No matter what city you live in there are going to be spots where being able to meet a cougar is MUCH easier than others. Whether you’re looking online or in person, there are a lot of places to choose from and we have tried them all.
In this article, I’m going to cover some of my favorite locals that I have had the most success with. These are places where you will not only find a larger than normal number of single cougars but are also good places to actually talk to them. It doesn’t do anyone any good if there are tons of women there but no opportunity for you to connect right?
Let us know in the comments if we’ve missed any you’ve had success with.
Our Proven Places To Meet a Cougar
If you’ve been struggling to meet a single cougar in your town, that’s okay — you’ve just been looking in the wrong places. Let’s jump straight in and look at where you can find them in any city.
If you’re looking to improve your game overall, head over and check out our full video dating course on meeting and attracting cougars as well. It teaches the ins and outs of how to meet a cougar and how to get her attracted to you, all in a fantastic format.
Cougar Life (which you can try for free) is the easiest way to meet a cougar we have found
Online dating is so easily accessible to everyone. Most of us have at least a laptop, smartphone and some fast WiFi at home, right? So it should come as no surprise that most have tried online dating at least once.
Cougars are no exception to this either. For some reason, we tend to see older women as being less promiscuous or less sexual in general. In my experience though, it’s quite the opposite. Single older women often know what they want and they don’t mind making that known.
This makes cougars a lot of fun to be around, both online and at the bar. They’re so common on dating websites that dedicated cougar sites have gained a lot of popularity but Cougar Life is by far the best there is right now (especially for younger guys intersted in meeting cougars).
Cougar Life is the top dating site for the cougar-dating scene and we would know, every year we do a complete review of the best cougar dating sites available and Cougar Life continues to set themselves apart.
When reviewing Cougar Life, we noticed a plethora of real older women, a great user interface and fantastic value. If you’re looking for a cougar in your area, the easiest and most sure way is to just hop on Cougar Life and create your free trial account today.
Cougars have so litle free time between career, hobbies, family, etc. that the need a quick and easy method for meeting guys. They can’t spend a lot of time in bars or clubs so they have been using dating sites more and more often these days.
If you are not online you are missing out.
Age-appropriate bars and clubs
Every city has a collection of clubs aimed at the 21-year old crowd. Obviously, it’s rare that you’ll meet a cougar there.
Equally common though are the clubs that lean toward older music and an older crowd. This is where you’re going to find them. In case you haven’t noticed, older women love to spend some time on the dance floor. Even better, they’ll usually have some friends with them as well.
If you’re up for some dancing or 90’s music, this is going to be the best place for you to hang out.
For a more specific list of options in your city, have a look around on our site — we’ve probably covered your city specifically. For example, if you live in New York, check out our top locations for cougars in New York.
Adult FriendFinder is great if you only want to meet a cougar for some short-term (or one night) fun
There are a lot of hookup apps out there that claim to be able to connect you with single women looking for some short-term fun. In our extensive experience and research, there are really only two apps that can actually deliver on their promises: those are Adult FriendFinder and Tinder.
When you are looking at a hookup app to determine if it is worth your time there are a few things that are absolutely critical to success:
- Quality of the users – How attractive are the people using this app compared to what else we see on the market
- Quantity of the users – Are there a large number of women using the app to maximize our chances of hooking up. We are talking millions of users, not hundreds.
- Ease of hooking up – Does the app actually make it easier to meet other people or is it a pain in the ass
- Location – An app that only works in New York City or London is pretty much worthless for 99% of people. We focus on apps and sites that have a long reach.
- Free Trial – A hookup app with a free trial is a great sign (links below to free trials)
Adult FriendFinder has been WAY better when it comes to meeting cougars. They have been around a decade longer than Tinder, have over 90,000,000 active members around the world, and attract a lot more women in their 30’s and 40’s. If you are only interested in cougars they are going to be the apps you need to try.
Nicer grocery stores (ones with good produce)
One of our secret spots where we have had a lot of success meeting cougars are the nicer grocery stores in the area. These are the ones with high-quality fruits and vegetables (think organic) and a good selection of other “natural” foods. If you have not been spending a little time in these stores you are missing out on a lot of yoga pants wearing cougars.
The best place to strike up a conversation is going to be in the produce section of these stores. This is where you will find a lot of women slowly walking around looking at the various fruits and vegetables. It is really easy to walk up to them and ask them a simple question to get the conversation going like “do you know how to tell if these banana’s are ripe”? You don’t have to be a genius to do this.
High-end bars are another great place to meet cougars. There’s a certain vibe and crowd that will frequent these places and it makes conversation easy.
The music isn’t deafening so you can actually hear each other and there’s no shortage of things to talk about. It’s also an opportunity for you to dress up and show her that you have some class and culture.
Be careful that you don’t misrepresent yourself though. If you show up and try to do your best James Bond impression, it’s not going to end too well.
If the bar you’re at happens to have a small dance floor there too, I’d suggest hanging out nearby. As I mentioned in my previous point, cougars love to dance. If that’s your thing too, wait until you see someone you’re interested in and go show off your moves. She’ll soon let you know if she’s interested.
Food and wine festivals
With mature women comes a taste for the finer things. Where there’s good food and quality wine, there will be older women, guaranteed.
Not all of them will be single of course. Lucky for you though, they know how to project that single vibe. All you have to do is show up, enjoy the fine food and wine and be social. Before long you’ll find yourself talking to an older woman that seems very friendly… what happens from there is up to you.
Of course, bonus points are on offer if you actually know your high-end food and wine. If you don’t, humor is always my fallback here.
The last cougar that I dated sold high-end art for a living — something I know literally nothing about. I made that clear from the beginning before pretending (in jest) to know all about it whenever the topic came up. It’s silly and amusing and plays down the difference between us thankfully.
Live music venues are great for meeting cougars
Depending on your taste in music, live performances can be a fantastic way to meet older women. Obviously, steer clear of hard EDM. Country music or bands from their era tend to be your best choices.
There a couple of reasons I like this option so much, particularly if you’re kind of new to all of this. First off, if you pick events where you enjoy the music, you’re going to have a good time no matter what.
Second, a lot of cougars will show up to this type of event. Often with their cougar friends. They’re there to have a good time together and don’t mind having a few drinks. Quite often they’re very flirty and high energy which makes everything so much easier.
The third reason I’m a fan of live music events for meeting cougars is the ease of conversation. You have an absolute abundance of topics to choose from in your immediate vicinity. At the very least you can people watch together or talk about the performers on stage.
Failing that, ask them what their plan is for the night. If things go well enough, you just might land yourself with an invitation to their post-concert plans.
Remember though, it’s important that you choose events that you’re actually going to enjoy. If you can’t stand the sound of Shania Twain, don’t go buying tickets just to chase older women. No matter how good your poker face is, the fact that you aren’t enjoying it will be obvious.
If you’re like most guys, you’re probably rolling your eyes at this one and that’s okay. 12 months ago I probably would have too. The thing is, if you choose the right classes, yoga can be a great workout for all types.
It’s also predominantly women in great shape that will attend. There is some etiquette involved so do your research and don’t go chatting mid-class.
Your first few times, stick with the beginner classes while you figure things out. They’re going to walk you through everything so you don’t feel out of place. You’re also going to be surrounded by women who are also new to yoga.
This makes for a great topic of conversation and a good excuse to get to know each other. You both share some common ground so starting a conversation can be as simple as “Well that was nothing like I expected!”
Chances are, she’s going to respond with something like “Oh it was your first time too?”. Now that you have an open dialogue the rest is up to you.
So these are my preferred places to meet cougars in 2019, do you have any you think I’ve missed?
These are easy locations where you should be able to meet a cougar and conversation shouldn’t be a struggle. If you’re a little unsure about how to talk to older women though, we’ve got you covered. Our seven steps to learning how to talk to older women will put you in the right frame of mind.
I also wrote about what to talk about on dates for a more specific list of topics you can use. It’s great to have this knowledge in the back of your mind as well. Go ahead and check them out — you’ll be primed and ready to go in no time!