It's a classic love story. You meet a girl, share some laughs and establish a connection. At the end of the night, she gives you her number. Nice work, Casanova! But before you text or call her, make sure you know why she gave you those digits. A girl’s behavior is sometimes complex - she may have given you her number for a reason you haven’t even considered.
In a perfect world, you'd want to ask for clarification to avoid misunderstandings. But most circumstances don’t allow for that without making things awkward. So it’s up to you consider the facts and figure out why she gave you a way to communicate with her. Once you know that, you’ll know how to move forward. Here are six different things it could mean when a girl gives you her number.
If a girl gives you her number, there’s something about you she likes. Maybe she thinks you’re funny or cute and wants to get to know you better. Or she sees a potential friendship.
The point is, she likes you and wants to learn more about you.
Giving away her number as a sign of affection is a longstanding practice with girls. It’s their way of saying, “you intrigue me and I want to know why.”
Ideally, she gives you the number without prompting. But even if you ask for it, it’s still an indication of regard and curiosity. Plan on giving her a call or text in the next few days to chat or set up a date.
If a girl gives you her number, she may want something from you. She may want to network with you or ask for a favor. She might want to borrow something from you, or inquire about a mutual acquaintance.
Whatever the reason, she wants to talk to you in the privacy of a confidential phone call. If this is the reason she’s giving you her number, you’ll know.
You two will have brushed over the topic she wants to discuss. She’ll say something like, “let’s talk more about this later” or “give me a call, and we can work out the details.” Fret not; you can still use the opportunity to get to know her a little and find out if she’s open to dating.
Tread with care, so she doesn’t think you’re taking advantage of her or using her acquaintanceship to get laid. Take your time moving from casual conversation to “are you single?”
If a girl gives you her number, it may be out of simple flattery.
It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re interested in dating you and it doesn’t necessarily mean they aren’t. It could be that she’s flattered but doesn’t have enough time to decide how she feels about you. She may get bored, pulled away by her friends, or have to leave. She may have been flattered and uninterested, but too nice to say “no.” It could be a basic case of being too drunk. There are many situations in which a girl can fall down the flattery slide.
She ends up giving you her number, then decides later how she wants to handle the situation. This is one of the more frequent precursors to not getting an answer when you call. It really is her problem, not yours. If you call and don’t get a response, try not to take it personally. Don’t call more than three times. Leave a message or text. If she wants to talk, she’ll call back.
It may seem obvious, but If a girl gives you her number, it might be because she wants to go on a date with you.
These days, some girls might say, “Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, email, or Tweet me.” An older girl will still give you her number. It’s the fastest and most direct way to planning a date, and she knows that.
She saw something in you she likes. She wants to spend more time getting to know you. The next step is to text her suggesting a time and place to meet. Or, you can call her to set up the date. Don’t wait any longer than two or three days.
If a girl gives you her number, it could be because she feels pressured.
She may do it out of peer pressure - Her girlfriends are telling her to. Maybe she hasn’t made her mind up, so she gives in to the pressure and hands it over. She might do it out of time pressure - She must leave and can’t make up her mind, so she hands it over.
Or she does it out of coercion from you. Whether you realize it or not, you might be a little pushy. She feels like the only way she can get you to leave her alone is to hand it over. So she does.
She might give you a fake number, or her real number. This scenario is another common precursor to calling and not getting a response. You can avoid it by taking “no” with grace. And if that’s not a problem you face, then don’t take it personally. Leave a message and move on.
Occasionally, If a girl gives you her number, it’s out of force of habit. This is more common with older girls as they relive the follies of their youth. They get caught up in the moment, enjoying the praise and attention. Before they know it, they’re typing their number into your phone despite having a boyfriend at home.
Unfortunately, if this happens, you’ll have no idea. And the girl could be well-meaning and only later realize she’s made a mistake. She might be honest and fess up when you call, or not answer at all. All you can do is act as you usually would; call, leave a message, and hope she calls back.
In most scenarios, if a girl gives you her number the outcome is the same. You wait one or two days, call or text her and await a response. You might get one - you might not.
Once you’ve tossed the ball into her court, it’s up to her to decide what she wants to do with it. If you don’t hear back in a day or two, you can try contacting her again, but don’t badger her. She’s busy, may have made a mistake, or met someone else.
No matter the reason, you’re worth more than sitting around and twiddling your thumbs for a girl. You, Casanova, are on a mission of love.