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How To Get The Girl You Want (Without Being Amazingly Handsome)

Sharp-dressed man knows how to get the girl you want by charming her during their date

It’s time to learn how to get the girl you want even if you don’t have amazing looks.

There are tons of guys who think they need to be really good-looking to become great with women and get the girl they want. However, as most of the really successful guys know, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

If you want to know how to get the girl even if you’re not as handsome as Chris Hemsworth, this guide for the average joe is perfect for you.

Here’s how to get the girl you want without relying on looks

First of all, looks are great for making first impressions and not much else.

That’s because if you learn how to approach and create incredible attraction, you won’t have to rely on looks all that much. To help you with that, we’ve created a complete video guide to become more successful with women.

Remember that being handsome has some advantages, but it doesn’t mean all women will want to sleep with you instantly. They may be more eager to get to know you better if you’re handsome, but that’s pretty much it.

An incredibly hot guy will simply have more chances to meet and talk with women because some women will actively approach him themselves.

But that won’t do much for him if he doesn’t know how to proceed from there.

You may be one of the most ridiculously good-looking men in the world. But if you have the personality of a chipped brick, you won’t get very far.

Once a woman spends enough time with a hot guy to realize he’s incredibly dull, she’ll simply go talk to someone who’s more fun and intriguing. Unless she’s only looking for a one-night stand, she probably won’t be too focused on looks.

So what’s more important than dazzling looks when you want to know how to get the girl you want?

It’s who you are as a person. She’s interested in your actions, the way you make her feel, and all the other traits you possess that will make her more attracted to you.

A woman who spends 15 minutes with a good-looking dolt will quickly move on to someone who’s more mentally stimulating. She’ll seek out someone who can make her feel great, even if he doesn’t have the looks.

So what exactly do you need to do?

All these things make you attractive to women

There are far too many things that can make you incredibly attractive to women and your looks are just a very small part of the package. In fact, as long as you look clean, smell clean and just look friendly enough, you already have the potential to be seen as conventionally attractive.

Now I’m sure you’ve seen nearly hideous guys walking around hand in hand with a beautiful woman.

What do these guys have that others don’t? Do they simply understand women better and give them what they want? Are they secretly rich? Maybe they know how to manipulate women?

Well, it’s difficult to tell and you’d have to get to know them to find out just what makes them attractive. But here are the most common culprits.

Assertiveness, dominance, and decisiveness

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They will always be attracted to men who display signs of assertiveness, decisiveness and dominance. A guy with these traits makes them feel safe and protected.

The next time you’re on a date, look for opportunities to display these traits. Even a little hint that you’re assertive, decisive and dominant will make you significantly more attractive.

You can display decisiveness and assertiveness by leading the interaction during your date. Don’t ask what you should do next, where you should go and what you should eat. Instead, give her suggestions, so she’ll know that you at least have some ideas on your mind.

Women don’t like men who don’t have a plan for the date. So have something in mind that you want to do and then follow it. Let her enter your world, see who you are and enjoy the experience. Don’t ask her what you should be doing!

When it comes to showing your dominance, be firm yet gentle. Stand your ground when you need to, but also be mindful of your date’s feelings.

Get the girl with your sense of humor

Another thing that almost always trumps good looks is an amazing sense of humor.

Women often describe a man’s ability to make them laugh as one of the things they look for in a potential partner. That’s because a great sense of humor is there for the long run. Looks fade, humor is eternal!

Your sense of humor is an integral part of your personality. And you should showcase it at every opportunity you get when you’re around women. That’s why a huge part of learning how to get the girl you want is developing your sense of humor.

Have a handful of funny jokes and stories that work on almost anyone. Be quick on your feet and find puns in the most mundane things. You can even get away with the corniest jokes if your delivery is endearing enough.

Just don’t overdo it so much that you become a “dancing monkey” who’s only good at making people laugh and nothing else. Even though humor is super important, it shouldn’t be your entire personality. You should also know how to become more serious when the situation calls for it.

Humor a powerful tool to have in your arsenal if you want to seduce women successfully. That’s why guys should learn how to make women laugh.

Get the girl you want by being fun

If women know that they’re going to have a wonderful time with you, no matter where the date goes, they’ll want to spend as much time with you as possible.

I don’t have to tell you how easy it is to seduce women who are having a blast with you. Your date will be hanging onto your every word, eagerly anticipating what’s going to happen next. She’ll be waiting longingly for where the date takes her and becoming increasingly more attracted to you by the minute.

Women would rather spend their time with a guy who’s very fun to be around instead of a guy who’s just gorgeous and nothing else. Because if the gorgeous guy turns out to be debilitatingly boring, they’ll have a terrible date and will wish they stayed home.

Also, in bars, clubs and other high-octane venues, women are looking for one thing and one thing only -- a fun time! And if you can provide them with that, they’ll be all over you no matter how you look.

So what does it take to be fun?

Having fun with other people is an art form. There’s no easy step-by-step guide on how to do it successfully because what’s fun for you may be boring for her and vice versa. So while Netflix and chill might sound like your ideal date, she might have something else in mind.

The key here is to find out what you both enjoy and start from there. Go on a date to a theme park or a dancing class if you love the adrenaline rush. Go for a hike or go day camping if you’re into the outdoors. Whatever your mutual idea of fun is should be fine.

Then add in a little humor and a no holds barred attitude, and you’ll be set to have a great time.

Charismatic people are magnetic

There are many components of true charisma. But to make a woman want you, you should mainly focus on tonality, expressive body language, facial expressions and warmth.

Be more expressive with your words and your movements.

When you’re talking to women, don’t talk in a monotone voice like you’re an emotionless robot. And don’t just stand there like a totem pole! Move your hands and your face when you’re talking to emphasize words and make inflections in your statements.

Don’t be afraid to express yourself because women want to see who you really are as a person. They want to see that you have fiery passion behind your eyes. They want to see you express your emotions. You’re not just relaying information; you’re engaging her in conversation.

Also, instead of overthinking things when you’re around women, try to be more present. Guys who focus on being in the present moment are always more fun to spend time with. It shows you’re there to enjoy yourself and the company of the person you’re with. She’ll see that you’re being your genuine self instead of thinking of “the right thing” to say.

Lastly, adopt more open body language. Don’t cross your arms over your chest or hunch your back. Face her, make eye contact, and smile. A lot of guys who are not considered attractive can instantly look more handsome when they smile.

Be a flirty tease

Finally, to get all the girls you want, you have to be proficient at flirting.

If you’re excellent at flirting, you’ll have a great time with women, no matter if you’re ugly, handsome or anything in between.

That’s why learning how to flirt properly should be one of the top priorities for any man who wants to become successful with women.

Flirting well involves being playful and showing your interest without being too direct. Add in a little teasing mixed in with some humor, and she’s sure to flirt right back. You can even be more forward by getting a little touchy when she’s already clearly having fun with you.

Plenty of women can meet an average-looking guy and think he’s nothing special. But if he can flirt well, has a great sense of humor and shows them a great time, they’ll quickly turn their opinions around and won’t be able to get enough of him. This is the secret to how to get the girl you want even if you look nothing like Brad Pitt.

So forget about looks altogether and focus on developing all of the things above. Then you’ll have plenty of women in your life eager to be with you.


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