We want to start off our Charm Date review with a little visualization. Imagine you are going on a blind date with a woman. You sit down at the restaurant table, waiting for her to arrive. When she does arrive, you are pleasantly surprised. She’s got a beautiful smile and a smokin’ hot body. She wears a clever outfit and walks like she owns the room. Wow, this is going to be great!
She sits down across from you at the table and before you can ever say hello she says, “I just want to say right off the bat that I am not crazy. I have never cheated on any of my boyfriend’s. Seriously, I haven’t stolen my ex-boyfriend’s car and driven it into the ocean. I would never, ever do any of these things. Really.”
Then you ask the waiter for the check and get out of there right away. Because you know, like I do, that immediate, emphatic denials are always a red flag.
It is red flags like these that we always look for when testing out new sites to include in our rankings for the best hookup sites to meet single women. This is more or less what happened to me when I was doing research for this CharmDate review. I navigated to the website, which seemed pretty nice on the surface. The blue and white color scheme and the photo of a happy couple looked like a sort of high-end public service announcement. I can trust this, I thought.
But that notion quickly vanished when I read the three lines of bolded text on their front page:
“Authentic profiles of quality singles from around the world”
“Optimum anti-scam protection and support from professional team”
“No language or cultural barriers with efficient services”
If you have to stress the fact that these profiles are ‘authentic’ and that you have ‘anti-scam’ protection right up front, then I am going to go ahead and assume that there has been a problem with these things in the past. And what, exactly, are ‘efficient services’?
The site was starting to seem less charming by the minute, more like a Charm Date scam.
In our Charm Date review, we found a site that is trying to look legitimate but not doing a great job of it. They want you to think they are helping you find a real relationship but then it turns into a Cam site. Not great.
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Either way, skip Charmdate.com and don't look back.
I made an account for Charm Date to do some deeper investigating. It took about one minute to create, providing a minimum amount of information. They don’t seem all that keen on having guys actually fill out their profiles.
Once I logged in, I noticed that the title on my web browser’s tab changed to “Camshare Ladies”. The page that loaded featured gorgeous women in scandalous poses, each with a name like Karina or Olga and a little button below their picture that said “CamShare”. The caption at the top of the page said, “Want to see what your lady’s up to and her to see you through webcam?” This site is, apparently, not one to beat around the bush. They want you ‘chatting’ right away.
Of course, by ‘chatting’ they also mean paying. I clicked on one of the women’s pictures and it brought up a window with a chat box that enticed me to buy ‘credits’. Typically this would be enough to stop our review and declare that a site has no place in our review of the most useful sites for dating older women but we pressed on!
I remember when I was a kid I used to go to an arcade that had ‘tokens’. You had to exchange your quarters or dollars for tokens. One quarter was worth one token, but of course it never felt that way. Tokens felt like monopoly money, fake. It’s a lot easier to spend fake money than it is to spend real money.
This is why Charm Date puts their prices in the form of ‘credits’ rather than dollars. It’s only .5 credits for every minute of chatting! Well, .5 credits is 1 dollar, but it’s easy to forget that. In fact, the term ‘credits’ seem so innocuous that you could feel like you aren’t paying anything at all. You could feel like this is just an ‘authentic’ interaction with a real woman, no money involved.
I wouldn’t call it fraud, but it’s not exactly honest, either.
When you are logged onto this site there are constant pop ups in the corner of the browser from women who want to talk. The pop ups stack on top of one another, like small puppies jumping over one another, vying for your affection. It can be tempting to click on them just to make them stop.
The women on Charm Date all have Russian sounding names. In fact, the website is clear that it’s all about helping “men from all over the world and beautiful women from Russia and Ukraine connect for romance, love and wonderful relationships.”
There are no user counts listed on the site, but there seem to be hundreds of profiles at least. Many of them have generic biographies and interests. However, most of the profiles do have multiple pictures, suggesting that the women are real, even if the biography information is created by a computer program.
On the Charmdate Facebook page there are pictures of more women and enticing little advertisements. I even found one video interview with a woman, further confirming that there are at least some legitimate humans behind the profiles. But just because a woman is real, that doesn’t mean you want to date her.
In the interview, the woman talks about wanting to go to Mayan ruins. She is clearly reading from a script. Then the video cuts to a strange montage of photos of this woman with an abhorrent cover of The Police’s “Every Step You Take” playing in the background. In case you haven’t listened to that song recently, let me remind you that it is like the national anthem of stalkers.
“Every step you take, every move you make, every breath you take, I’ll be watching you” from behind my computer screen three thousand miles away!
It’s a pretty bizarre scene.
In Charmdate’s own descriptions of its services, it says that they rely on a “huge network of local dating agencies all across” Russia and Ukraine. When I dug little bit deeper into this issue, it became apparent that this means many of the women are part of large, shady schemes to make money off of foreigners.
For this CharmDate review I looked over the site’s whole user agreement. I found many sketchy phrases about sharing user information with third parties for ‘promotional purposes’ and about how the site could never control what happened once you connect with a ‘lady’ (which is the only word they use to describe the women on their site, even in their user agreement).
But the weirdest part of the agreement is where it explains how “We do not rule out the possibility that besides using this Site and the Services, some of our members might at the same time have relationship with certain service provider that this Site presently cooperates with and/or used to co-operate with, and even pay for their service that is in no connection with this Site.”
Well, that’s vague. Who are these other service providers that may or may not be connected with the Charm Date scam? I searched even deeper into the agreement and found a possible answer: “Please bear in mind, however, there may exist service agreement between lady member & service provider by which, for example, contingency fee payable to service provider upon the lady getting married through our Services.”
After closer examination, it seems like CharmDate.com is just an elaborate front for a mail-order bride service.
The site offers a few different ways to ‘get to know’ your dating partner. But the most expensive and involved offer is a ‘Cupid Date’. This is a 1.5 hour, pre-arranged, in-person date with your ‘lady’. The site even arranges a translator to be present at the date.
Let me be clear: this is a date arranged for you to meet this Russian woman in-person, in Russia! I hope you get to have some really nice instant messages before you fly across the world to meet a woman for 90 minutes.
Members who are from the United States are actually required to fill out something called an IMBRA form before they go on one of these dates. I had to look up what an IMBRA form is. It is a form required by the International Marriage Broker Regulation Act, which regulates all dating and marriage services between Americans and foreign nationals. The act was passed after multiple women were murdered by their husbands. How romantic is that!
I hope this CharmDate review has helped you realize that it’s just not worth the trip. Not to Russia or Ukraine, and not even to the website itself.
But what do I know? Maybe you really like receiving messages like this one: “Will you blow out my fire inside?”
Or this one: “Listen, and you are doing today in the evening? Bad not think! Well, if you think - do you like the idea?”
I think will need that translator...