Wondering if picking up women at a club is the right choice for you? Well, according to the dating expert Kezia Noble, in bars “women are more likely to be actively seeking a man to have fun with.”
Additionally, she says that bars create a “high energy” and more positive environment. After all, we’re all more relaxed when in front of a good drink, right?
So how can you use this to your advantage? How can you use the bar setting to effectively pick up women in the short amount of time you’re with them? Keep reading to learn how you can increase your success with women in this popular setting!
Stop watching your friends pick up all the hottest babes while you’re left empty-handed. Here are the secrets to create instant attraction with a beautiful woman at your favorite bar:
Social value is “your value to other people.” All pick-up artists agree that it’s a key element to create attraction with a woman you like. The more you show her that you’re a fun person with plenty of friends, the more she’ll want to hang out with you!
Luckily, in a bar it’s easy to demonstrate high social value to a lady. The dating coach AJ Harbinger from TheArtOfCharm.com advises that you clink glasses with guys you don’t know. You can also greet strangers at the bar or give them high fives.
This will make you look like a highly-sociable person who knows everyone in there. The other guys will also appreciate this since this move boosts their own social value as well!
Additionally, Harbinger encourages that you stay in a highly-trafficked area of the bar or club. “If you’re standing where there are a lot of people congregating,” he says, “you look like you’re in the center of it all.” Plus, there will be lots of attractive women passing by!
Many guys have a terrible excuse for not approaching women at a club. They claim that the music is too loud, so the lady can’t hear what they say. Are you guilty of making this mistake as well?
The professional wingwoman Hadassa from Kezia-Noble.com explains how you can actually take advantage of the loud music. Use it as an excuse to bring the woman away from the crowd, in a quieter place. This way, you’ll be able to talk and, away from the prying eyes of her friends, she’ll feel less sexually inhibited.
The wingwoman also suggests that, when talking to the lady, you can lean in closer to her. She’ll hear you regardless of the noise, and it’s a very sexy move!
If you don’t mind practicing some pick-up techniques, the experts at Reborn Masculinity have some very good ones for picking up women at a club. Some of them work particularly well in bars and clubs, like:
Want to try another technique for picking up women at a club? This is a great one: We learned it from Dave Perrotta, seduction coach and writer at PostGradeCasanova. He advises that, when you interact with a woman, you always take two steps forward, and one step back.
For example, you can compliment her, then leave her alone for a while. Alternatively, initiate touch on the dance floor, but then go back at the table with your buddies.
This will keep her interested and give her some breathing space between interactions with you. As Perrotta says, “women want a man who is a challenge!”
Do you remember the popular TV series “Sex and the City” from the 90s? Would you imagine bringing Carrie to a secluded area of the club without attracting the attention of her gal pals? Of course, no: her friends would worry and hunt you until they’re 100% sure that she is safe!
The same happens in real life. If you bring a woman away from her friends without notice, they’ll get worried. Her pals will likely start looking for her, potentially ruining your seduction efforts.
Avoid this by making friends with the other women in her social circle as well. Offer them a drink, or hang out a little with the whole group, showing them that you’re a nice person. However, make it clear with your words and body language that you only like the woman you want to seduce. If you start practicing your pick-up lines on her bestie, she’ll get jealous!
When you feel that the right time has arrived, you can ask her friends to borrow her for a minute.
Would you prefer to avoid dealing with four or five women at a time? Then, approach a lady who’s alone. Usually, women who are not afraid of going out for a drink on their own are strong, independent and charming.
Additionally, there’s a chance that a lady alone in a bar is there to attract a potential partner. Maybe her friends aren’t available for a night out, but she still wants to maximize her chances to get laid. She’ll definitely appreciate a little companionship!
Lastly, you don’t need to seek approval from her friends. Away from the judgemental gaze of the other ladies she knows, she’ll unleash her full potential!
Talking about politics or sensitive topics doesn’t help with picking up women in a club. Remember that the ladies are there to chill out. They want fun, light-hearted conversations!
In addition, try to avoid talking about her exes or breakups, even if she brings up the subject. You don’t want her to see you as a shoulder to cry on because it’s the easiest way to get friendzoned!
Let her whine for a few minutes, then move the conversation on her hobbies, her favorite drinks or her pets. Anything goes, as long as it’s a fun and happy topic!
In the seduction community’s language, this move is called “peacocking.” It consists of wearing some interesting pieces of clothes or jewelry that can attract the attention of women you want to pick up at the club. Peacocking is particularly effective in bars and clubs, where you have to compete with many other guys for the ladies’ attention.
Invest in a few pieces of jewelry that are very attractive. Less is more, so it’s best to wear just a beautiful ring than a dozen cheap-looking pieces. Same for clothing and accessories: Make your outfit more noticeable with a single item in a bright color.
For example, if you’re wearing a regular black suit, you can add a little pizzazz to your look with a colorful necktie. If you’re a “jeans and T-shirt” kind of guy, wear some colorful sneakers, and you’ll have all eyes on you!
Bringing a buddy with you when going out to pick up women has many benefits. First of all, it gives you instant social value without the effort of socializing with strangers. Secondly, it can make you way more confident.
In case of rejection, your wingman has your back and he’ll make sure you have a great time anyway. Also, if there aren’t many ladies to approach in the bar, you won’t end up alone!
If none of your buddies are willing to act as a wingman for you, you can even hire a professional one. Many dating coaches, both male and female, offer this service to help their clients get more success with women.
While picking women in the club scene, getting a little drunk may be tempting. Many guys think that alcohol can give them more courage to approach women. Instead, too many drinks can actually harm your chances of seducing beautiful ladies.
When you’re drunk, you may come on too strong, causing the woman you like to reject you. This doesn’t help at all to create attraction! Additionally, you won’t have sexy body language at all.
Have a low-alcohol drink before starting to approach women if you need to boost your confidence a little. Then, abstain for the rest of the night.
Picking up women at a club can be easy and fun. So start planning a night out ASAP to use these techniques!