One of the biggest joys of life is getting to know your crush on a deeper level. And one of the easiest ways to achieve that is to learn about some great things to talk about with your crush. These topics can get them to open up to you and reveal their true self.
That said, knowing what to talk about with your crush so you can build a deep connection is easier said than done. Luckily, we’ll do our best to help you with that and reveal our list of what we believe are the greatest topics of conversation you can start with a simple question.
Once you read them and apply them when you talk to your crush, you’ll quickly find yourselves having a meaningful and insightful conversation. And your crush will certainly appreciate you taking the time to get to know them better than anyone else.
To create this list of what to talk about with your crush, we thought long and hard about what makes a conversation memorable, insightful and meaningful.
Memorable conversations are emotional and leave an impact.
Insightful conversations delve deep into a person’s personality and find out how they would behave in various peculiar situations.
And meaningful conversations are those that people want to be a part of. That's because these conversations enrich them in some way and provide food for thought.
We did our best to create unique questions that touch on several or even all of these things at once, for your benefit. They’re great ways to get someone you like to talk to you.
You see, people like to talk about many different topics. But the most interesting topic the vast majority of people love to talk about is themselves!
That’s what makes our questions so special; they encourage a person to talk about their most favorite thing in the world. They get people to open up and reveal their innermost thoughts about life, the universe and everything else.
On top of that, your crush won’t be able to answer our questions with a simple “Yes” or “No.” They’ll have to actually take the time to think things through and answer in great depth. Now that’s one way to keep the conversation flowing.
That said, all of the questions on our list are meant to be insightful and fun when asked the right way. You’ll see several deep questions to ask, but you’ll also get some rather wacky, absurd and even ridiculous questions. Not to mention sexual and intimate ones.
There are also no right and wrong answers because everything is subjective. So don’t take things too seriously and simply enjoy your time with your crush.
Now let’s dig in!
Let’s start off slow with some funny and deep questions and gradually build up to the really hard-hitting ones that’ll get your philosophical juices flowing.
Any subject that’s full of emotion can be interesting as long as you keep it light. This particular question also shows how they’ve matured as a person. It also reveals all the silly things they used to think were so scary when they were kids.
Some people love cats and others love dogs, and it tells a whole lot about them as a person. Then continue the conversation by asking what they would talk about with their furry friends.
This is one of the fun “would you rather” questions you can also ask when you’re already dating.
Questions that encourage your crush to show vulnerability around you are particularly powerful at building a strong connection.
A silly-sounding question that’ll let you know a lot about your crush’s morals and ethics. But it could also possibly reveal if they’re a little bit of a perv, which you should definitely tease them about! This question, when asked at just the right time, can also build tension between you and your crush.
A well-known yet insightful question. It tells a lot about what they value in life and what they would do if they never had to worry about money.
This lets you learn about some of the best achievements and biggest embarrassments your crush has lived through.
A deeply philosophical question people can talk about for hours. It also reveals if your crush values the connections and friendships they’ve made in life.
If you don’t know what to talk about with your crush, then asking this question will get the ball rolling. Plus, it’s a great opportunity to learn about what they thought of you when you first met.
Countless conversations have sprung from this wonderful question. It delves really well into what preoccupies someone’s thoughts.
If you hit the jackpot with this question, your crush will basically tell you if some of the weird things you do might be just the thing they have the hots for. Just make sure you reserve this for when you’re already a little close.
A great way to see how your crush expresses their love. There are five main love languages in romantic relationships. And learning which one they prefer will make communicating so much easier.
Depending on what they say, you’ll get a glimpse into the little (or even big) gestures they appreciate the most.
This question often leads to funny and interesting stories. You’ll also learn a few things you should avoid doing when you’re with your crush.
Great way to learn about hidden talents. Also an opportunity to tease your crush if her talents are useless or funny.
A person’s sense of humor is highly subjective and reveals a lot about their personality. If your sense of humor happens to coincide with theirs, it could be the start of something wonderful.
Another great way to learn what makes the person you adore tick. Ask them to tell you exactly why this thing was so impactful and what made it special.
Talking about aliens visiting us is always a bit silly, but this question really says a lot about a person. You can see what their priorities are and what they think is important during unprecedented times.
Maybe your crush is an activist and wants to save the world. Maybe they’re wise and can help everyone with a simple message. Or maybe they’re just vain and want to become famous. Lots of things to discover here!
A hypothetical question that gets to the core of what’s most important to someone. Would they spend the extra time studying, working, enjoying life or even doing nothing at all?
Plenty of adults miss being a kid. What made your crush’s childhood special?
If you want to get to know someone really well, then ask them how well they get along with their entire family. Most people can talk about this for days.
Maybe your crush is someone who scarfs down 10 twinkies every weekend? Or maybe they like picking out ingrown hairs, no matter how gross it is? These little guilty pleasures are always fun to talk about, especially if your crush is trying to convince you that it’s absolutely normal!
Same as with guilty pleasures, learning about pet peeves will also give you a great glimpse into their personality.
This can be a goldmine of information that’ll help you significantly if you get into a relationship with that person. Just make sure she’s already over her ex, otherwise don’t bring it up.
People love fantasizing about what they’d do if they had a chance to get anything in the world. This will provide you with many insights into their worldview.
Here’s another batch of questions that will get your crush to open up to you.
26. When you were growing up, what was your favorite toy?
27. People say it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission. What do you think and why?
28. If you owned a company and had to fire 100 people, how would you do it to make it less painful?
29. If you had the ability to time travel, what’s the biggest thing you’d like to change about the history of mankind?
30. How do you deal with lots of stress and anxiety?
31. What are some of the most romantic things you have ever done for your lover?
32. If you could get a great place in any city in the world, where would you like to live?
33. Is there something about you that your family and close friends would be shocked to hear?
34. You get the chance to have one superpower for a whole day. What would you choose and what would you do with it?
35. Does any person in the world know everything about you?
36. If you could erase one genre of music, what would it be?
37. What’s the one skill you’d love to be good at?
38. Next big thing you want to achieve in life?
39. Do you already know the names of your future children?
40. What’s one food you just can’t live without?
41. What’s the most horrible thing a guest has done in your home?
42. What’s something you just can’t get your head around and don’t understand at all?
43. Money or fame?
44. What’s more important, getting a good night’s rest or lots of sex?
45. What or who would you die for?
46. What do you think are the most important things for a healthy relationship?
47. What was the absolute best day of your life and why?
48. What positive or negative event has made the biggest impact and changed the course of your life completely?
49. What are some of your biggest regrets so far?
50. Would you know if someone who has a crush on you is staring into your eyes?
This last question is a bit risqué but if you think your crush feels the same way, go ahead and ask it.
By now you should have plenty of things to talk about with your crush. Each and every single one of these questions can open the floodgates to having a deep and meaningful conversation with the person you adore.
As always, a quick reminder: Don’t overthink things and take them too seriously! So having a fun and lighthearted conversation is the key here.