There’s no better way to get to know someone than by asking questions. But did you know that the questions to ask a guy you like can also pique his interest in you? If you want to not only get to know the man you’re interested in but build an attraction between you, knowing what to say — and how to say it — is half the battle.
The key to a good question is interest. There’s no point in asking a question if you have no real interest in the answer. So don’t ask him who his favorite NFL team is if you dislike football. No matter what question you ask, you need to be able to respond intelligently to his answer if you want the conversation to flow naturally.
It’s also important not to ask one question after another. Remember, these should be worked into a conversation casually and not asked all at once. You don’t want to sound like you’re conducting an interview by firing questions at him.
If you’re not sure about what questions to ask a guy, we’ve got your back. We have seven questions that will not only help you get to know the man you’re interested in better, but these are questions he’ll actually enjoy answering as well. Some are serious and some are more fun, but all of them will offer you the results you want — a deeper connection with him.
The Top Questions to Ask a Guy You Like
Here are seven of the best questions you can ask to take things to the next level:
1. What are you passionate about? What do you love to do?
Unless the fellow you’re into truly has no hobbies or interests — and that is pretty unlikely — this will definitely get him talking. Whether he’s into sports, books, cooking or traveling, he’ll enjoy telling you all about his passions. Even the shiest guy can talk about the things he's into!
If you share some of the same interests, you’ll be able to talk for hours. If you don’t appear to have much in common, ask a lot of follow up questions. Showing you’re interested in learning about what matters to him will not only make a really good impression, he’ll also be more apt to return the favor when you talk about something important to you.
2. If money were no object, what would your dream vacation be?
Most men have at least a few places they’ve always wanted to visit, so this is a pretty good question to ask a guy you like. Not only do you get to learn more about what interests him, but it also gives him the chance to dream a bit.
This is a topic that could result in hours of conversation. You can talk about destinations where each of you would like to go or places you’ve already been to.
You can also learn more about what makes him tick. If he’s always wanted to go white water rafting, you’ll know he’s adventurous. Likewise, if his dream vacation is traveling to the U.K. to tour old castles, you’ll know he’s a history buff. And getting insight on the guy you like will help you think of even more topics of conversation to broach.
3. The question to ask a guy to give him a hint: What do you look for in a woman?
This is a great question to ask a guy you like when you want to get flirty. And trust us, if he’s into you, he will immediately start thinking about all of the things he likes about you. And that is a very, very good thing.
Flirting aside, this question can also give you valuable information about what he wants in a long-term mate. It can even help you determine how compatible you’d be. It can also reveal if he’s actually interested in getting serious. If his answers focus on being fun or physical and sexual characteristics, for instance, you’ll know he’s looking for a good time and nothing more.
If he says things like intelligence, loyalty, a good sense of humor or honesty, you’ll know that he's looking for a deeper connection.
4. What’s your favorite song? Who’s your favorite band or singer?
Music is known as the great unifier. It, quite simply, has the power to bring people together. It’s also a topic that can spark long conversations, especially if you discover you enjoy some of the same genres. Likewise, if your genres don't match, it's a great way to learn more about his favorite genre. Who knows, you might discover a great band that he loves but you've never heard of!
From discussing your favorite types of songs to your favorite bands, this is a conversation that can go on for hours. It can even lead to a bunch of new questions to ask a guy such as “what’s your favorite album to listen to when you’ve had a bad day?” “What songs do you sing in the shower?” or “What music do you listen to when you want to relax?” If things get steamy, you can even ask him what music gets him in the mood.
You can also use this question to get him to share some of his favorite Spotify playlists. That way, whenever he listens to a song from your list, he might start thinking about you.
5. What’s your favorite movie? What’s your favorite TV show?
Men enjoy sharing their interests with the opposite sex so, just like music, movies and television are easy to talk about with your crush.
In fact, movies and television are topics that can help you form a bond with the guy you like, especially if you share some favorites. If your tastes in entertainment align, not only can movies and TV lead to more discussion, they may just lead to a few dinner and movie dates. As with music, if your tastes don't align, you can learn more about the movies and TV shows he's into. You can even exchange recommendations, and that will definitely give you more to talk about.
6. Here’s a tricky question to ask a guy you like: Who or what inspires you?
Designed to make him think, this question, although serious, will increase the intimacy between you. If he’s ready to share with you what has helped shape him to become the man he is today, you’ll know he’s into you on more than a physical level.
If he laughs off the question, it’s a pretty good sign he’s either not very deep or that he’s not looking for an emotional connection. Chances are he’s more interested in getting physical. Because this is a pretty deep question, you should probably save it until at least the third date.
7. What is your idea of a perfect first date?
Speaking of dating, if you want to get him thinking about asking you out on your first date, this is the perfect question to ask. It gives him the green light to talk about what he’d like to do with you. He might even bounce some ideas off of you to ensure he’s taking you somewhere you’d enjoy.
It also gives you a good idea of who he is. If he’s a romantic sort he might talk about a moonlight stroll on the beach whereas. But if he’s high-energy, he might suggest hiking. Either way, you’ll know what to expect when he does ask you out.
Knowing some great questions to ask the guy you like is a great idea, especially for those times when you’ve run out of things to say. Keep these questions in mind so you can avoid any awkward silences while you’re in the getting-to-know-you stage.
We’re willing to bet that asking one of these questions will get the conversation rolling again. It can also lead to more questions and a smooth back and forth conversation.