Learning flirting questions to ask a girl can really help your dating life. Flirting is playful teasing - showing each other you’re attracted to one another while having fun like kids.
Listen: We all wish we could be stone cold and smooth like James Bond when it comes to dating…
Some guys have it super easy and it’s like they’re the CEO of dating. They know all the right questions to ask, when to ask them, when not to, and how.
They know when they’re asking too much and making the conversation too heavy, or when it’s too light. But some of us weren’t born with that natural skill.
That is where we come in. Give these questions a try and let us know the improvements you see!
Maybe you aren’t sure what to ask to make her feel comfortable and have a good time, what topics to bring up, and all that.
Or even worse: How do you avoid that possible uncomfortable dead silence that feels like it lasts FOREVER?
Dating is like a skill: The more you do it, the better you get at it.
But even as “natural” as you get, it’s always good to have some things to fall back on that you have in your back pocket ready to go.
In case your conversation stutters a bit or you want some guidance, here are 10 flirting questions to ask a girl to get her excited.
These questions help show what type of girl she is and you might find she gets super interested when you ask this.
You might not think of this as typical flirting questions to ask a girl, but most guys won’t ask her these types of questions and she’ll INSTANTLY become more attracted to you.
It shows you want to know more about her other than what size her bra is.
Everybody loves talking about what they’re passionate about.
Afterward, she’ll probably ask you about yours too (make sure you have some!).
You’ve now got a fun conversation where you two are getting to know each other deeper and you’re building a super fast connection.
It’s unfortunate that many of us aren’t working jobs we like and we really want to be doing something else:
The Starbucks barista who wants to run an art studio.
The I.T. Guy who wants to be a freelance developer.
The TPS report lackey who dreams of being an entrepreneur.
This question will give you a better idea of who the girl is, her future plans, what she aspires to, and more.
Are you dealing with an ambitious and driven woman, or someone who is happy sitting on the sidelines and not going for it in life?
Depending on what you’re looking for, this can be a great form of screening.
You might also find that if she has big plans that you become MAJORLY attracted to her.
Driven women are sexy.
Most guys would think that it’s BAD to get her talking and thinking about other guys, but this can turn the conversation sexual in a non-weird way.
You can just say you want to know what she likes and she’ll start thinking about who really gets her hot and heated.
You can then start telling her what you find sexy in a girl, and you might find she starts trying to show these traits about herself to you.
If she hasn’t looked at you in a sexual before, this can also jump start that process.
This will probably get her to smile and laugh in a shy way while building attraction, comfort, and making a connection.
She’s going to open up a bit and tell you something she probably doesn’t tell most people, especially just after meeting them.
You might find out something really cool and interesting about her and you can share something about you.
You’ll both connect more and she’ll definitely become more invested in you after telling you her small “secret.”
Most people have big travel plans they really want to see through.
This question is going to get her into a fun mode thinking about it and also get her into an adventurous spirit, which is always good when it comes to dating.
You’ll get to find out where her mind stops (is traveling for her a few miles away, or across the world?), what her plans are, if she’s thought about going, and what might be stopping her.
Just like the other questions, you can also tell her where you’d love to go.
Keeping along the adventure theme, this is also going to possibly sexualize the interaction.
Maybe she’ll think about a one-night stand, public sex, or otherwise.
Even if it’s not sexually related, sex and adventure go hand-in-hand (hopefully), so she’ll get into that mindset.
You’ll also find out how “wild” of a girl she is, how innocent she is, or what she’s done.
This can also help for screening and showing you how much you might be interested in the girl.
This naturally leads in to the next question of finding out what she’s always wanted to try.
Maybe she’ll list of a place to travel to, entering a food eating competition, or something else or her bucket list.
These two questions combined together can really get her interested in you and get you two connecting with each other.
You’re putting her back into a fun state where she wants to smile as she thinks about all the things that make her laugh.
You can also strategically use this question if you think things are getting a bit too serious, and you want to lighten things up.
You’ll find what type of humor she likes most: Stand-up, slapstick, sarcasm, … and it will help you two relate better.
Maybe you’ll start implementing more of one type of humor with her as well. 😉
This is especially important when you’re on a first date.
A lot of “deeper-thinking” men and introverts HATE small talk, but you can’t just skip all the way to talking about passions.
It doesn’t mean you have to talk about nonsense like the weather, or the city sport team mascot, but you do have to gradually build things up.
Asking these silly but fun flirting questions can help you two get to the deeper levels.
On the other hand while connecting and relating questions are good, sometimes things get a bit too serious or things stall.
Injecting an extremely random and silly question can lighten the mood.
It might seem weird if you do it RIGHT after asking about her passion, but just think of it as a great way to break the flow into something fun.
Here are some ideas of what you could ask her:
Nobody’s perfect, and girls are tired of men worshipping the ground they walk on.
Yes, they want to be loved.
Yes, they want to be appreciated and complimented.
But what they DON’T want is for you to let them walk all over you.
By first asking a girl about something she’s bad at, it’s showing that you don’t expect her to be perfect and you’re fine with that.
Now you need to do this in the right way: You aren’t trying to lower the girl’s self-esteem or make her say that she’s a failure.
It’s a light-hearted way to accept that you’re both human.
For example, you could say what you’re bad at first: “I’m really awkward at e-mails.
I know it sounds silly, but I always write things that people take the wrong way, or use innuendos when I shouldn’t.
How about you?
Is there something you wish you were better at?”
First, you let your own guard down, and women LOVE men who are vulnerable (IMPORTANT: confident in who they are to show everything about themselves, not men who cry all the time and complain) and can laugh at themselves.
This gets her to be more comfortable letting go rather than keeping up some facade of what she’s supposed to be.
To go on the opposite end of the spectrum, once you two talk about some “failures,” you can talk about what each of you think is your favorite thing about yourselves.
Some people can talk about themselves for hours, but for others who are more shy, it can be extremely difficult especially when they’re asked about the more positive qualities they have.
Not only does this get the girl thinking about her good traits and in a positive mood, but it shows that you’re interested in her as a person.
When she asks you the question back, you can show off and tell her something you’re really proud of that will probably spike her attraction for you.
Talking about someone’s passions, desires, and goals is probably the biggest conversation hack out there.
See we’re all in some sort of struggle in life.
We’re all on a mission.
And when thinking about flirting questions to ask a girl, it’s great to think about adventure and laughter…
But asking what she’s really proud of lately shows you what type of accomplishments she values and what type of person she is.
Is an accomplishment being able to buy that new Prada purse, or is it completing her not-for-profit project website?
You’re going to get a sense of who the girl is, and she’ll LOVE you for getting her to talk about something she has a lot of pride about.
She’ll get excited.
You can then ask her about her biggest goal she’s chasing.
As you two talk and exchange these ideas, you’re going to find out if you two have common values, and you might find yourselves becoming very quickly attracted to each other if you share the same ideals.
The next time you approach a girl, go on a first date, or just want to connect more, keep these questions in mind.
There’s no need to keep a cheat sheet in your back pocket or spout them off one after one like a robot, but by asking a few in the right times you can move things forward, get her interested in you, find out more about her, and take things down a sexual path.
Your questions should always be getting the girl to open up, feel relaxed, and feel like you want to get to know her as a person.
Ask one of these 10 questions and she’ll be excited to get to know more about you in every way.