10 Signs That Older Single Women Are Interested In You


10 Signs That Older Single Women Are Interested In You - headerHaving older single women attracted to younger men is very common in the dating scene. Numerous good reasons exist for why young men become the target of older single women, often referred to as 'cougars.' Many older single women above their 40's may become less sexually active during their later years, or feel disenchanted after previously failed marriages.

Older single women often seek young males in an effort to relive their own youthful spirit, with their high energy and thrill-seeking attitude that may have disappeared during their 30-40's.

10 Signs That Older Single Women Are Interested In You

Regardless of why this occurs, there are numerous tell-tale signs to know if older single women are flirting with you. Below is a list of the 10 most common signs older single women are interested in you with additional detail from the video above.

Older Single Women Avoid Other Young Guys and Only Flirt with You

This is a very common scenario when it comes to older single women seeking the attention of a young male. They may not even realize it, but very often their undivided attention towards you subconsciously diverts attention away from other people.

Their investment in your charm and good looks detracts any other men from having a chance; even if she doesn't notice it, you certainly will. If you feel like you could use a little help developing your charm there are a few great books out there to improve your success with older women.

Look for signs of regular interaction between you two and see where the conversations take you. If she is regularly chatting to you and asking questions about your day-to-day activities, or even more personal affairs, it's a very positive sign that she's interested in you.

This may seem difficult to pinpoint at first, as it varies greatly between person-to-person, along with the fact that older single women may be more hesitant than their younger counterparts. This is rarely a personal offense against the person they're interested in, but more due to potentially bad past experiences or insecurities.

Older single women may also find the overall situation uncomfortable and potentially fear the backlash from friends or co-workers around them. Pay attention to those brief periods of interaction in less busy scenarios, and compare them to how they talk to men similar to your age.

She checks out your profile or messages you

More and more older women, especially the more attractive single women, are avoiding the typical spots you meet them and looking online. These are busy women who don't have the time to spend in bars and clubs every week. If you want to make the most of your time and money you need to be online as well!

We have had a lot of success meeting older women online, especially on eHarmony (which you can try for free here). Every year we rank and review all the best sites to meet older women and they have been the best for several years. You can see our full review of the top sites HERE.

We have not found an easier way to meet a lot of single older women and it is very easy for them to show their interest. Any time a woman views your profile or messages it is time for you to take the initiative. Write them a quick message and get the conversation started. You have absolutely nothing to lose!

She Finds Excuses to Casually Bump Into You

This blends in well with the first point, as the two correlate quite well together. While analyzing the periods of conversation between you two, consider how these interactions occur in the first place.

If it's at a place of work, they may simply be chance encounters that happen during their day-to-day work tasks. However, if you begin to notice patterns of when they turn up, then consider that a potential clue.

If these interactions occur outside of the work environment, then take extra consideration in weighing up the possibilities. The advent of social media like Facebook and Twitter has drastically changed the landscape of how people meet and interact, although similar rules and signs of interest still overlap into the digital domain.

Transfer the traditional methods of conversation, including the quality of conversations and how frequently they occur, onto platforms like Facebook or Twitter. How frequently do they message you? What are the usual topics of conversation? Do they seem invested in your interests and what you have to say? These aspects are worth taking into consideration, and can even be analyzed by how many statuses or photos of yours they 'Like' or 'Favorite.'

As previously mentioned, older single women may be more hesitant to this approach, since their social media presence is open to their accepted friends and family members, so the signs may be less obvious. However, the potential for regular chat conversations or direct messages can occur, without them risking their reputation to close friends or colleagues.

Older Single Women May Seek Approval From You

This trait carries over to most older single women who seek the attention of other guys, regardless of the age difference between them. That makes it all the more relevant for younger men to take notice of, since these universal traits of attraction often seem so obvious or 'implied,' that they may miss it regardless of how are they may be.

Older single women might often quiz younger guys on their choice of perfume, apparel or hair style, in order to gauge how relevant their tastes are compared to younger generations. Sometimes this will simply be an aspect of curiosity and nothing more, as it is very common for older single women to stay up-to-date with current fashion trends or styles, without any desire for a relationship among younger men.

However, men should take note if the frequency of approval regularly has to come from them, and the older single women don't ask other guys as well. This is a sign that they take your opinion very seriously and are influenced by the styles and personal traits that you seek, in an attempt to match them.

She Regularly Offers Assistance

Older single women who seek out to help younger guys will quite often take special interest in their needs and problems. An aspect of natural motherly experience may be a result of this behavior, particularly if their children have graduated from college or moved out of home, they might simply have more free time on their hands.

Whether they're a neighbor, associate, friend or colleague, a tell-tale sign to figure out if they're interested in you, is if they seek out your problems even without you directly telling them. Referring back to points-of-conversations and how they occur, if they're regularly asking you about day-to-day issues or problems and eagerly offering solutions, their investment may be more than just passing the time.

Older Single Women Might Outright Say It!

As bizarre as this may seem, older single women who are more confident with themselves and open to others, might even admit in casual conversation that they find younger men attractive. The concept itself is certainly a no-brainer to many, but those expecting older single women to always be reserved about their preferences, might be surprised by such a public statement.

If other factors of the relationship between you two match, an off-hand comment such as this could just be the final clue you need to seal the deal.

Context is important when judging whether this statement should be taken at face-value or not. A jovial conversation between her close friends or work colleagues may simply be a fun topic to fantasize over, without actually seriously considering such a commitment.

If they say it directly to you in personal conversation, depending on their personality, they may be openly honest or try to hide it simply as jest. If they begin to blush or become defensive in a friendly manner, then the amount of truth behind that statement could be greater than initially expected.

She Often Seeks to Be Alone With You

If you've become personally acquainted with an older single women for an extended period of time, a great friendship and bonding experience has probably flourished between you two. Friendships like this benefit from time away from co-workers, friends or other colleagues, particularly if you've gotten to know each other pretty well. You can assume that if she wants to meet in person after talking online, especially if it was on one of our Top Cougar Dating Sites, that she has a legitimate interest in you.

This may be as simple as having lunch together on work breaks (away from other people), offering or receiving lifts to/from work, regular private conversations on social media or other miscellaneous opportunities to spend time together. The deciding factor between romantic prosperity and long-last friendships can be difficult to interpret for younger men.

This depends greatly on the context of each situation and just how invested they are in you as a person, with other deciding factors in place such as subtle flirting, seeking approval (and any changes from the resulting responses they receive) and offering assistance.

However, when it comes to being invited over to their place (or vice versa) for dinner or to hang out, especially if it becomes a regular occurrence, pinpoints that they feel comfortable around you in environments that are familiar to them (or that they're open to exploring your environment).

This kind of openness and acceptance can be difficult for older single women hesitant about approaching younger guys, so when this scenario does begin to occur, its an extremely likely case that they want you to be a part of their life, more-so than just as a friendship.

See How Older Single Women Respond to Casual Comments

Simple conversation starters or comments about current activities/work tasks can provide a great point-of-interest among the opposite sex. Finding out about related topics between one another is a great way to gauge how they respond.

If you're at work and make a comment about a rude customer or inconvenient technical issue, they may respond in-kind with agreeable statements such as 'I know exactly what you mean!' or 'I've never thought of it that way.' These kind of detailed responses are encouraging for her since it establishes interaction with you, without her necessarily reaching out to you to start a conversation.

Finding relatable topics to discuss are a great starting point for young men to see how older single women respond. If you receive disinterested, lackluster remarks or very brief statements, they may not be interested in you. On the flip-side though, they may be busy with other commitments or work priorities that distract them from engaging in conversation.

So it is not always accurate to gauge someone's interest simply based off a few brief conversations, seeing how the results pan out over an extended period way will provide an accurate representation of whether an older woman likes you or not.

They Repeat Words or Phrases You Use

Everyone has their own style of conversation or unique comments/phrases that they naturally say. This may be simply making short, pop-culture references that you two can relate towards, teasing comments about other people or perhaps even 'in-jokes' that you've both developed together (a very strong sign that they're interested in you).

This kind of playful conversation may not occur as frequently among older single women, but testing to see whether that kind of interaction can occur is worth figuring out.

If you both have phrases or comments that become commonplace among your vocabulary, take note when she starts to employ your phrases towards you or (even better) other people. This establishes a unique personality trait or aspect that they've accepted into their own vocabulary or body language. Mimicking or imitating other people can be done jokingly or in jest, but often it can occur through admiration or respect for them, particularly if it flows naturally or becomes commonly used by you.

Older single  women who take influence from your words and actions may be subconsciously asserting their affection for you, through subtle measures that even other people might not instantly realize. Depending on the context of the situations that arise, older single women who repeat words or phrases by younger men is a good sign they're interested.

Look For Traditional Signs of Affection From Older Single Women

Aside from the information specific to characteristics older single women may present, some good old fashioned tell-tale signs are universal between all older single women, regardless of age boundaries. Look for familiar signs when having conversations with you, including actions such as playing with their hair, seeking extra attention from you, sitting closely next to you or even biting their lip.

While cliché to many, these traits are still prevalent throughout people's daily activities and are still common actions that go unnoticed!

Eye Contact

Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of conversation between people, it's so obvious to many and is universally recognized as good conversation manners, yet it still needs to be said. Judging by how older single women maintain eye contact is one of many first signs for deciding if they're interested in you or not. In the context of great conversations, good eye contact certifies interest in the other person and commands a high level of investment within them.

Men who are unsure if an older woman is interested in them, should always keep this tip in the back of their mind, within the context of weighing up all the other aspects mentioned in this article.

By utilizing all these hints and tips provided here, man can understand common personality traits and characteristics older single women exhibit when expressing interest. Generally, they will be less upfront than their younger counterparts and may come across as more preserved.

With enough patience and allowing natural progressions to flow easily, younger men can consider these rules when trying to figure out if an older woman is attracted to you. By letting natural conversations and events occur, the chances of appealing to an older woman may not seem as difficult as first expected.

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  • Mike

    Great article, here are the signs that I use to find out if an older woman is attracted to me:
    She ignores the men of her own age and talks to me instead
    She wears frisky close when we hang out or go for business lunch
    She often talks about sex or about her sexual experience and desires
    She makes sexual jokes or even hints that she wants to take me home

  • Terry

    I wish to find one women in my life

  • Maria Hernandez

    Thanks for the article. It was very well done, well thought out, and explained perfectly and clearly.

  • Anonymous

    American women are often too up tight about sex. Their foreign counterparts are much more at ease in the same setting, People usually don't wish to be taken fore granted. Other factors that cause people to hesitate are, diseases, personal hygiene, assumptions that should have been discussed earlier, acting like a person you are not. Trust and understanding help !

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