room for interpretation. Older women like to know where they stand.
Picking up the phone and actually calling her shows her you are mature, have good communication skills and that you value her. She will feel appreciated much more with a phone call instead of a brief text.Denise Levy
Denise Levy, BSW, is a professional matchmaker with experience in the dating industry since 1996. She own and operates personally a Boutique MatchMaking & Coaching Agency in Destin, FL and work with singles and other matchmakers throughout the country.
30. Younger men dating older women often make some bad assumptions
The biggest mistake I’d say is making assumptions. Just because a woman is older doesn’t mean she’s going to look or act in a certain way or want a particular thing out of a relationship.
Regardless of her age, a woman is still an individual and needs to be treated as such. I think some men forget that and are surprised when the woman they’re dating doesn’t fit the bill.Shimrit Elisar
Journalist, online dating industry professional and author of “Everyone’s Guide to Online Dating”, the UK’s first online dating guide. Shimrit has been using the Internet socially since before the invention of the web and has worked on some of the UK’s largest dating sites.
31. Men rush
Doc Love - DocLove.com
Women fall in love slower than men. Do not talk about the future or make a date on a date. No Texting and wait a week to call after each date. We want her to contact you for a date. Let her touch you, but do not touch her back. We are creating a Challenge for her.Doc Love
Since 1965 Doc Love has been man’s best friend in giving advice on relationships and dating women. He has his written a popular column on the #1 Men’s website in the world, AskMen.com (featuring dating and relationship advice for guys) and has been featured in countless major media appearances, including FOX News, Time Magazine, The 9-5-0/Houston, KIIS/Los Angeles and many more.
32. Younger men dating older women fetishize the process
Being ready for a relationship includes knowing what you want, but it also includes resolving any issues that might undermine the success of a relationship–like having a lot of unresolved emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship or not having effective dating and relationship skills.Melissa Josue
Melissa Josue at Happyhealthyrelationship.com is a relationship advice blogger and dating success coach for women. She specializes in helping women navigate the complexities of dating a single dad or dating divorced or divorcing man so that they can get their needs met, avoid being the rebound woman, and have a happy, healthy relationship!
Making jests about the age difference are big mistakes, even if she laughs along with you. It should be obvious advice, but women can be self-conscious of their age, and that come out the most when she’s dating a younger man. Damien Diecke
Fed up with the typical lying and manipulating present in the Pick Up Artist industry, Damien Diecke set out to put his Life Coaching and hypnosis Qualifications to work offering men an alternative way to improve their self-confidence and become more confident versions of themselves. 8 years later his company, School of Attraction, has become the most successful dating coaching company in the country.
I would say the biggest mistake that men make when dating older women is that prejudgement. They look at an older women and think she wants marriage and babies tomorrow. This isn’t always the case.
They may just want to find a great partner to have a relationship with. Or they critique why they are still single. Another mistake, is not to feel threatened by them. Show them support and be interested in their life and passions. Try not to be too submissive.
At the end of the day, an older woman wants to be taken and not always be the one to make the decisions. Be a man with a plan and stick to it! If you need to cancel a date, don’t just batman. Explain yourself and rebook. Shannon Tebb
Shanny in the City is Toronto’s Boutique Matchmaker who specializes in getting singles 100% Date Ready. She has been featured in the Toronto Star, Huffington Post, VICE, Oh So Cosmo, KISS 92.5, CBC radio, The Globe and Mail, Divorce Angels and was the Spokesperson for Zoosk.
Mistakes in dating are across the board but those looking for love a little later in life know what they want, they have more often than not had a long term relationship, if not a significant other resulting in marriage, and so more importantly; they know what they don’t want.
I think playing it cool and waiting a certain amount of time before contacting, arranging for a second date or even picking up the phone for a telephone call won’t really wash. It would bode well to be direct, forthright and using honesty in feelings as the best policy for finding love with someone who is just that little bit older.Sarah Ryan
Dating expert, award nominated entrepreneur, matchmaker, dating and lifestyle blogger. Lover of travel, luxury goods and services. Total foodie. Passionate about connecting people in love and in business.
37. Letting her become the boss, or sort of like a mother
The biggest mistake I see guys make dating older women is letting her become the boss, or sort of like a mother. It’s easy to let this happen because older women have more experience and will often be more assertive than younger women. Many of them are mothers too and will see you, the younger man, as someone who needs babying (if you allow it).
If you just sit back and not take on the role as the man then she will. In the end it will be a turn off for her and bad for your Independence and confidence. I made this mistake when I had less experience. Eddy Baller
Eddy is a dating coach who focuses on personal development and specializes in overcoming fear. He helps guys to crush personal obstacles and become the kind of men that women desire and men respect.
My answer is not tied specifically to older women but to relationships and dating in general. The biggest mistake people make is not telling their partner exactly what they feel. Often the fear of retribution outweighs the human necessity to express their desire.
To create a relationship with someone older, younger, same sex, different sex we have to be unequivocally clear as to how we feel and what we want. Be it sexually, emotionally and mentally needs have to be aired. Without that you core communication goes out the window and you’re left with a façade of repressed emotions.Cosmo Currey
Cosmo is the owner and Managing Director of the multi-ward nominated site HerSmile.com. He spent the last three years studying the behaviors behind finding a partner. HerSmile was created as an alternative to the current way of online dating.
39. They want energy to match their own
Patrick King - PatrickKingConsulting.com
Making and acting on assumptions. A younger man might have a host of assumptions about an older women who is seeking a younger man, but I guarantee that 99% of them are false or incorrect. The 1% that is always true is simply that they find younger men attractive and fun to be around.
Don’t assume you know what they want, or that they are a “cougar,” or that they are just looking for a fling. To people who are frequenting this site, the phrase “age is just a number” is common. Keep that in mind and approach them with an open mind. Patrick King
Patrick King is a Social Interaction Specialist and Conversation Coach based in San Francisco, California. He focuses on using his unique emotional intelligence and understanding of human interaction to break down emotional barriers, instill confidence, and equip people with the tools they need for success.
40. The biggest mistake younger men dating older women make comes at the beginning
Dave Perrotta - PostgradCasanova.com
The biggest mistake comes in the beginning phase, when they’re meeting and trying to attract them.
The older women gives the younger guy an age objection, and he doesn’t know how to respond.
Basically, she says something like, “You’re fun, but I think I’m too old for you. You should hang out with cool and attractive women who are your age.”
So, how should you respond?
What NOT to do: Argue that you’re old enough for her or why age doesn’t matter. This is a logical argument and will ruin the attraction and connection.
What you should do instead: Agree and exaggerate. Use the age difference to create a fun and flirty conversation.
Her: “How old are you?”
Her: “What?! 25? I’m 31!”
You: “31? Wow, you’re way too old for me. This would never work. You’re just going to try to take advantage of me and all my innocence.”
By agreeing and exaggerating, you make light of the situation and it doesn’t seem like a big deal anymore. In doing so, you beat her age objection and continue the interaction with her smoothly.Dave Perrotta
Dave Perrotta is the founder of PostGradCasanova.com . He’s been traveling the world for 2 years, and teaching men how to master conversation and succeed with women.
The biggest mistake that younger men tend to make with older women is that they make a big deal out of the age gap. If you approach an older woman with “I know that i am a bit too young for you, but you look really beautiful”, you convince her subconscious mind that you are in fact too young for her.
Congratulations, she won’t give you her number and she definitely won’t go out with you. What to do instead? Don’t even mention your age. Act as if approaching her would be the most normal thing in the world. Sebastian Harris
Sebastian Harris is a travel enthusiast and lover of women who spent the past five years meeting and attracting women all over the world. His global dating journey eventually allowed him to meet the woman of his dreams. Now he supports and inspires men to embark on their own journey.
The biggest mistake guys make is going on the defensive from the very start. “I know I’m younger, but…” Don’t do this. Instead, approach from a place of supreme confidence. Tell her that dress looks incredibly sexy and sophisticated on her.
Sincere compliments actually WIN points with older women. We never do this with younger women, because they hear it all the time. Older women appreciate it more, and are less likely to take your interest for granted. Matthew Valentines
Matthew Valentines is an online dating concierge, and executive director at PersonalDatingAssistants.com. An attraction technologist at heart, he travels the world in search of beautiful women, new ways to help men with their online dating, and the perfect single malt whiskey.
Don’t mention it. Don’t focus on it. What’s the big deal? Men have been “dating younger” for ages, and unless the age difference is extreme (more than 7 or 10 years) it’s rarely an issue, unless he or she makes it an issue.
Our youth-obsessed culture will naturally cause a wee bit of insecurity for a woman who’s dating a younger man. The most attractive, alluring quality that men seek in women is confidence.
Help her build and maintain her confidence by treating her as a person, not a number. Chances are… she’s gonna outlive you anyway, as women live an average of 5 years longer then men do, so stay together for love and because the relationship works well for both of you, and let go of your attachment to what a modern day love is “supposed” to look like. Julie Ferman
Julie Ferman, personal matchmaker and dating coach since 1990, has been responsible for over 1100 marriages. Serving both men and women, registration is free, to be eligible for personal matchmaking referrals, and to receive invitations to events and to dating coaching forums, podcasts, etc.
James Anderson is the Director of Content for BeyondAges.com. He has many years of dating and relationship experience with older women of various ages and loves helping other men and women find success.
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