Are you one of the many men perplexed by the female species? Let me share a secret with you: it’s not difficult to please women. Yes, you read that right. Actually, it’s pretty simple - when you know what you’re doing! Knowing how to make a girl feel special is knowing all about the little things. Because for women, the little things end up being the big things. They show her that you genuinely care enough to go out of your way to make her happy.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, this becomes even more important. Healthy, thriving relationships require a lot of time and work. And women need to know they’re appreciated and loved.
Here’s How to Make a Girl Feel Special
If there’s a girl in your life who means a lot to you, you want to start a relationship with her and you want to let her know, you’re in the right place. Going out of your way to do some of the little things on this list will definitely do the trick. She’ll notice your efforts and feel lucky that she met a thoughtful, loving man like you.
Make time for her
Lots of guys are great at wining and dining women and making an effort in the dating phase. But once they get comfortable in a relationship, they stop trying. Then they break up and wonder why they don't have a girlfriend.
Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you don’t need to prioritize her. Like I already mentioned, if a relationship is going to grow and remain strong, it requires work.
So be sure to make time for her. And when you do, give her your full attention (especially when you just started dating). Don’t be thinking about something else or checking your phone.
Continue to go on fun date nights, plan adventures or have movie nights at home. Make time for her and your girl will feel special.
Accept her for who she is
Some of us can’t help but focus on the negatives when it comes to situations, experiences and people, too.
But focusing on someone’s flaws and continually pointing them out will damage their self-esteem and make them feel like they aren’t good enough.
If you want to make a girl feel special, accept her for the amazing human being that she already is. Pay attention to her great qualities and all the things you admire about her--and voice them.
The truth is, there is no “perfect” woman or man. Women are often pressured by society to live up to a bullshit “ideal,” which tells them how to look, dress, behave and eat. She doesn’t need you jumping on that train. You’re supposed to be on her side and have her back.
If she ever voices insecurities about herself, make it clear you like (or love) her for who she is and that she doesn’t need to change herself.
However, if her whole personality is centered around insecurity, then she might be one of the women you shouldn't marry.
Listen to her
An easy way for men to make their girl feel special is to listen to them. And I mean really listen, as in, give her your full attention and hear what she’s saying. Listening to her might genuinely change your life.
Resist the urge to always jump in and try and fix her problems or give an opinion. Sometimes people just need someone to be there and listen while they share what’s on their mind. When you create space for her to speak and be heard, she’ll feel cared for. She may even open up to you in a deeper way than usual.
Be empathetic. Allow her to express herself completely in your company.
Send her a surprise text
How easy is it to send a text? It takes little time, but a gesture like this means so much to women. This is also a great way to tell a girl how you feel if you’re a little shy or find it hard to express yourself face to face.
Sending a girl a random text when she least expects it is a wonderful way to make her feel special. It lets her know you’re thinking about her. It will definitely make her smile.
What you text is up to you. You could go romantic and send her a kiss emoji or a simple, “thinking about you x.” Or you could check in and ask her how her day is going or wish her good luck for that big meeting at work.
Make a girl feel special by giving her meaningful gifts
It’s not about how much you spend; it’s about the thought that goes into what you buy.
Very few women genuinely want pricey gifts simply for the sake of it. And if you encounter someone who does, then take some time to question her motives and if she genuinely wants to be with you.
Buying a woman a thoughtful gift shows that pay attention to her when she tells you what she likes. Especially if it’s something she only briefly mentioned a while ago, and you cared enough to make a mental note.
You can do so much with a small budget and a big heart.
Sit next to her
We tend to say a lot without even opening our mouths. Body language is everything. And even if a woman isn’t clued-up on this, she’ll subconsciously pick up on your non-verbal cues.
So if you really want to make a girl feel special, show her you’re interested in her with your body.
If you’re at a restaurant, you could choose to sit next to her instead of opposite her. This will make her feel wanted and protected. Like you just can’t get enough of being around her, and want to be as close as possible to her--but not in a creepy way!
Lean in across the table when she’s talking. Keep your eyes focused on her. Smile.
How to make a girl feel special: Be vulnerable with her
Most men are not good at opening up and sharing how they feel. This is because men are taught that this is a “feminine” thing to do and that it makes you weak. But being vulnerable with someone is actually the only way to build trust and true intimacy. This is how you get the love that you want.
Women love it when a man is willing to share his feelings with her. Women love men who can be open and honest. This gives us a chance to listen to you, comfort you and love you. We also know how healthy it is for you to open up, which in turn makes us girls feel special.
So I get why it’s hard, but try and wear your heart on your sleeve now and then. Show her you’re comfortable enough with her to be yourself and be vulnerable.
Quit saving compliments for special occasions like when she’s glammed up for a date or on anniversaries and birthdays.
Don’t hesitate to tell the woman in your life how attractive she is to you, how lush she smells, or how amazing she is. Just because.
And don’t make your compliments just physical either. When you go deeper and notice something about her personality or character that you love and voice this, it’ll mean a lot to her.
Everyone loves a compliment, don’t they? And they’re free!
Treat her like a lady
There’s nothing quite like an old-fashioned, gentlemanly gesture.
Simple acts like holding the door open for her, pulling her chair out or treating her now and then are bound to make her feel special.
This shows a woman that you have manners and you know how a woman deserves to be treated. She’ll love the extra effort.
Women love romance--even the ones who say they don’t. I mean, no woman wakes up in the morning and thinks, “I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today by an amazing man,” right?
So even if romance isn’t your strong point, get out of your comfort zone and do something romantic for her.
Here are a few ideas:
- Send her flowers at work
- Cook a three-course dinner from scratch
- Take her to the theater or ballet
- Pack a picnic and take her for a sunset walk on the beach
- Leave a cute note for her in her car
And just because you did one romantic thing for her one time, it doesn’t mean you’re off the hook! Keep it up.
Girls feel special when you are caring and compassionate with them
Be there for her when you say you’re going to be. Put yourself in her shoes. Try and understand the challenges or struggles she’s going through, and hold her hand through them. Help her out or be a shoulder to cry on in her times of need. Be present, and be forgiving. See things from her point of view even when it’s hard.
This is what it means to be compassionate. And that means you’ve gotta genuinely care.
Making a Girl Feel Special is Easier than You Think!
And that is how to make a girl feel special! What did I tell you?
It’s easier than you think. And it doesn’t take a wad of cash or big gestures. It’s all in the details.
That’s the difference between a girl feeling meh about you and a girl falling in love with you. And that’s a BIG difference.