So what does “hit me up” mean when you hear it from a woman you’re interested in?
I’ll answer this curious question and also show you how you can take advantage of the situation when you hear these words. That way, you won’t misunderstand her intentions, which will help you move things forward.
The answer to this question depends highly on the context of your relationship. That’s why it can be very confusing to so many guys.
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What does "hit me up" mean from her?
When an older woman you had a conversation with tells you to hit her up, it simply means she wants you to contact her when you’re available.
If you’re already sleeping together, it usually means she wants to meet for a booty call. She might say something like, “Hit me up when you’re in town!”
It also applies when you're talking to an older woman in a bar and have really hit it off, but she has to leave for one reason or another. In this case, “HMU” means you should get in touch with her for a potential hookup.
However, "HMU" can mean something very different if she’s not that interested in you. The same applies when you’re not actually dating or sleeping together. In this scenario, “hit me up” can mean she’s open to meeting you and hanging out together. It doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s already into you.
“Hit me up” is usually a phrase that friends tell each other when they want to hang out. Something like “Hey man, HMU when you want to shoot some hoops together!”
So when your crush tells you to hit her up, it might be for many different reasons.
It could mean you made a pretty good impression on her when you met. Maybe she’s decided she wants to meet you again to see where things lead. But it could also just as easily mean she wants to hang out with you as friends and nothing more.
In any case, don’t start looking for any deeper meaning behind “HMU” other than that the person wants to see you when you’re available. That is unless you know she’s really into you.
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What to do when you hear “hit me up” from someone you like
Let’s say you’re into someone, but you’re not sure if she likes you back. What could “hit me up” mean?
Since it’s a pretty ambiguous thing to say, you should find out her intentions as soon as you can.
I suggest finding this out as soon as she tells you to hit her up, in fact. Because you don’t want to leave things vague and confusing. Where you met her is really important here.
If you meet on one of the hookup apps that we like hit me up can mean that she is looking for sex. If you met in one of the more traditional spots we like for meeting women it could completely different.
The easiest way to do this would be to ask her a follow-up question. Like “Sure, I’ll hit you up when I’m free. What’s on your mind?”
When you do this, she’ll usually tell you what she wants to do. She will let you know her intentions. She’ll either say she just wants to hang out as friends or whatever. Or she may tell you she wants to go on a date with you. So, be ready with topics to get an older woman interested.
And if she’s still being too vague, you can simply ask her if it’s a date when she proposes you hit her up. Then she’ll have no choice but to tell you.
But sometimes, you won’t even have to ask her because things will be perfectly clear.
For example, let’s say you’re hanging out at a party, getting to know each other and having fun together. You’re flirting a lot, engaging in dirty talk and teasing each other. Your hands are all over her and hers are all over you.
If she then tells you to “hit her up” at the end of the party, she obviously enjoyed your company a lot. She might want to meet you for something more intimate later.
You might then want to take her up on her offer straight away.
How to respond to HMU without sounding needy
Now that the question “what does hit me up mean?” is clear, you also need to know how to follow through. Many guys make the huge mistake of sounding too needy when they’re calling or texting women.
The most important part of responding to her is to keep it cool and casual. Try to sound like you have all the time in the world. Let her know you that you might adjust your availability depending on what she has in mind.
Let’s say you’re free on Friday and Sunday night. You can message her to say something like “Hi, you said I should hit you up when I’m free. It looks like I’m free on Friday, how does 8 p.m. sound?”
If she’s free and the time suits her, that’s great. If she’s not, say something like “Alright. My Sunday evening is also free. What about yours?”
If she’s not free that day either, don’t suddenly start going through your schedule for the rest of the month. Don’t give her a rundown of all the times you’re free to meet her. That sounds like you’ve got nothing worthwhile going on in your life. That desperation is unattractive.
Instead, if she can’t meet you at these times when you’re free, say something like “No problem. Hit me up next week, and we’ll see how it goes.”
This sounds anything but needy. It shows you’re a busy guy with a lot of other things to do, and that's incredibly attractive to women.
With that said, if you know she’s a busy person too, you might ask her “Alright, so when are you free next week?”
Now you know what hit me up means and how to respond. Just remember, if you’re unsure of what she really means by saying this, it’s always best to ask.