Finding single MILFs in my area wasn't easy when I first started. Meeting attractive and interested women to date is nevery easy but add the fact that you are into older women and it becomes about ten times harder.
Guys like us face more rejection; we are scoffed at by women who can't imagine themselves with younger guys. Let's face it: there is a lot to prove before you can even get a phone number, an Instagram handle, or some thing.
That's why I wanted to give my fellow milf-lovers a leg up. This is what worked for me; it may work for you, too.
These were my favorite spots:
Older women love going to shows with solo artists, involving guitars, weird instruments, some heavy vocals, and lots of mood lighting. Ok, so this isn't scientifically proven, but one day it will be. Last year, I decided to expand my music horizons, so to speak, just for fun, and discovered this.
I met a lot of interesting milfs in these spaces and I'm pretty sure you can too. Music shows can also be a low budget way to meet older women. A lot of shows happen outdoors or for free in new bars or cafes.
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I'm kind of a soft-spoken guy to begin with and I'm just not here for the back-and-forth and flakiness that comes with so many dating apps. But I went for it and tried Cougar Life's free trial. All I can say is, if you are like me and want to hit the ground running, look no further than this site.
It has an incredibly diverse selection of older women who are serious about connecting with younger guys. It is really the only dating site I can say was designed for guys like me. I can't recommend it enough.
This may seem like a strange recommendation at first, but hear me out. One of my buddies who runs a small non-profit that gives scholarships to underserved youth invited me to a gala to support his organization. It wasn't a huge commitment on my end; I offered to help him out as a volunteer, helping seat people and coordinating some logistics, and got to go for free.
This was a life-changing experience. Not only did I meet an older woman I dated for over a year, but it opened me up to a whole new world of milfs. Milfs - at least the milfs I am into - are thoughtful, engaged, professional, ambitious women who are trying to make the world a better place. There is no better place, in my humble opinion, to meet them than at fundraising events which is, frankly, one of the most low-pressure settings for meeting potential dates that I can think of.
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So, I understand that not everyone lives in a big city and has access to thousands of events and opportunities to meet people. I live in a small city and went to college in a rural area. If there is one space that is universally a milf hangout, it is trivia night at your local dive bar.
Brainiac milfs, "I watched every episode of Scandal" milfs, comparative literature milfs, obscure fact milfs, football milfs - you name it. They are all kicking it on trivia night at your local dive bar. And you should be too.
Coffee shops and cafes are excellent places to meet milfs. A lot of people are freelancers these days and other people are into co-working spaces. Some coffee shops even offer singles co-working days so check those out. This is an awesome way to meet a potential life - or business - partner.
If you like coffee, a lot of the newer coffee shops offer workshops on cold brew and tastings of all sorts. I went to a random coffee tasting for this Japanese cold brew and met a bunch of milfs there. At least in my area, milfs love good coffee.
I am a nature guy. I was a Boy Scout, then an Eagle Scout, and now an avid hiker/snowboarder/climber. I love being outdoors. Lots of guys think of their hobbies or interests as something that needs to compete, or potentially compete, with their dating life. But that's not the right attitude to have, especially if you are into milfs. So, I joined a hiking group. If I lived in a less scenic city, I would probably join a climbing gym instead. But in any case, I joined a hiking group and have had some incredible dates with older women who love the outdoors as much as I do.
If I lived in a less scenic city, I would probably join a climbing gym instead. But in any case, I joined a hiking group and have had some incredible dates with older women who love the outdoors as much as I do.
A friend of mine is really into yoga and met his girlfriend that way. I am not into yoga, but I thought about that and decided to take a salsa class. I was one of four dudes in the class and was, by the far, the worst dancer.
However, taking a dance class was awesome because I met a lot of patient older women, one of whom I dated for a while. One thing I learned: milfs love guys who are willing to try and to take a social risk, even if it means going far outside their comfort zone.
I had never done the whole sauna-spa-massage thing. This past winter, I went to a ski lodge with a friend that was mercifully located near a spa. I had pulled my hamstring pretty bad while skiing. Although walking around half-naked through multiple heated rooms might not be for everyone, I would highly recommend trying it at least one. I have never met so many older women in such a relaxed, intimate space. It was fun.
Cheese stores offer workshops, tastings (with wine), and other events. I love cheese and I love milfs. Where I live, these events are frequent enough that I meet at least a few new milfs at each event. It is a low-key, low-pressure way to meet new women.
I have met a lot of older women at art shows. Art shows are one of those rare spaces where you can meet a lot of people in a short amount of time without being overwhelmed. I would recommend going to an art show that is extremely eccentric or interactive. I remember going to an art show that involved lying on these cushions and looking up at a lighting installation.
The art created the atmosphere and it was fun and easy to chat up the milfs that were nearby. If you don't know anything about art, don't worry. These spaces have a lot of people talking about things they don't quite understand. In my experience, it can be very refreshing for an older woman to hear a guy say, "What do you think this about? What do you feel about this?" Listening is sexy.
In my area, these spots proved really instrumental to improving my dating life. Even though my recommendations are relatively easy, I know this might not work for everyone, which is why I want to end this article on an encouraging note. If you are a guy who likes older women, you are a guy who likes women with more - and often different - lived experiences from you.
You like women who have tried a lot of things, who know what they want, and are confident enough in themselves to make space for a young man. Meeting older woman means getting more experiences - especially more diverse experiences - under your belt. That means different things to different people, location, and circumstances. But that is my advice. If you are willing to try new things and are committed to getting active in your community and learning new things, you will meet a lot of milfs. It is really all about showing up and being willing to grow.
A lot of guys want don't want to do that and expect an older woman to take an interest. Maybe they are better looking than I am; I really don't know. But in my experience, that doesn't work. Your willingness to try new experiences and learn new things, even falling on your face, will attract milfs.