Are you tired of always making the first move?
Well, here’s the good news. There are lots of girls who aren’t afraid to approach guys, but they will only make the effort if they like what they see and they know you’re into them first.
So, the question is, how do you give off an approachable vibe that will make women want to talk to you?
Learning to Be Approachable By Women
Even if you’re the type of guy who normally makes the first move and approach anxiety is not in your vocabulary, it can be really nice to let the woman take the initiative now and then.
If you’re shy or socially awkward, learning how to appear approachable to women is a godsend because it takes the pressure off of you but still gives you a decent shot of meeting someone great.
Let’s take a look at the top eight things you can do to be approached more often.
1. Look your best
No matter where you’re going — to the bar, the coffee shop or even the grocery store — make an effort to look your best.
That’s right, that means no track pants and baggy T-shirts when you’re doing your weekly grocery stock up. Women form an opinion about a guy within seconds. And, because you never know when you might run into an attractive lady, you’ve got to make an effort — especially if you want her to approach you.
Here’s the truth, you don’t need to be movie star handsome for a girl to show interest. But you do need to be well-groomed and well-dressed. It’s all about how you present yourself. A crucial part of dating beautiful women.
Always leave the house in clean clothing that fits well and with hair that’s neat. If you have facial hair, that should be well-groomed too and don’t forget to brush your teeth and put on deodorant. Nothing is more off-putting to women than bad breath or body odor. If you use cologne, be sure not to use too much. Strong cologne can also be off-putting.
It might sound like a lot of effort but trust us, when a woman sees a man who’s well put together, that automatically makes her think he has his life together too. And what woman doesn’t want that?
2. Be healthy
Just like you enjoy looking at women who take care of themselves, such as fit girls, women want men who look healthy too.
Whether you’re a couch potato or a hard partier, it’s going to show up in your appearance. As much as overeating and lack of exercise will make you gain weight, heavy drinking will zap your energy and make you look older than your years by aging your skin and even contributing to hair loss.
We’re not saying you need to go to the gym every day or bench press 250 pounds, but living a healthy lifestyle has a lot of benefits. Eating well, being physically active and avoiding excessive drinking all have a positive impact on how you look and carry yourself.
And when you feel good, you not only look good but are happier too. And that’s always something women will respond to.
3. Perfect your body language
If you want women to approach you, then you need to be sending the right signals. Slumped shoulders, crossed arms or keeping your back to the room will be seen as unfriendly. If you’re uptight and nervous, that will also keep women at bay.
The first thing you need to do to appear approachable and friendly is simple: relax. If you’re nervous, take some deep breaths and allow the tension to leave your body. When you look relaxed, you’re far more approachable. Keeping your shoulders back and standing with good posture not only make you appear confident, it showcases your body at its best and makes you more attractive to women.
Lastly, be sure to look out into the room. If you see a woman checking you out, make eye contact and give her a genuine smile.
4. Be inviting
Women usually wait for guys to make the first move so, if you want a lady to make the approach, you need to make it clear to her that you’re interested.
Just like women smile, look away and look back, or flip their hair, you need to give a few telltale signs that you find her attractive and would like to talk.
If you see a girl checking you out, make eye contact, smile and turn toward her. Although subtle, this may be enough to convince her to come over.
If she needs more encouragement, raise your eyebrows slightly and smile as though to say, what are you waiting for? You can also nod once to indicate that you see her and are open to talking or salute her with your glass.
5. Offer an opening
If you’re at the bar with your friends, it can be pretty intimidating for a woman to approach you. Not only are you with a group of people she doesn’t know, but she also has no way of knowing how they’ll react to her.
If you see a woman checking you out and you want her to approach, you have to give her an opening. Step away from your friends to get a drink or to check your phone messages. By intentionally separating yourself from your group, you’re giving her an opportunity to come talk to you without the stress of dealing with your friends, a clear sign for her that you understand women.
6. Have fun
If you don’t look like you’re having a good time, you can forget about attracting female attention. Women are attracted to guys who can make them laugh so, if you don’t look like you’d be much fun to talk to, don’t expect any girls to be making a move.
Whether you’re at a bar, a party or another social venue, focus on having a good time. Smile, laugh with your friends and don’t be afraid to get on the dance floor. If you’re out alone, be sure that you sit or stand facing the room, smile and sport open body language.
7. Be nearby
If you’re interested in a girl but are hoping that she’ll make the move, make it as easy for her as possible. Hover nearby (although not enough to be stalker-like) and keep yourself in her line of sight.
She’s bound to notice that you're consistently in her vicinity and that might be enough to give her the confidence to approach. If she’s still too shy to make a move, you may need to help out a bit.
If, for instance, you’re in a crowded bar or club, you can lightly bump into her and apologize. This may be all she needs to take the bull by the horns and initiate a conversation.
8. Be loud
Being loud is not about shouting above the crowd or being obnoxious, it’s about making sure she notices you. One of the best ways to do that is to laugh with your friends and speak in a deep, yet slightly elevated voice.
Once she knows you’re there and, if you’re following our other tips, it won’t take long for her to decide if she wants to approach.
Putting it Into Practice
If you follow our simple steps on how to be more approachable, you might be surprised at how much more confidence you have to make the first move as well. By putting your best foot forward you’re not only making yourself more attractive to women — and opening the door for them to approach you — you’ll have more luck approaching them too.