Women love a compliment. And who doesn’t? But blurting out the first thing that pops into your head perhaps isn’t the best approach. The best compliments to give a girl require some thought.
Yes, that means taking the time to think of something to say to her that you didn’t borrow from your mate or one of those online articles written by a guy without a clue.
For a compliment to carry, it first needs to always be genuine and come from your heart. Because most women have brilliant BS detectors.
If you’re struggling to know how best to compliment a woman without coming off as cheesy or creepy, you’ve come to the right place.
In this article, I’ll be giving you the basic principles when it comes to compliments. This is everything you’ll need to understand the inner workings of the female mind. You’ll then be able to show up and convey to this woman just how amazing you think she is.
And you’ll do it in your own unique way that will make you stand out a mile from the pack.
Here are the 10 best compliments to give a girl that you need to know about.
Avoid generic compliments like, “you have beautiful eyes” at all costs.
Do you know who doesn't have nice eyes?
Charles Manson. Rasputin. The blobfish.
Pretty much everyone else has nice eyes.
So even if she's got some striking Disney princess peepers, the compliment is so universal that it means nothing. This is not how to get a girl to talk to you.
We both know you can do better than that.
So, get your creative hat on and dare to be different. Step outside of that box, know what to say to a girl and find a unique compliment to give her. It shouldn’t be too tricky, after all, she isn’t like anybody else.
Women love hearing compliments about their bodies from a boyfriend or spouse because he has (presumably) already shown her that he loves her for more than her body.
If you don’t know her well, giving a girl a compliment about her body or appearance might make her think you’re only interested in a hookup. It might also tell her that you see women as objects rather than human beings. And this is something that women encounter on a daily basis through the media, porn and being harassed by men they do and don’t know.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s more than okay to tell a woman on a date that she looks beautiful. But again, be careful with your choice of words. “Beautiful” comes across as gentlemanly, while “hot” has a much more sexual connotation.
You may both be looking for something casual. That’s great if you’re both on the same wavelength. But if you don’t yet know, then it’s best to tread carefully. Don’t make her feel like a piece of meat.
If you’ve only just met her and you can’t think of anything non-physical to say, then wait until the conversation gets going.
This is not a race.
This is a great example of how to give a compliment that is beyond skin deep.
For you to give a compliment like this, you will obviously have to pay attention when she’s talking. This compliment shows her that you’ve actually listened.
A lot of guys don’t. A lot of guys will just be staring at a woman and wondering what she looks like naked. Don’t be that guy.
A compliment like this will also show her that you care about more than looks and respect her ideas and values.
That is a major turn-on for women.
Despite incredible female comedians and actors paving the way, society clings on to this archaic, patriarchal myth that women aren’t funny.
Some men also feel the need to live up to stereotypical male norms and be the “funny one” in the relationship. This ends up with them always trying to outshine their partner, or even stifle her humor, leaving her feeling unappreciated and not seen.
Men love receiving compliments on being funny, and it’s no different for women. So if she makes you laugh, tell her! This is not a competition.
And by doing so, you’ll demonstrate that you aren’t a sexist wally. It shows that you believe that women are and can be hilarious. So if you find her genuinely funny, give a girl this compliment and she'll appreciate it.
A word of warning here, this compliment is very different from saying, “you’re not like other girls,” which you should avoid at all costs. When you say this, you’re tarnishing the female species by implying that being like most girls is a bad thing.
What does that even mean anyway?
That most girls are evil?
Most girls love shopping and getting mani-pedis?
Most girls can’t change a tire?
But when you say, “you’re not like everyone else,” it removes the gender part, and makes anyone (man or woman) feel special.
It says that you see who she is--quirks, qualities and nature--and you appreciate her for all of it.
What a wonderful thing to say to someone. Wouldn’t you enjoy receiving a compliment like that?
I certainly would.
Telling a woman you enjoy being able to spend your precious time in her company is such a simple but sincere compliment to give someone. And an awesome way to make her smile.
There are a million things you could be doing instead of being sat here with this woman.
Watching the game, drinking beer with your mates, or hitting the gym.
But you’re here and you’re happy to be.
It doesn’t matter how little or long you’ve known someone--this is a great way to show someone how much they mean to you.
Similar to talking about her passions, one of the best ways to compliment a girl is to relate back to what she's saying to you.
This is a really intimate compliment to give a girl because what you're really doing is connecting an emotional or intellectual value with what she's saying.
For example, if you tell her, "the way you talk about that movie reminds me of how my favorite teacher would talk about film," you're telling her that you're valuing her intellect and it's resonating with you in an emotional way.
If that feels unnatural for you, try saying, "this made me think of you."
You're telling her that her interests and ideas are important to you.
Did she get a new haircut?
Is she wearing shoes or a dress you've never seen?
It's definitely okay to compliment her on it.
Women like to see that a guy is paying attention. And complimenting her on the way she presents herself is very different from complimenting her on her body. It's one of the things girls like to talk about.
A word of wisdom: unless it's very noticeable, you might want to avoid giving a girl a compliment about her hair color.
Some women, especially women in their 30s and beyond, dye their hair to cover up a fading or greying natural color and won't appreciate you calling attention to it.
But if she's gone from brunette to platinum blonde, you have to mention it. Otherwise she might read between the lines and think you hate it!
While "you have a great smile" is one of those generic compliments that needs to be retired, telling her that she has a great laugh is one of the best compliments to give to a girl. You can use that when talking to a girl at a bar.
A genuine laugh means that she's letting her guard down and really expressing herself to you.
It's also worth noting that laughter releases endorphins and oxytocin, the "happiness" chemicals in our brains that encourage us to bond together.
This compliment subtly says that you enjoy seeing her happy and, in a way, you would like to make her happy.
Isn't that ultimately what we want out of a partner?
Someone who inspires us to be the best possible version of ourselves? It's a wonderful compliment to tell someone what you find inspiring and admirable about them.
Maybe she is active in a charity program making the world a better place.
Or she has just gotten an impressive promotion at work.
It can be something as simple as sticking to a goal to cook a healthy dinner at home a few times a week or bike to work.
This is a fantastic way to show her that, far from being insecure or intimidated by them, you respect and commend her for her success and determination.
The best compliments to give a girl should always come from your heart. When you speak from your heart, people can feel it.
You don’t need cheesy lines or to mimic what you’ve seen in chick flicks.
Be yourself. Be real. And be different.
And don’t be afraid to share how you feel. This goes a long way with women because it shows that you’re in touch with your emotions.
Follow these pointers, and you’ll make any woman feel valued, seen and heard.
Most of us aren’t looking for much more than that.