Pretty much every guy should learn how to kiss a girl properly. In a way that’ll blow her away and want her craving for more.
That’s why I’ll show you today how to kiss better, where to kiss a girl, and also all the useful stuff you need to know on your journey to becoming a good kisser.
Because the unfortunate truth is too many guys think they’re better kissers than they really are. And their partners are usually not willing to bring up this issue for fear of hurting their feelings.
If you actually are a great kisser, then you’ll still learn something useful here. But if you’re not very good at it, then this information can be a real gamechanger. Because women adore men who know how to kiss well.
How to kiss a girl better than most
The trick to kissing well is to slow down and not rush things. Too many men make the terrible mistake of tackling the girl’s face like they’re starving for the kiss.
There’s nothing sensual or intimate about slamming your teeth into hers and going at it like you’re trying to suck her soul dry. So slow the hell down and take your time. Also knowing where to touch her is a part of it too.
There are, of course, exceptions to this, especially when you want to make the kiss into something really passionate. But I’ll get to that later.
Another important point to understand when learning how to kiss a woman is to use less tongue. At least initially, until you really get comfortable with each other and you actually know she likes involving a lot of tongue.
Because not all women like it when you shove your tongue down their throat. Especially if you spin it around as if trying to brush their teeth clean.
So when you’re getting your first kiss, don’t use your tongue at all. Unless she starts using hers, in which case you’re good to go and can reciprocate in kind.
If you like using your tongue when kissing, your best bet is to save it for a later. Once you’re both comfortable enough and want to get very intimate in your makeout sessions. Especially ones leading to sex.
Also, don’t start chomping down on their soft lips when you’re in the middle of kissing. Sure, proper biting can be really hot if she’s into it. But just as it is with using your tongue, you should definitely save that stuff for later. Because it’s better to be a bit cautious with the more kinky stuff at first, rather than lay it all out on her as soon as you get the chance.
Getting more advanced to kiss well
Most of the best dating books for men don't cover this. Assuming you no longer shove your face into hers over eagerly and don’t bite her or tongue her to death, you need to ramp things up incrementally.
If it’s the first kiss and you’re not already in the middle of an extremely passionate moment which warrants a huge makeout session right away and maybe a cuddle after, then start kissing very slowly and gently.
This is your time to feel each other out and see who likes what. So tilt your head, kiss her on the lips for a second or two and back away. Watch her reaction and if it’s positive, kiss her again.
Try different approaches and different sides, try focusing on her upper lip and then more on the lower lip, etc. Use a tiny bit of tongue as you back off with your kiss again. Notice what she likes and what she doesn’t.
Also, be mindful of what you’re doing with your eyes. It’s pretty creepy if you stare at her all the time and she notices. You’ll seem very tense to her.
So, relax as much as you can, let the moment sweep you away and stay as present in that moment as possible. Basically, just let go and try to genuinely enjoy the experience. Because it should be as fun for you as it is for her, for the whole thing to be passionate and sensual.
That’s why one of the ultimate tips for how to kiss like a pro is to always try and stay present in the moment. In fact, I’d say there’s nothing more important to becoming a good kisser than this.
Women really notice if you’re tense while kissing them. Or if you’re overthinking things and are too much in your head. It shows in your posture, movements and tenderness of kiss.
How to kiss a girl so she wants more
After you take things slow to find, determining that she wants you to kiss her, and figuring out what she likes and what she doesn’t like focus on the good stuff.
Once you know, you can ramp up the intensity while kissing her in a way she really enjoys. This will make her want to kiss you even more.
Just don’t forget that you shouldn’t stick to her like glue. Makeout sessions are awesome, but if you don’t break them off at appropriate moments, they can and will become boring eventually.
So, make sure to gently nudge her away at times so she doesn’t get used to the good stuff. You can take that time to compliment her, talk about something else (preferably something to create sexual tension), tease her a bit, etc. Just to spark some more emotions and make it even better when you kiss her again.
Remember, even awesome kissing can quickly turn sour if you never back off.
That’s why you should also try to tease her with your lips while kissing her. Pull away abruptly, go in as if trying to kiss her and then go whisper something sexy in her ear instead. Things like this will wet her appetite for more and will make things increasingly intimate or playful, depending on what you’re both in the mood for.
Also, use your hands when kissing as much as possible. To make her want you, you have to become increasingly more physical with her.
As with kissing, start slowly and then gradually ramp up your touching. Start by cupping her face in your hands. Then gently caress her cheek or touch her hair. Put your arms around her, feel her body and see what she likes. End with grabbing her by the neck or her hair and pulling her in, if things start heating up. You can also try grabbing her ass if it feels right.
Dominant kissing versus sensual smooches
Another important thing you should try and figure out early is whether your girl likes you to kiss her aggressively and dominantly. Or if she likes it gently, smoothy and pleasantly.
It’s really difficult to tell this by just looking at women and the way they touch your arm, but some prefer the latter while many others melt after the former style of kissing.
To figure this out, you should start off gently and smoothly. Then after a while, when you’re both enjoying each other, grab the back of her head with your hand, gently but firmly pulling on a bit of hair, and pull her into you for a huge, passionate kiss. Then watch her reaction.
If she gets really turned on by this and her reaction is positive, then she definitely likes it when the man is an aggressive and dominant kisser. So you should adjust accordingly if you want her to get really wild later.
And if she doesn’t really enjoy it by showing any negative reaction whatsoever, just say you were lost in the moment briefly because she’s so stunning. You can even ask her later if you were too rough with her, just to confirm.
That said, the majority of women still love dominant and aggressive men, especially in the bedroom. So try it and see if it clicks because it’s always worth a try and may really bring out her wild side later.
This is one of the main tricks for how to kiss better. It may even quickly lead to sex if you’re somewhere more private. Especially if you try this on older women since they usually know what they want and have a high sex drive. Which is why it’s often easier to meet older women and seduce them by showing you can be dominant and bold.
Where to kiss a girl to turn her on every time
Finally, when you’re both very much into it, don’t just focus on her lips anymore. Because there are many other places where to kiss a girl to turn her on.
Kiss her on the neck and on and around the collarbone. In fact, any area exposed by the neckline of her clothing is going to be very sensitive to your kisses. Just imagine when a woman touches your shoulder and how that makes you feel.
You can even gently nibble on one of her earlobes if you really want to send some shivers down her spine. Just do it sensually and gently.
Eventually, after you get very comfortable with each other, you should move down and kiss her around her breasts and on her waist. Assuming you’re at the stage where her shirt’s off.
The more aroused she becomes, the braver and more adventurous you should be with your kissing. Until eventually most of her clothes are off and you can start kissing her on her inner thighs and beyond. Which will drive her crazy and really turn her on.
Finally, when you’re kissing her around her body, you can gently run your tongue across her skin in various places. This’ll make her really excited and give her goosebumps she soon won’t forget. Afterwards, you can progress to more deeper and longer kisses, to make her horny and aroused so she’ll want to sleep with you.
In any case, kissing is a huge part of effective foreplay. So be a giving kisser and kiss her everywhere she enjoys, to ramp up her arousal and to get her in the mood. You can even seductively ask her when she likes to be kissed and she’ll definitely tell you.
You may not be rewarded as much for kissing her on her body. But she’ll definitely be grateful once the more intimate fun starts.
French-kissing is awesome when done right
If you find french-kissing more to your liking than regular or closed mouth kissing, then you should understand how to kiss a girl french style the right way.
It’s not about shoving your tongue inside her mouth and flailing about wildly. Nor about tongue power and how hard you can go at it. Instead, it’s about being gentle and communicating your passion for your partner.
There’s an ebb and flow to it, where you start off slowly and tenderly but increase gradually in intensity and vigor.
It’s also not about touching everything in her mouth with your tongue, but more like a mutual dance. Where you both go over each other’s tongues and see what the other enjoys and is aroused by.
So, touch her tongue with yours, gently go around it and feel what she reacts most to. Don’t try to get as deep into her mouth as possible and instead gently feel around for what you can touch without straining yourself. If her breathing becomes shallow and she gets more into it, it means you’re hitting the right spots and she’s enjoying it.
Don’t be afraid to gently lick her lips with the tip of your tongue. Or lightly suck on her tongue tip as well. Because the tip of a tongue contains numerous nerve endings so it’ll feel amazing and often send shivers down her spine.
Finally, don’t try to wrestle down her tongue with yours and refrain from slobbering. Women don’t like when kissing is too wet and sloppy.
And don’t forget to make sure your facial hair isn’t scratchy because that’ll quickly cut any makeout session short!
How to go in for a kiss successfully
Now that you know how to kiss a girl well, you should also understand how to go in for the kiss in the first place. So she’s much more likely to reciprocate without rejecting you.
Timing is pretty important here because many men try and kiss women at the wrong time. Which often ruins their chances and derails the whole date.
There are several ways to figure out when women want to be kissed by you, which I’ll go over in detail below.
But first, you should know a couple of important things before you even try kissing a woman.
Before you go in for the kiss
First of all, you should only go in for the kiss once you understand she already likes you at least somewhat. Otherwise, you’ll often seem too eager and things will usually not work out.
That’s why you should focus on flirting, building attraction and having fun first.
Second, a kiss should be a natural progression of your physicality with her. Meaning she should already be comfortable with your touch before you try it.
To accomplish this, you should start being physical with women right from the moment you meet them. But slowly and gradually so they don’t freak out.
Because if you don’t even touch a girl at all during your date or your meeting and then suddenly try to go for the kiss, she’ll often freak out. It’ll all seem very random to her and completely out of the blue.
That’s why you should touch her at every good opportunity, when it feels natural and appropriate. To slowly build that comfort and close the distance between you so she feels fine with having you be close to her.
Remember this, if she’s uncomfortable with you hugging her, putting your arm over her shoulder or otherwise being very close to her, she definitely isn’t ready to be kissed by you.
Lastly, when the time is right, don’t ask for the kiss and just go for it. You’re not in kindergarten anymore. It’s up to you to figure out when to make your move and then do it. Because women like men who take charge and don’t hesitate to go for what they want. (Even though that goes completely against what I just said because if you actually try too soon, you’ll often fail if there was no strong attraction)
How to know when it’s the right time to kiss her
There are a few good ways to figure out if she’s ready to be kissed by you.
The most natural and obvious one would be to notice all the signs she wants you and just go for it. These include her looking at you seductively while licking her lips. Or when she keeps staring at your lips suggestively and starts biting hers and glancing into your eyes.
Or even when she starts blushing, twirling her hair or fidgeting with her hands or something else. While being right beside you and leaning into you slightly.
These signs are all great, but not many men will notice them clearly. Especially if they yet don’t know how to kiss a girl properly.
That’s why I’ll tell you a method I use to figure out when girls are ready to be kissed that works without fail. It also has the added benefit of making sure you almost never get rejected. Since it involves screening her for compliance.
This method is quite simple but pretty sneaky. But only do it once you’ve had some fun and she’s genuinely enjoying your company.
How to test her
Get close to her so your faces are pretty near each other. For example, if you’re sitting side by side, your shoulders should be touching. Or if you’re both face to face, there shouldn’t be more than a head’s distance between you so you’ll have to lean in.
After that, look at her slyly, as if you know something she doesn’t, and flash a wicked smile. Then say in a playfully seductive voice “Come here for a second, I’ll tell you a little secret.” and lean in while gesturing with your hand as if you want to whisper something into her ear.
When she leans in, put your hand on her shoulder or neck, like you do when you whisper something conspiratorially, and get close to her ear. Then actually whisper something to her. I usually go with a genuine compliment or say something as simple as “You smell great.”
It doesn't really matter what you whisper. You can even say “Oh, I changed my mind!” and chuckle.
But after you whisper whatever you want, linger for a bit and move your face on front of hers for a brief moment, and then back off.
Finally, take a close look and notice her reaction.
The point is to see if she reacts positively or negatively to this.
If she smiles, laughs, nudges you playfully and shows absolutely no signs of discomfort, then she’s ready to be kissed. Because if she was completely comfortable with what you just did, she’ll definitely be comfortable with you getting a bit more intimate.
I’ve never had this method fail if there was no negative reaction.
Obviously, if she’s stiff, doesn’t react well, frowns or show other negative signs, it means she’s not ready yet. Focus on fun and building more comfort and attraction.
So now you know how to kiss like a pro, how to start kissing and how to turn a girl on while doing so.
Unfortunately, knowing how to kiss a woman is only half the battle. You actually have to go and practice this. So go ahead and approach some someone you like, flirt with her and get your kissing game on!