How To Get A Single MILF Without Much Effort in 2020 - A Guide For Men

A younger guy got a MILF out on a date on the town

For some men, there's nothing hotter than a MILF. Unlike younger women, MILFs are experienced when it comes to romance and sex. They're emotionally mature individuals who have decades of experience that they can pass on to a younger lover. MILFs are less likely to waste time on frivolous romances. If they want sex, they'll cut straight to the chase. But learning how to get a MILF isn't always as easy as just trying to land a cougar.

Let's delve into how to get a milf. The process is a bit involved, but you certainly won't be complaining when a MILF is taking you back to her place to teach you all of her best tricks in the bedroom.

You Must Find a Milf to Get a Milf

The first and most obvious step on how to get a MILF is to find out where they hang out. Let's look at a couple of popular hangout spots that finding MILFs in your area tends to be easiest:

The type of MILFs around me

Bars

If you're on the hunt for MILFs around you, high-end bars are a great place to start your search. Try bars located near affluent neighborhoods or thriving downtown cities, like Los Angeles or Miami. You can also head to your local bar because you're sure to find some single MILFs there. These locations are great options for meeting MILFs interested in young guys as well as guys their own age (or older).

Bars in college towns are great fun, but they shouldn't be on the top of your list unless, of course, you're on the hunt for a younger woman.

The best time to go bar hopping will be ladies night which tends to be extremely popular and a great way to meet a single MILF in your neighborhood (and everyone else's). For one, ladies' night attracts a greater number of female visitors. Second, drinks are more often than not cheaper for the ladies.

With plenty of women to choose from and cheap drinks going around the room, you should have ample opportunity to strike up a conversation with a MILF in your area.

Milf looking for a local guy

The MILF dating sites that are actually legit

It's not always efficient to go out every weekend on the prowl. For one, it's expensive buying drinks and paying cover charges. For another, it takes a certain amount of guesswork to figure out who is a MILF looking for a guy, who is married and not wearing a ring, and who is just looking for attention.

If you want the sure thing and you want it quicker, there are a few MILF dating sites that are actually worth your time. Luckily for you, we've done the homework of signing up and reviewing the top MILF dating sites in order to point you in the right direction. There are two in particular worth trying out:

Cougar Life is the best way to meet single MILF's right now for most guys if you want a relationship (try it free)

cougarlife.com homepage imageThere are a lot of sites and apps out there that claim to be able to help you meet MILF's and other single older women. Most of them are terrible. If you're looking for single MILFs Cougar Life is the best option for most guys that we have tried. They also have a great free trial so you don't just have to take our word for it.

There isn't a better option out there right now, especially for younger guys, if you want more than a night of fun (though you can find that here too).

What really made an impression on us with Cougar Life is just how engaged the women are. Even though they are a huge site with over 7 million members they seem to attract the women that are actually motivated to meet guys. Their signup process is pretty easy and it tends to scare off all the women who are just looking for attention instead of actually meeting guys. If you are looking for something longer-term Cougar Life's proven free trial should be your first stop for sure.

Adult FriendFinder is the best option if you just want something casual or physical (try it free)

Homepage for Adult Friend FinderSometimes a long-term relationship isn't what you're looking for and apps like Tinder just don't get many MILFs using it. It's full of women in their teens and early 20's which isn't exactly what we're looking for. Fortunately, there is Adult FriendFinder.

If you haven't checked out AFF's free trial you are leaving opportunities on the table. They are the largest site specifically dedicated to connecting people for fun in the bedroom with over 60 million active members. They have also been around longer than Tinder so they've been able to attract a lot more women 30+ to their site and keep them there.

When it comes to find a MILF for a little fun back home without wasting time and money at a bar or club Adult FriendFinder's free trial is hard to beat. It's also the site we have seen average guys have the best success with.

One of the MILFs around you to meet

Check out our guides to meeting local MILFs

When you don't have unlimited time and money to spend finding and meeting local MILFs having a little local advice can go a long way. We love helping guys improve their success rates so much that we've put together a bunch of local guides to major cities below. These are proven places where most guys can have success finding a single MILF regularly.

If you're ready to stop wasting time and start getting results in your neighborhood check out our guide to your city below:

Our local guides to meeting local MILFs in the United States

If you don't live too close to a major city we also have some more state-wide guides that can help you out:

Our local guides to meeting your MILF in Canada

Our local guides to meeting MILFs in the United Kingdom and Ireland

Our local guides to meeting MILFs in Australia

Our local guides to meeting MILFs in New Zealand

Our local guides to meeting MILFs in South Africa

Where to find and meet MILFs of particular ethnicities and nationalities:

Single MILF doing some shopping

High-end malls

MILFs are constantly shopping for themselves or their children. Thus, high-end malls are hot spots for finding local MILFs who are out looking for stuff to buy. They tend to visit toy and clothing stores the most but don’t let that stop you from walking around the mall until you find a lovely MILF to hit on.

If you cross paths with a MILF you’re attracted to, stop and ask her opinion on something shopping-related. This is a great way to break the ice and start the interaction.

For example: "Hello, I'm looking to buy a toy for my little niece and I have no clue what to get her. I figured you would be the best person to ask. Can you help me?"

Unless she's in a hurry, there should be no reason for her to refuse your request. You can proceed with the conversation from there.

Parks and malls are just two examples of where MILFs like to hang out, but we have a complete list of where to find MILFs in your area that you can check out here.

Sophisticated Men Know How To Get A Milf

Let's face it. The vast majority of MILFs make the assumption that most younger guys are air-headed sex-fueled dummies who haven't figured out life yet. Harsh, but true. Break that perception by presenting yourself as a sophisticated man who can hold a real conversation.

In the world of dating and sex -- no matter the age or demographic -- building rapport is very important when it comes to making a connection with another person. The best way to build rapport with a milf (even if you're talking to her on the beach) is to discuss sophisticated subjects like books, politics, social issues, spirituality and so on.

Trust me, she's more likely to be attracted to a man who can hold a mature conversation. Think of this tactic as winning over her mind. Most milfs are sapiosexuals.

They're more attracted to that big sexy brain of yours rather than just your looks. After all, they know better than anyone that looks fade over time.

Talk about her kids

MILFs love their children more than life itself. Therefore, listen with rapt attention if she brings up her kids. In many cases, Milfs tend to be insecure about the fact they have children, especially if they’re in the dating market. Most guys aren’t interested in raising someone elses kids. However, if you’re not bothered by the fact she has children that’s more bonus points for you.

If you find that the conversation is dying quickly prompt her to talk about her children to keep the interaction alive and well. If she doesn't bring her kids up first take the initiative and prod the conversation in that direction.

A simple "tell me a little bit about your kids" *big smile* should do the trick.

Mothers love to brag about their children, especially if they're young. Listen attentively and respond at the appropriate times (i.e., "He did that!? Oh wow, I bet you're proud of him"). You'll definitely win some points if you're willing to listen to her talk about her kids.

It’s important that you understand that her children are her world. Nothing will come between a MILF and her kids, including you. Therefore, you should never insult them and give praise as often as you can ("that picture of your daughter is so cute, just like her mother").

If you acknowledge her children, you'll most certainly increase your chances of winning her favor. In line with that, you can also learn how to date a woman with kids.

Find your MILF like this

Bat aside her age objections

Inevitably, you'll run into a few age objections. However, if you’re truly interested in how to get a local MILF you’ll have to learn to bat aside any objections that may arise during your interaction.

For example:

"I have kids! Surely a younger guy like you should be hitting on girls your own age."

"I bet I'm old enough to be your mother!"

"Why are you interested in an old lady like me?"

No matter how much resistance you face, it's your job to batter down her mental walls and keep pushing. An older woman will automatically push away a younger man because she has been conditioned by society to believe that such a relationship is taboo.

If you experience any resistance, try these responses on for size:

"Society tells you that you can't like me. I like you anyways. Now what?"

"Girls my age can't handle me. I use too many big words!"

And so on. It's okay to be cheesy in this instance. If you can make her laugh she’ll be more susceptible to your advances.

Find MILFs Interested in Single Guys

MILFs interested in young guys need to be turned on

Here’s the most important rule of how to get a MILF -- You have to turn her on. Let's not forget why you're picking up a MILF in the first place. You're looking for sex with an older woman.

Most young guys mess up because they treat MILFs like they would treat a younger woman. They shower her with praise:

"You're so sexy!"

"I love your eyes."

"You have a great figure."

These comments are flattering but she's definitely heard it all before. Try a more subtle approach.

For example:

"I could have asked anyone to help me but I figured I'd try my luck with the most beautiful woman here."

The cheese factor is high, but remember, it's okay to be a little cheesy when it comes to romance. Throw out a subtle comment then switch back to regular conversation like it never happened.

You can also slowly turn her on by subtle touching. A tap on the shoulder or the wrist is appropriate if you're laughing or trying to emphasize a point.

If you can turn the interaction sexual ever so subtly, then you greatly increase your chances of winning her over.

Ask her out on a date

Don't worry, you don't have to do anything fancy or expensive. MILFs have been wined and dined by the best of them. And honestly, with you being a younger man, she'll instantly assume that you don't have a lot of money.

Simply ask her out for some drinks. If you've followed all of the steps to this point, you should be able to identify whether or not you have chemistry.

If she agrees to a date, try to avoid traditional settings like the movies or restaurants. Take her wine tasting or somewhere else that's sophisticated. The whole point is to get her back to your place for some frisky fun at the end of the night (we do remember what the "F" in MILF stands for, right).

Scoring a MILF has major benefits. Not only are they far more experienced in the bedroom, but MILFs aren’t likely to waste your time by playing games. Game are the domain of younger women.

MILFs are experienced, typically well traveled and have an overall better understanding of how life works. They don't have time for games. When they see a good thing they jump at the opportunity.

Make sure that you’re that opportunity and you’ll be successful in claiming a MILF for yourself.

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